Decision is made....it is time to move on.....
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
United States
March 14, 2010 7:36pm CST
Lately I have been doing a lot of soul searching. Because of this I have made a decision to change my life in a dramatic way. I have found many quotes that keep me going and I recognize that my decision is a good one. My life has been filled with a lot of turmoil. I have shared many of these things here with my friends on MyLot. One thing that I never shared was the fact that I have been unhappily married for over 10 years. That is about to change. Life became good again when I made the decision to leave. It was as if a weight were lifted from my shoulders. I breathed a sigh of relief. Life is good again.
Here is a quote that I found today. It seems to say it all. "Again and again, the impossible problem is solved when we see that the problem is only a tough decision waiting to be made. - Robert H. Schuller
Tough decisions happen to us all. Remember that life is too short to walk through it unhappily. Blessings and big huggers to you all.
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@snoopyfan (1312)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Sorry to hear about the end of your marriage. You are right life is too short and you have to be happy. I wish you peace and happiness as you are about to begin a new journey. You have to do what is right for you. If you stay and be miserable that is not much of a life. I am not sure if there are any children involved but they don't want to see you miserable either. There will be some adjustment period for the children but in the long run they will understand and it will be a better environment for all of you.
Peace & take care
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
15 Mar 10
My children are adults now. This is a good move for me. I am ready to "live" again.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Awww EB, My heart breaks for you-for all the crap and turmoil you have been going thru. At the same time my heart sings and soars for you-for the beginning of the rest of your life. Your so right... Life is too short to be unhappy. Live and then live some more. Blessings and many many big gentle hugs to you.... 
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Thanks for the hugs dear friend. I am doing fine! Just can't wait to start this new chapter!
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
15 Mar 10
Often change can be a good way to improve your life. Sometimes things won't get better unless you do something dramatic.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Yes indeed! I am on the road to improvement!
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@GardenGerty (160675)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I have known that things have been difficult, but I thought it was mostly financial. I hope that there has been some good as well. What changes is this going to make in your life? Will you be moving? I know you have basically been supporting yourself for awhile because of unsteady employment. I hope this makes your life better.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I wish it were as simple as financial problems. But, it is much more. My decision has made me feel wonderful. I am happier now. I am moving out. Not far though.
@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Sometimes the hardest decisions we make are for the best!
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@saifulbabe (74)
• Indonesia
15 Mar 10
It was awesome to change life, for some people this make their life become great and ignore a monotonous life style. One you have changed your view about your basic life and two you got the different way to make life easier or more difficult. Days and days I have tried to move my life style into a new way from now I got the easy way to face my life. I have good quote that you have to run as fast as possible you can and don't look your behind. You have your way and in your way, another man try to go ahead your position. So what you are waiting for go fast right now and never stop... :)
@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
21 Mar 10
Sometimes the hardest decisions lead to hard roads, only to bring us to a paved path that is wonderful.
Keep your faith and know that you have friends that care about what you do and how you are feeling. Write often and share what you're going through.
I've been divorced for over 10 years now and just found the man of my dreams last summer. I had decided upon my divorce that I had NO desire to ever be with anyone in a relationship again. I dated, enjoyed, left 'em. This one I met online even... and we fell in love literally at first glance. We haven't been apart for more than a day at most since and I now live with him part time for now... moving out of my place when my adult children get their apartments. I'm in heaven but believe me when I say it was a long and hard journey to get here. YOU CAN DO IT and you deserve happiness!
@BarBaraPrz (47332)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
15 Mar 10
Good luck on your new journey.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Thank you! I am definitely ready for this one!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Mar 10
hi elusiveButterfly Robert H. Schuller is one bright man, and does
make sense too. All you need to do then is make that tough decision
and let the worries roll off your shoulders. ten years is way too'
long in a unhappy marriage.Time to regroup and take in some freedom
instead.Then as one mylotter puts it you you can do the happy dance and be really happy. 
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
15 Mar 10
The worries indeed rolled off like rain! I am so happy with this decision. I can breathe again!
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Good luck to u. U deserve some happiness. Ten years is a long time to not be happy. U have had so much turmoil i'm glad u can get rid of some of it. HAPPY DAYS TO U.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
15 Mar 10
The hardest part now is waiting for the day to come when I can make my move.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
15 Mar 10
I hope it comes soon. I am not a very patient person & waiting drives me nuts. I hope it's a good move for u. Lot of luck.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
17 Mar 10
I have been where you are. I was married for four and half years and I had been unhappy for a long time because my ex husband and I had been together as a couple for 11 and a half years by the time our marriage ended and yes it was painful but by the time we physically separated I had already shed most of my tears and all I could do was breathe a sigh of relief and for the first time in a very long time I was able to look forward toward the future. I am sorry you are going through this but this is a turning point for you toward happiness again, I just know it. Sometimes the hardest and most painful things feel ‘right’ it is what you need to do..I wish you lots of happiness...
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
15 Mar 10
While I was reading your discussion I can first feel the hardship you have gone thru so unhappy. But then once you mentioned that you are free and happy, I can definitely see the happiness seeping thru your words. I am happy for you for moving on though it may be hard but well, you are definitely much more happier moving on instead of staying.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Thank you. This time though...it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be.
@recycledgoth (9894)
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15 Mar 10
It is a very hard decision to make hun, but you have to stop and consider your own happiness. Good luck to you :-D
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
16 Mar 10
All the best to you, EB...
I hope that you will enjoy your life from now on, which includes happiness and more happiness. Sometimes, the decision to leave can be the most self-empowering decision, and only the gut says it's right, even though others might doubt upon us..
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Mar 10
Bless you and good luck with your new life.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Seems there are a lot of divorces happening around Mylot... must be something in the water! Hope I'm not next. I am in a happy marriage. We have our problems like everyone else does, and sometimes those problems can seem pretty bad.. but when I stop and look at the bigger picture I realize things could be so much worse, and that if I left him for whatever reason, I would miss him. We're best friends first, whenever something happens, good or bad, he's the first I want to tell. I doubt anything could ever change that.
@kaylachan (69804)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
15 Mar 10
I'm glad you were smart enough to realize what was really wrong, or one of the things. The decision to leave isn't an easy one, but I wish you the best of luck. I hope you are able to re-start your life in a more productive way that proves to be helpful and benfiical to you.`
