Do women cause complications because they have an emotional thinking process?

Hi Kalav56, Its because women have more things to think about in their heads then men, men can only think one thing at a time, that is why men cannot understand women. Tamara

Hi Kala, we women stay at home so we have those differences related to home based issues. The number of members at home is limited, so the time devoted to each person is more, increasing the probability of such differences. If we were in worksphere, such differences would automatically be reduced, and the higher up we go in our careers, lesser is the time available for such squabbles. Cooking these days is not a big issue. So when our minds are free, we are bound to spend it on thinking things such as respect, disrespect, financial security, emotional security, physical security, etc. By the way, men have differences. They are constantly grumbling against their colleagues, friends, superiors, juniors, even shopkeepers. LOL. Just that they dont get to spend much time in the company of possible adversaries. :)

I know men that are like that too. But, mostly we women are not difficult thinkers. Because we do everything (almost) instinctively. We don't need to know where the milk comes from, it is there and we use it. A man always wants to know the little details. (the milk is an example) When I need to find something, I just do it. My BF starts analyzing every best way to do something. When I fix something in the house, I just do it. I can't explain how, I just do it. hahaha! My BF does not understand this. I don't understand why he always has to make a big deal of everything. Our Copy Machine was broken, I was not allowed to touch it, very sensitive stuff. So, he couldn't fix it and was ready to throw it out. When he was not there, I fixed it. Same with the computer. He does not understand it, but he seems to be starting to except it after 3 years. hahaha! I think men are more complicated.

kalav that is such a bunch of stuff it makes me really upset. Ihave heard more talking than any bunch of women ever did among a groupof men. yak yak ya non stop. here in the US we do not live with mother-in-law, aunts, cousins,sister in laws, in one house to b egin with. there's an old saying here if you have more than three woman living in one house and using the kitchen you are asking for a world war. Of course a young wife does not like mother-in-law, aunt-in-law, sister-in=law telling her how she should do her own housekeeping, I would not either if I were her. Really men do a lot more talking and fussing in a group than any group of women ever thought to do. this is the male macho thing trying to make women look stupid and lowly objects of derision.Why on earth does this idiot man think we do not have brains, that we do not have a right to use them and to talk whenever we damned well please, this is ridiculous to me.if we seem complicated it is because men like that make such undeserved statements about us, and maybe they may lack the same amount of brains as we women might have. just being a man does not make him a mental giant.

Hi Kala, I think security and respect are two things that matter to us women. We attach either of these two to happenings withing our homes. By security i mean anything - financial, emotional, and physical. So when our security is threatened, we become alert. Likewise, if one of the family members is resorting to disrespecting us, it can lead to squabbles. Personally, I've been able to classify most of the squabbles to these two factors. Ironically, women want to be secure and respectful, by working hard as well as destroying the security and respect of the other! I've seen that at close quarters and I find it strange that women try for that numero uno position within the family with this type of behavior. Why do we behave like that? Men dont have differences? Are you kidding? They are constantly criticising their colleagues, superiors, juniors, friends, and even relatives. They also criticise government, and shopkeepers. They spend too much time with those criticisms to have any remaining for squabbles within the family.

emotional thinking process shows the pure heart of women,full of love,some what we fail to understand her feelings,as man is arrogant,practical,strong,and in this feast of furry,he tries to make her at his own terms, in this tustle women tries to cope with the situations,and emotional disturbance starts!then it becomes a complication!as she starts doing what she is not and omit what she is!and ohhh..its even with man when he tries to act smart in front of his friends,society,this happens with everybody Dear friend!both are responsuible not only the girl!

I think this statement applies to both men and women, not just one gender. I know that I have a hard time trying to figure women out at times, though not all the time. It seems that some women have a hard time figuring me out too. I think better communication on both parts and more openness to share our feelings and opinions about different things would help ease complications, though not completely. I don't understand why when a woman wants me to call them and I call them, they do not answer or return my messages. Then they say I haven't heard from you in a while even though I have tried calling and got no response or she would say they are busy and will call me back and never do call me back. That is an example of me trying to figure women out. I always return messages, if I am not available to answer the phone.

I think not all women are the same. i am not complicated at all and if a guy , family member or not said that to me , I would stop talking to him. Obviously he doesn't respect my viwpoint so why waste my breath?

Comparatively there are many other rather nice characteristics that men possess and which women do not. Men are not petty. Women are. Men are able to sieve out more important issues from the trivial and to do this without any difficulty. Women are not so selective and tend to make the most trivial issue a big one. This can be very off putting. Women can be very annoyingly fussy and repetitive. I think all women are the same everywhere. I hope I will be an adoring mother-in-law and will not create any bad blood with my future DIL. In my family of 5 boys and 5 girls, we girls are the most fussy and always show our authoritarian characters much to the annoyance of my 5 brothers who only watch helplessly.

