can you forgive someone who did not say sorry?

I cant always just forgive someone because they say that their sorry but for me to be able to forgive someone I needthem to say the wrds and I need to be able to think and believe that they actually mean it. Forgiving and forgeting are two different things and I dont think people ever truly forget but forgivness is something that is posible and happens oftebn enough that it is probab`le.

I struggle with the same thing. I have had family members betray me and it has been awhile. Yes I have forgiven them but like you I can't forget. It doesn't consume me as time has moved on. I don't see them but I wish them well and pray for them. It is hard to mend a relationship when they are not willing. I have written letters to them and tried to move on and get past it. I think it is hard for them to say sorry and they are not ready to deal with that yet. It could be the same for your friend. They may want to but aren't ready to face you yet. We are so stubborn and think we have all of the time in the world. You could write that person a letter let them know you have forgiven them and leave the ball in there court. We can only do so much. I just keep praying and leave it up to God. You can send them a card a just let them know you are thinking of them. I feel like some of my relatives saying sorry is not easy it could be the same for your friend.

to err is human and to forgive is divine. all of us fall short of the glory of God.forgiveness is not a feeling. if we are going to rely on our feelings, we will take a long time to forgive, leaving alone to forget. forgiveness is mandatoty, its not easy and we have to cultivate this godly habit with the help of the HOLY SPIRIT. I forgive the person who hurts me there and then as i dont want to go around my daily life carrying these unnecessary baggages and luggages that i called. i feel light and a sudden pop in my heart, the instant i forgive. my burden heart is replace with joy, rest and peace. everynight before i go to sleep i pray and ask God to forgive me as i dont know who i may hurt unintentionally. i ask God to forgive me, i forgive myself and love ones and those who sinned against me. i keep my accounts very short. have a blessed day, eloveriz.( smile)

To be honest, there were many instances that I've encountered that I was to the point on asking myself why i cant forgive that person but not knowing as years gone by, I was able to do it though there were still bad memories builds inside my head when i saw the person. I know that we tend to use the word we are just humans, I really am not sure if we are just using that as an excuse. But now I was able to adjust and adopt the attitude to forgive a person who have sin against me. I am not saying that I may not do it again but for now I pray to God that he will strengthen my faith not to do it again. I hope as what God did to me up until now, I hope that God will touch yours and everyones life as well. God bless

We are forgiven the way we forgive others. I forgive everyone after a day. I easily forgive people. And it makes me feel better. That I am not angry at anyone.

this situation is somewhat complicated.. an this is because we actually become hungry for the sinners sorry and apologies.. the best way is that u better keep the sinner in a confused state of mind...not letting him/her know that u hav forgive him/her..and then see how ur hunger satisfy.. the other way is that u dont forgive the sinner ..but it will be of no use and i would definitely not recomend u that ..as it will only burn ur emotions inside u..n will cause more trouble!!

yup. I has this Old Friend of mine who had been my Best Friend for about 8 years. we told each other our deepest secrets and such. but when we were having fun teasing each other a classmate told her "Hey, are you letting your best friend play jokes on you?" then she said "She's not even my friend" and walked away. Suddenly when i went to the school the next day, my classmates kept talking about me and my secrets that only the two of us knows, even the other Higher levels knows it too. when i asked her if she was the one who spread the secrets she just laughed and told me "so what?" but now when i see her i still feel the pain but i had forgiven her :) its just that i am still sad about losing my bestfriend and i am afraid to have the same experience... ^^

I agree with you, but sometimes even the word sorry dosen't fix things. They can say it but it doesnt mean that they actually are sorry. Its best just to forget about it if you can and let it go. It wont really make a difference a long time from now. That person wasnt really your friend. Maybe they were jealous and thats why they were spreading lies about you to the class. You can always make new friends

As far as I am concerned, I think I will just forgive the person who does not say sorry to me. Actually, I think I will be upset to know that the person who does not say a word to me. But when the time goes by, I think I will forgive him,it is just a piece of cake. If I do not forgive him at all, I think I won't be happy forever.

There is a saying that goes to the effect that "I will forgive you but I won't forget what you did." I don't ever think we forget what someone did to us, nor should we unless it is very hurtful and could effect your life. There is also a saying, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." Forgiveness and forgetting are too different things. You can forgive the person and try to get along with them, help them when they need help. But you never forget because they "could" do it to you again ("fool me twice".) So for me, a "sorry" is not needed.

Yes, if friends say "sorry" to me, I will forgive them.

maybe it takes a long time you will forgive someone without saying sorry but as what they said time can heal broken heart you will learn to forget what he or she did on you at this point you had already forgive him or her

In most cases, I forgive those who have wronged me right away even if they have not asked for forgiveness from me. I am a christian and I am not just aware but I know the teachings that are written in the bible and know that these are God's word speaking to us. But despite this, there is are a couple of instances where it took a while for me to forgive those who have hurt me. Most of them did not apologize but it did not matter because it all I want is to let go of whatever ill-feelings that I have for him/her. Sometimes the friendships or the relationships are mended but there are times that things cannot be the same as before. There is this one person though that has hurt me so bad that it also affected my family and ruined their close ties with another family. This person has not acknowledged her wrong-doing therefore did not ask for forgiveness. It is with her that I have difficulty in forgiving. all I can do is pray hard to the Lord that He will help me let go of the anger that I have for her because I know this is not what the Lord wants for me. Only God can help transform my heart and I do hope and pray that though she may have not acknowledged her wrong-doing and have not asked for forgiveness, I would learn to let go and forgive her so that should we see each other I can look at her eye to eye and tell the Lord that I have indeed followed His way.

I don't find it difficult to forgive people so most probably I'd be able to forgive that person even if he/she didn't apologize. However some things do require an apology & even then I may find it difficult to forgive.

yes, as a christian we have the obligation to forgive them, even before they said sorry.

Dear friend, I do forgive, may be those who get forgiveness may tend to change a lot. Moreover some of those sin done against may be not be forgotten even if it is forgiven.

Yes, friend i forgive the person who dose't say sorry.

Its true,its difficult to forgive as if one says you can forget everything!

Yes i can forgive people or someone who hurt me without asking forgiveness..

I think that when people apologize to us and admit that they have wronged us, it can help us to forgive them. However, we are called to forgive people regardless of whether or not they acknowledge that they have sinned against us. Forgiving other people actually helps us out. It frees us from the bondage of bitterness. That said, it's just not always an easy thing to do! I don't have an easy answer to your unresolved feelings about what happened with your friend. But you can certainly ask God to help you work through this. Maybe you've sought to forgive your friend, and yet the hurt remains. Ask God to heal your heart from the hurt your friend caused you. Unfortunately, your friend has not yet been involved in the healing process. We all desire an apology anytime someone wrongs us, and it can leave us with unresolved feelings when we don't get that needed apology. From a human perspective, we're left on our own to work things out--our friends are unwilling to help us at times (even when something is their own fault)! But on a higher (yet very real) level, we are not alone! God knows your heart, and He is willing and able to help you work through your feelings. "Therefore, the Lord longs to be gracious to you; and therefore, He waits on high to have compassion on you. For the Lord is a God of justice. How blessed are all those who long for Him." He can fill in the gap where your friend left you wanting.... I hope that something I've said here was helpful and that nothing was hurtful. God bless you!