How the other half live!

@pandaeyes (2065)
March 13, 2010 12:03pm CST
Ever hear the phrase 'How the other half live'? It usually means how differently people with a lot of money live their lives but could equally well mean people with less money. Do you consider yourself to be in the rich half of society looking at the poor half, or in the poor half of society looking at the rich half. For myself, I think we are in the rich half because we have everything we need and can have luxuries like hobbies and holidays. How do you see yourself?
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13 Mar 10
I guess I would fall into the poor side hun. I'm on minimum benefits and my partner is in a low income job. We are struggling to pay the basic bills every month and trying to pay for our wedding in May. At least we still have a roof over our heads (well at least for this month, the mortgage is due again soon) and we have food in the cupboard. I think we should all stop and count our blessings sometimes
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
14 Mar 10
Recycledgoth, when I was married we didn't have any money for a "real" wedding but figured the whole point of it was to share our happiness with those we cared about. So we were married by a minister in our backyard with close friends as witnesses and the next day held a reception in the yard. It cost us all of $150 because most of our close friends brought food and drinks as their wedding gifts, allowing us the memories and fun without the costs. You should consider something like that, I can't imagine a nicer wedding/reception than I had and we didn't begin our married life in debt for a wedding. Whatever you do, I hope your wedding is wonderful!
@pandaeyes (2065)
14 Mar 10
Yes we should. My husbands wages are reasonable I think for the job he does. It isn't an enormous amount but we manage fine because we are willing to not have everything now. When friends bought a house years ago, I was rather shocked to see that they had bought everything brand new. All their furniture,bedding and even plants in the garden were bought as soon as they moved in. I think people are sometimes unrealistic about how far their income 'should' stretch.
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@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 10
wherever i am, i just glad to what God had given to me. sometime i think about them too, having good holiday and luxuries, but that would kind a boring if this life just filled with fun and fun ,right? problems make our life more fun. that what i called life.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
13 Mar 10
I think that I am in the middle. I cannot be classified as rich neither in the poor category. I have a salary at the end of the month which pay my bills, my mortgage, my electricity bill, my telephone, internet, mobile bill but I also end up with little or no money to spend. So while I have good food on the table, therefore I cannot be considered as poor, I don't have the luxury to go for a holiday when I desire. Not that I have not travelled. But I don;'t have money to waste.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
14 Mar 10
I do agree with you. Sometimes rich people are greedy and do not know how to enjoy life. So yes we can be considered rich in a way!
@pandaeyes (2065)
14 Mar 10
You can cover the essentials easily. We do too. I think not all holidays are expensive and not all hobbies are either. It's all about being creative. I would rather have our life than many a richer person's that I have seen from time to time.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
14 Mar 10
Hi pandaeyes, Well, I think that the homeless and starving would maybe look at me like the other side but I don't think most would. I do have a roof over my head but I work real hard and struggle to keep it each month. Our holidays are fun for sure but we don't do much in the way of exchanging gifts. The main luxury that we have is this computer and the internet. I'm not complaining because I know I'm lucky in comparison to so many others but it would be a real stretch to call myself rich for sure. Now if you were talking about the quality of life then in that aspect I am extremely rich. I have 4 beautiful girls, 2 grandchildren and many great friends.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
14 Mar 10
Its all about our viewing angle. Some would see my life as quite dull and poor but I don't and I know many other people wouldn't either. My sister in law for example ,having had a very affluent childhood, could not cope with her average income and she and her husband struggled for a long time to try to live up to her standards. The husband eventually got tired of it and they divorced. I was quite tired of it myself as she was always talking about how her children had nothing . The have been to several foreign countries on holidays,had expensive presents and new clothes so I don't think she was really being realistic. In her eyes her children were on the edge of poverty but you see, she used to be a child of the 'other half' and now is with the majority of people on middle income in an average world.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
13 Mar 10
I am definitely the rich half. I don't have a lot of money to spare but I can pay my bills, I'm not deeply in debt and I don't have to worry about food for myself and my dogs. While I can't afford luxuries like going to the movies or new clothing, I have more than a lot of people and I consider myself well off.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
14 Mar 10
I really wonder how many of the people you see in the shops buying expensive things, actually own the money they are spending. So many seem to rely on credit these days and then find themselves in debt for many years.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
17 Mar 10
That sounds like a good plan. I have the tightwad gazette book which has quite a lot of advice about living withing your means. I like all that sort of thing and for me it isn't that difficult to follow as we always had very little money in my childhood. I think my life now is luxurious and yet some of our relatives would balk at the idea of 'economising'. My husband will say things like, really rich people don't have to worry about money and savings and things and I will say , you don't know any really rich people then because they are the ones who care the most about remaining rich .