This is a question that men and women have been asking for 1000s of years. Most men block their feelings (and I include myself in this). It is an automatic response to any form of mental or physical pain. We tend to put on a brave face and look stronger than we really feel inside. Most women I know openly express their feelings. As a therapist, I can easily understand what they are saying and it is quite straightforward to me, but before I did my training as a therapist, I could never fathom out any of my three sisters. Because of this training, if ever there are family arguments I will go and talk to my sisters and can nearly always straighten everything out. So, from my observations, before I knew much about psychology, I didn't have the emotional intelligence that is necessary to understand why a peson should become emotional, if I myself couldn't feel anything because it was so well repressed in my because of my childhood conditioning. If you can understand what I'm trying to say here!! _Derek

Hi kala, I would agree with the men folk to a certain extent. Women are biologically different and we think from our heart whereas most men think from their head. we tend to get emotional when there are adversities, but thats how nature made us, and, since we put up with the cut and dry methods of menfolk, they too will have to do so with our emotional outbursts if any....hope you are enjoying your Sunday kala

Well, I've noticed that too. When having conversation with women they are way more emotional than men. They laugh harder and cry louder, they accept everything in a more amplified way, than men do. That's my view, based on my experiences, sorry if I've offended ladies around there with that.

this in fact is so true. women cause complications because of their emotions. however as much true as this is the fact that this same emotional sensitivity and being showy of women of their emotions are the very same reasons why a lot of relationships are also saved. women's emotions (positive ones that is) saves relationships more than it damages it.

I rarely admit it in fornt of my hubby but yes I would like to say that women do cause a lot of complications. It maybe coz of their nature also as they are quite emotional. Men on the other hand would ignore these small things but women yes they would notice all these small things and make it into a mountain. I used to get upset at the drop of a hat earlier but after my hubby tried to explain things to me I have become quite diplomatic and tend to not flare up then and there and become bad in front of people but keep my cool and make the other person look bad and if possible ignore the person in future.

i think its all about the gaps that communication causes. Women are really emotional, its in their nature, but conflicts can be legated if just--we talk over them.

The men in any house will say anything they can get by with. It is our job to challenge their silly nonsense, lol. I think there is indeed more of what we here call "catty" behavior among women, especially when they are competing for the attention of some man. But I also think this is something that men encourage...like female mud wrestling. But more men kill. So isn't that a feud? More men get into fist fights. Isn't that a feud. More men are insanely jealous. Isn't jealousy an emotion? How can women have too much time to think. Most women do two or three times more work than most men. Our work is simply not valued the same, but where would the world be without it? Some men do not think it is work to bear a child. What do you think?

Hey kalav! I hate to admit it, but I do think that women do cause complications because of their emotional thinking! I know that I hate that men know this, but we do seem to complicate things more than they do because we tend to think more with our "emotions"! When women go up against women something seems to happen! Be it jealousy or just plain differences in thinking it always seems to end in a bad way! I don't think that there is a good way to explain it, but it is very difficult to have women agreeing, especially when it comes to family situations! So, we just have to do the best that we can to try to work things out and not let the men see that we are having too much difficulties!

Women do seem to have another ‘layer’ if you like, that men do not, or at least they keep it deep within. We (women) think with our brains and we think with our hearts. We can ‘read between the lines’ and look deeper into things. These qualities are valuable in women but can sometimes complicate otherwise simple situations because we think with our hearts and we fear being hurt so we overreact sometimes. Men fear being hurt too but they tend to push emotions to the back burner and get on with practicalities. Females rely on their instincts a lot more and are usually not mechanically minded, they don’t always need to know ‘why’, they just ‘do’. Personally I am happy with my ‘layers’ and I have learnt over the years not to over analyse and live and let live a little more and see things as they are instead of looking for hidden emotional meaning into everything.

The Characteristics of every one is natural. It is a war of "who is who" is in charge, but everybody knows that elders are supreme than the young ones that is the law of nature, but only differ in individuality of the person with great wisdom and desire to make everything harmonious as possible they say that "patience is a virtue of the soul". If you caught in the situation try to reflect of this "peoples attitude is like a mirror of your image" "Don't look your character to others instead embrace, adopt and accept what they got in order to have harmonious relationship" "Don't go against the wave of the ocean" (you might got hurt)

Well i agree that a woman cause more complications. And they are very emotional and take things highly sensitive. And always between mother-in-law and daugher-in-law there are lots and lots of misunderstandings and fights. Its mainly coz of the possesive nature of a woman when compared to man. And usually most of the fights, they are also the reason!