My Daughter's a handful but wonderful!!
By starlitn
@starlitn (67)
New Zealand
March 14, 2010 3:05pm CST
I love my daughter's so much! I had my first boy and was overjoyed. He is now 13 and still handsome as ever! However, when I met my partner, we were together for a while and I gave birth to my first girl, who is now 11. 2 Years later we were hoping for a boy. But to no avail. Another girl was born. By the time we were on our fourth girl, we decided that was enough! We weren't having anymore. However, it was on our fourth child that we finally had our baby boy! It was lucky pull I guess! He is now 2 and adorable. Almost an exact duplicate to his father. Anyway, my girls are such a handful! Especially my older girls who like to wear pretty clothes, like to dress up like young ladies! I love giving my girls full attention. However, I'm already thinking and worried about them growing up. Especially, when the mention of boys comes into the picture. I have 4 girls who I have to keep a good eye on. I'm really not looking forward to it in a sense. But I guess its life. LOL.At least they look up to me when they need to.
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@Beautyfactor (1512)
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14 Mar 10
I have two girls so I have the same concerns for them too. I think the world is still a very difficult place for young girls and I have lots of concerns about my two. My oldest is almost nine and she is already 'in love' as she puts it, with a boy in her class at school. At the moment I am just rolling my eyes at her, but I know soon enough that boys are going to become a big part of her life and she will go thorough all of the heartaches and hesrtbreaks that every young woman goes through. All we can do is our best with our daughters. I have vowed to always be there for my girls, to always listen to them, to help them wherever I can, to advise and to protect them.
@starlitn (67)
• New Zealand
14 Mar 10
Yes the same goes for my oldest girl. She's already sending "I love you's," to a boy in school. And yes I'm just brushing it off too. lol. But it will definitely concern me when she gets older. She is very sensible though, so I am glad she is otherwise I think I'd pull my own hair out. LOL. Yep just hope for the best and do what we can.
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@newtalent (1112)
• United States
25 Mar 10
They are a handful but in a good way. I always try to keep communication open and listen rather that telling them what to do. I want to hear and understand what is coming out of their mouths before interjecting any thoughts in the picture. The girls need to be self confident and possess the coping skills, thinking skills, to make good and informed decisions in their life and in the future. as long as you lay the foundation as it sounds you have they will seek advice from you. You want them to come to you. Just do not confuse it with being their friend rather than their parent, it can be a fine line and easy to cross. Parenting is demanding and trying at times. We cannot follow a manual, though it would be nice sometimes.It sounds like your doing good and they are letting you know what is going on. They are also finding themselves, who they are, noticing the boys, getting weird feelings that they are not sure what they are yet. They are talking to you to and that is a very good thing. They are maturing at different paces. Just be there for them and help them out. Most important listen to what they are saying rather interpreting what they are saying. Most peoples listening skills are just awful. Or they cut the child off in mid sentence. my favorite not right can we talk about it later? If it is bothering them then you need to take the opportunity to talk to them before they go elsewhere for advice. This is usually a window that does not open easily when it is shut. Take care and do your best as it sounds you are doing. That's all anyone can ask for. Children are great! Take care.
@starlitn (67)
• New Zealand
26 Mar 10
Thank you for that kindly advice. Yes I do find that sometimes they look elsewhere, especially my oldest boy. He communicates with me and does feel comfortable, however, he doesnt open up as much as I would like him to. But I give him the time and space to let me know what's going on, on his own accord. And eventually he does. Which is a release for me. I also give him the opportunity to be able to talk to a good friend of mine. And she advises me on certain things I should be doing with him. And it helps me out alot.
Thank You once again.
@will_win (222)
• India
27 Jul 10
Ya every mother they worries for their children especially for girls.since i am a daughter,my mother worries a lots when i am out of home and she always says come on time, even now also she always concern about me and she is strict.I think you have to be strict but not that much ,mother to be strict is good because children will be in control that's what i think.........