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
15 Mar 10
If I am being completely honest, I think that we are in the rich half of society because all of our basic needs are met and there is a light at the end of the tunnel for our family that we will one day be out of debt. I think that the way that a lot of people view themselves is skewed because it is ingrained into us that we should want the best of everything, but my husband and I are quite modest and we are happy with what we are able to afford knowing that we can provide for some luxuries for our family.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
17 Mar 10
We were very lucky in that we could pay off our mortgage as my father in law left his children money. However,we had no idea that he would be able to and so we always looked at it that we must keep debts to a minimum. To me that is just ordinary budgeting but hubby finds it quite hard not to go and buy when he wants to. I don't really see that as a 'rich mans' way of thinking, it is extravagance. He has got much better at controlling his spending urges over the years though and when he has a lapse, thankfully it is not anything drastic like cars or holidays. We are the other half to everybody because those who consider themselves 'middle class' see us as 'having ' to think about money and so not equal with them but those who are poorer see us as 'being able ' to think about money and so not equal to them either.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
13 Mar 10
In the world there are many different countries. I live in a country in Europe which is modern but also has a rich history. It has most people living in brick built homes. I see myself as a professional person because I am a primary school teacher. Teachers don't earn all that much money. I am also the parent of three children. My toddler son is disabled. Traveling is my top hobby and I do it budget style. So far in my life I have visited fifty different countries. When I am very poor I grab a cheap flight and then stay in a backpackers hostel. I am not one of the rich people. I am closer to being one of the poor people. Most of the money I earn goes to my hobby which is traveling. I live in two bedroom terraced house. There are lots more people in my home country even poorer than I am. When I travel to some of the countries in the tropical regions of the world I must appear rich to them. Relatively speaking I guess that is true. Money doesn't make a person happy and some of the happiest people in the world are the poor ones living in a sunny country.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
14 Mar 10
I think your last statement sums it up. WE had a program on TV called the tribe. It was a group of people who lived on an island and lived simple lives ,who came to the UK to see how the modern English people lived. They got to see all walks of life from quite poor to very rich and I don't think they would have swapped their own lives for any single one of the peoples whom they met.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Mar 10
hi pandaeyes if having a small social security check and a little larger SSI check makes you rich, which I realy doubt, I am on the poor side of society, and no I am not able to have hob bies and holidays and toss money around so guess Iam also poor. I am having to live in this tiresome retirement home or go homeless as myson and I were living in a two bedroom apt. when he lost his job. We ran out of money and got behind on the rent, and snap evicted. my son got meput here with the help of all my two checks, oh they are so generous, i get to keep one hundred twenty five dollars for my personal needs.Just wallowing in wealthy oh my yipee, I am the newly poor rich. what a crock. I am poor, no use denying it.So yes sometimes I get bitter thinking about what I do not have, what I still need.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
14 Mar 10
Me too sometimes when I look at what people do with their piles of gold. I don't feel poor though. Our hols are mostly spent camping or a few days at a youth hostel but then there are people who don't ever go away anywhere so I think we are lucky. My parents were homeless when I was born so I feel like my life is very affluent now. Sorry things are not great for you at the moment.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
13 Mar 10
I would put myself in the poor half. That's because I often don't have enough time to do whatever it is I want to do. I want to continues studying, but I feel I'm way too old. I want to be around my kids more often, but I can't because I have to work. I want to travel with my family, but I can't because I have commitments. Therefore, if the other half lives differently because of the money they have that allows them more time for recreational things, then this way I consider myself poor.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
14 Mar 10
Yes you see wealth as also having time for leisure without compromising on income. I can see how that might look like riches and I guess it is really. My father in law used to take his children to the seaside for 6 weeks every summer. They stayed in their caravan and he continued to work (architect) on jobs in the caravan while the kids played on the beach. It sounds idyllic but I think it probably felt a bit like a bus mans holiday for him, because he still had to do exactly what he did at home except he had to cook too as their mum remained at home for a rest from her 5 kids.
@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
13 Mar 10
In terms of money, I am the poor half. In terms of knowledge, some material possessions, and some achievement, I am rich. And I thank God for all I have.
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@pandaeyes (2065)
14 Mar 10
That sounds like an excellent philosophy. Money certainly isn't the only kind of riches. We see ourselves in the same way I think .
14 Mar 10
Well I dont think its split equally, I also think it refers to people who are well off but have not earnt it, people with rich parents or lottery winners for example. Theres "poor" people in the west but to me sometimes its more of a lifestyle choice then the fact there hard done to. I think the question you should ask is are you happy? I used to have a high pressured job earning a lot of money, nice you say but I wasnt happy. I didnt have a social life, I barely saw my family and although the money was good its that old maxim whatever you have youll spend. So I made a change got a decent average paying job with lots more spare time and I am now a lot happier. I think the best examples the winners of the lottery theres a lot out there who's new found wealth has brought them misery. So as Monty Python sang Always look on the bright side of life".
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