Are you comfortable asking others for help?

Some time ago, I was fortunate enough to survive a farm tractor roll-over. I surprised myself by getting up off the ground, and walking half a mile home for lunch. I was never more thankful,and I remember each step, vividly. After lunch, neighbors from all around came en masse, to roll the tractor back on its wheels. Farm life is dangerously unpredictable, and Farmers are always ready to leave their own work, to pitch in to help a neighbor in need. Many Thanks to those Great Friends and Neighbors!

I don't mind to use or asking someone helps if there is something i can't do but they can do... In my country, the old man says "If feel shy to ask, you could be lost on the roads"... Anyway, that just the old man said...

I'm really not that comfortable asking people for help. I will occasionally but otherwise I try to shy away from asking them because I feel in some weird, round about way, that asking for help makes me weak and I hate being weak and not being able to handle things on my own. It takes a lot for me to break down and ask for help.

I find it incredibly hard to ask for help, having always tried to be completely independant. I will happily help out anyone who asks me, but when it comes to my asking, that's a whole new game. I know I can always count on my friends if I am in need, but I just can't bring myself to ask

Is hard for me to ask others for help ,and this is hard because I end up doing everything ,and it becomes too much for me to handle. I'm trying to learn to ask for help because is important to know that we all have limitations. Sometimes, because of pride we need to portray that we are very strong.

I'm one that usually gives help. People usually come to me to ask and get help. Like the man in my avatar I always want to help people. A few times, people have even said to me that I'm not superman, since I have been known to take more than I can juggle at times. I usually hate to ask for help. I hate to bother people. I like to handle everything myself. I can do it. But no I can't do everything. So my close friends just do things for me knowing that I probably will not ask for help.

I will only ask for help when I really need it I have always done everything myself if I can because my Ex Husband used to complain if I asked anything of him it would still not be done a week later so I would try doing it myself and most of the time I managed so I will not ask for help unless I really can't do it alone

i try very hard to go it alone. but these days i need help with a lot of things. its sad what my life has come to. when i think of all ive done for others that really dont want to help now it upsets me of course then there are others that want to help but just are not in the position to do so.

I am one of those people who reluctantly ask help from others. I am the kind who does not want to be bothered if the person asking can do it. But for those in need, I am willing to lend a helping hand if they really need it. I guess that's why I try my best to do a task and when I no longer can, that's the time when I would ask for help because I really need it.

I ask help from others, as a last recourse. If I did everything but still I come up to nothing, then I may ask help from people am close to or people I have done help before not that it's a sort of taking back at them what I'd given, it's that I feel they're the one who can understand the essence of helping each other when in need. The people whom I feel treated me not only as friend but as part of the family is the one am comfortable of asking help, maybe.

I'm sometimes both. When i feel so depressed I want to be alone looking at the nature God had given us. I don't know why but for me, seeing the Beautiful things around us makes me feel happy and it let me think less of the problem and more on the solution. but sometimes i ask for friends to help me. especially when i really need to let it out and find my self again. ^^

Not really very. I am a very independent person and as much as possible I try to avoid inconveniencing others. However, if worse comes to worst, I would never hesitate to seek for help. But in most cases, I try to do things my way and try to avoid causing others some trouble.

There's a saying "No man is an island", but for me not all the time need to ask help to other especially if our problem is very basic,meaning it can be solved by ourselves.Asking help to other is not bad,but we must do that in the right way...

Simple help such as know-how,doubts and verbal help (language,customer care etc etc) are fine to ask and seek others help. If it comes to cash or borrow one has to be very careful because they can lose their friendship , contacts or at times one can lose dignity . It depends on how necessary and needy he/she is and that only if the other person know how badly one needs help in cash problem. Whatever problem it may be one has to put themselfs at its best to solve it , if it's not possible then seek others As for me i never want to deal with asking "cash" help.

I might sound cynical, but my experience tells me that no matter how many people I’m surrounded with, there are actually only one or two, to whom I can turn to for support. Maybe I’m just not blessed or maybe I rub people the wrong way but this much I know that in times of need, I have only myself whom I can take for granted and my husband. Also, I feel that I’m compromising myself whenever I’m asking for help…not only am I sharing my weakness, I keeping myself obliged to the other person forever. And you know how people are…today everything might be OK and people are helping you but tomorrow the relations might become strained and the very same people might brag about how they bailed you out of a sticky situation…that is something which forever disturbs me. Also, I not comfortable with refusals…I’ve faced some in the past…people whom I’ve known for long and whom I’ve thought of as very helpful and friendly, have turned me down. I’m sure they must have had their own reasons but the fact is I am not comfortable in seeking help from others.

Hello pose......good question....... i must admit its always nice to have somebody around when making important decisions and also to have a shoulder to lean on when faced with the various set backs in personal or professional life.....But I now feel that people are becoming more and more self centered and hard hearted,and the world today at large seems to have changed a lot ,and has become more hostile in drastic contrast to what it was when I was a child....People are always busy and have no time for anything and very often if you ask a friend or even a family member for a favour there appears to be some hesitancy to help other people.....and the oft repeated excuse is that they have no time......Well I dont know if other people have felt so too.....???

I don't mind asking for help. I learned that asking for help not only helps you, but you can also help the one you're asking. Cause usually, you can learn together, specially if the one you're asking also doesn't know the question or something. this is usually what happens in our office, and it really helps to ask. you are also correct in saying that it helps us not to be overwhelmed with all our work, or even our life.

As far as I am concerned, I think I just like you do not want to ask others for help. I usually feel uncomfortable to ask others for help.I usually do as I can,except that I do not have the ability to do the thing by myself.Then I will ask my best friends ask for help.

Hello, I have a habit of solving my own problem. You may call this a pride, or a sense of dignity. But I am really selfish about sharing the joy of solving a problem with others. When I take the help of others to solve certain problem I don't feel elation. It is rather a sense of being grateful to somebody to help me out. I am little bit upright and stubborn person. Taking help from others is the last resort I seek for. But I also realize the fact that in reality there is no such problem that can be solved without taking help from at least one person. Even when I am troubled inside, I read some good books and take significant help of the author to calm me down. Directly or indirectly, consciously or unconsciously we are all dependent and will always be like that. God bless you all

im prefer to get help ...yes im comfortable asking others for help as long as he or she is my close friends or my relatives......just ask for assistance