How do you handle people who loves to argue?
By candyfairy21
@candyfairy21 (2039)
Philippines
March 13, 2010 8:31am CST
Hi fellas,
How do you handle people who loves to argue? I can say that I am pretty upset right now. My aunt likes to start conversations and then we end up getting upset with each other. Like right now we were talking about linking a paypal account with a credit card and she does not have any. I told her that credit card charges annual membership fees and the fees being charge depends on what card you have or your level of membership. she said no they charge depending on the rate of your salary. I corrected her about it but she tries to get away with it and makes me feel like i was wrong and stupid. she does this all the time even when she is completely wrong she will argue her way around. she has always this air of superiority about her that she is always right. Most of the time when she talks I just pretend I don't hear her because I don't like arguing with her. So how do you handle people like this?
5 responses
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
First of all I figure what started the poppycock. After determining that I will keep in mind to not repeat it. As this plan takes into effect the person would have no source to argue about and that's how I disable the whole issue from beginning. Better yet, I would try as much as I can to avoid the person and hope that he gets my message that I wouldn't bite in and let him start an argument.
@nekonette (28)
• Brunei Darussalam
14 Mar 10
People who love to argue are sometimes people who don't want to admit they're wrong and try to justify their reasons with argument. But sometimes, there are also people who like to show-off their knowledge so they always try to get people to argue with them. Anyway, sometimes it is best to simply ignore them. The more you argue, the more they will hit you.
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
14 Mar 10
Too be honest I would just say what I thought was right and try to get the argument to stop because arguments are usually a pretty big waste of time and can put you into a bad mood for a pretty long time sometimes. A lot of people argue for the attention or just because they want or have to be right. I've started to notice recently that people that aren't really comfortable with silence will blurt out whatever comes to their head to escape it.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
I ignore them most of the times if they keep arguing then it their choice they are happy in having a debates as long as it is for fun and for right reasoning that would not lead to physical it is better as the exercise of freedom with each other in terms of exercising logical thinking is better than none at all as long as it is for reasoning and not to despise one another. if the kind of arguments is used to embarrass me or the other people around I am going to confront her and ask her deeper reasons then if she would not explain well. it only mean she is up for more than arguments which may cause by jealousy or insecurities. Or just for the sake of delaying tactics and wrong reasoning then it is up fo me to tolerate it as long as I could but when it becomes too much then I would fight for my rights if the situation get worst rather than run away from it I would be willing to argue to depend my rights as long as i know i am right..
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
14 Mar 10
I ignore peoples around me who are always ready to argue with their silly logic just to make sure that they win the argument. I will argue with the people when there is some allegation on me and that require to argue because if I do not do that it will harm me. I do discuss things with our team mates but that is not argument, thats a healthy discussion which will have some results at the end of the discussion. There are people always ready to argue with you but I am not.
In personnel life I do not argue as long its an absolute need because if you win the arguement, you loose the person.
I choose not to loose the person.