should i marry her?

First of all, I will tell you that I love my boyfriend, and I don't care if he was going to die in 30 days, I would marry him. Maybe you should find someone else. You should never have to doubt how she feels about you. I'm sorry to hear this for you, but I promise you that you can move on, and when you find the person that is meant for you, you will know it.

Hi, friend. Sorry to hear that you confront such quetion. Like she said, it is up to you. You can test how she love you. Give both you some time. Then make decision.

..hi.. I guess you already have the answer of your question.. Marriage should be founded in love and trust.. although your parents are important, but based from experience, it doesn't matter if your parents don't like her because your happiness depends on her.. and parents will always be parents.. in the end, they will come to accept your decision by proving to them that the girl is the right one for you.. it takes time to prove of course.. In your case, you already have doubts in her.. you doubt how she feels about you.. being a married person, I'd suggest that you follow what you feel.. follow your heart.. if you feel her love isn't that strong enough, then you might as well tell her in advance.. asking her of what you should do, in my part, is not right at all since you are still the one who will decide.. we as women would rely on men's own decision because whether you decide to marry her or not, she don't have any choice but to accept your decision.. about your question regarding her marrying you if you have cancer isn't also right.. it is always hard to lose someone you are in love with.. and so, marrying someone you love who has a cancer isn't a minute decision.. it takes time to analyze things.. I'd like to repeat that marriage should be founded in love and trust.. once you start doubting the feeling of your partner means that you can't trust her enough and its not a good thing.. your marriage won't be successful if you started by doubting each other's love.. after all, you're the one who knows whom you want to be with and whom you want to share your life with.. not your parents or anybody else..

hello shibham my friend, oh its sad to hear that...i remember how happy you are the last time you wrote about her..but its really sad that everything did work well... anyway, think more than anyone else, its just you who can answer your question, you are the one who will feel it. friend, if you already have a doubt about her & her love for you, then i would suggest you to think about it. listen to your heart my friend... its really quite disappointing to hear such answer from the person we love, to think that we are already willing to fight for them...but anyway. who knows this time its still moms knows best thing... sometimes we need to let go of someone even how much it hurts, even how painful it was, not because we don't love them but because its the right thing to do and what's the best for us... friend, i wish you come up with the right decision, marriage is something that needs a wise thinking and balancing of everything...not only our emotions. i hope, with the decision you are going to make, everything will be fine... what i just wish for is your happiness my friend... God bless...

hello dear bhai, First,i want to share your sentiments...about your culture(arranged marriage) Your parents is against your love and your love(girlfriend)knows about this matter. Now,with your question to her "if she will love you even if you had cancer"... she loves you...she only says "no" becoz she knows that your parents are not doting her. That,even if she will answer "yes"...the chances of marrying her is still 50-50 due to your condition. Actually,you are the one giving her condition. If you loved her without condition and without hesitation,you can marry her. If you only knew how i fight for my love you will understand what i mean dear brother. I wish you all the luck...remember,true love comes from the most unexpected times. Listen to your heart....and not your culture nor tradition.(just my opinion dear)

Hello, shibham as I've read mostly of your responses here. It shows that you already have a decision. For that decisions I supported u and agree that you should not marry her. I have a boyfriend which I really love so much. Even if he already hurt me so many times. I am still here with him. So if your girlfriend does really love you for "real" she should not hesitate to have you as her husband even just for 10 years. Well others would even say "I do" even if their partners are lying on bed and about to die. I've witnessed that... Such a great love they have..

My Dear friend... I am sorry that you had to take such a rude shock from the girl that you've feelings for! I wouldn't say that she is the right girl to marry, if her last answer was serious. It is simply as if, she is with you for 'something'- not for you! And when that 'something' is gone/over/vanished, she plans to leave you.. I am really sorry to put it this way, but I don't know any other way. I do not think, she is the right lady to marry against the wish of your family. And yet, I would suggest you to talk this matter to your real life friends too, who know both of you very well... Their opinion upon the conversation that you've placed here, would be more realistic and valuable... Good Luck to you!

Hi shibham...I intend to analyse her words. I will tell you what I think. She doesn't want to tell you what you should do because you will make your choice and if you regret it later, you can blame it on her. If she says she would marry you if you had cancer, it might be out of pity and not love. As far as you knowing better than she does about her love, it's because it is based on the way that she treats you and not what she says. I am by no means an expert or daying that you should marry her. I'm just saying that you can read more into words than what is just said. Good luck with your choice. It is a big one. It is a tough one. Just do what you think is right and don't look back.

Did she truthfully mean that answer after you raise up the hypothetical question? If yes, I think you have to think twice in marrying her and if no, then maybe she was just trying to test you. It would be helpful if both of you share ways in order for her to be accepted in your family. You shouldn't give on her that easily unless your love for her wasn't really that strong. Make up your mind before it's too late.

Hi Whistle, the only question that you need to answer is --do you want to grow old with the person who you truly love? if the answer is YES then go for it. that means life will not be that meaningful living without her, growing old not being with her. now if you observed some things that you are not in agreement and you ar ein doubt then maybe she's not yet the one for you and you for him. it must be a mutual feelings. parents will later learn to accept the fact about your relationship despite the fact that they do not approve of the relationship---the actors here are YOU AND THE GIRL. So, be certain and talk to your heart!

Hey bro, She's is not worthy of your love. You'd better forget her and find a girl who really loves you. Have a nice day.

i think you should marry her. as she was may be a bit annoyed to you that you are asking these kind of questions and she did not expect and even she denied to marry you when you are gonna die in next 10 years. i think that was just annoyance.i think there is a need to convince your parents and marry her.relations should not be broken in this way.

Well friend, when you fell in love, was she really caring you, i mean you felt she is real. I ask this because, in the conversation you posted seems both of you are not at good mood.You have mentality that your parents are not accepting and pressured up. And i am not sure if she has any worries about this. so avoid phones, both of you meet and talk. Love cannot be broken easily by hearts, so leave aside everything and both of you talk peacefully.

Maybe she said those unfriendly words on purpose. she didn't want you in puzzle everyday, and forced you to make a choice of your parents. I think the best way for you to make a correct choice is to talk with her about your love and future. This is an important question and she will give you a definite answer you need. So come on and never be upset.

Hi Shibham I think that marrying someone is a great personal decision and no one should interfere in your decision. If I were you I would ask your parents why they are against your plan to marry this girl. Check if their advice makes any sense at all or not. Perhaps they know something that you don't or can foresee things that you don't. Parents have more experience than we do. If you are still unconvinced I would reflect and than take a decision and stick to it. If you really love this lady and it is reciprocated go for it. good luck and wish that you take the best decision....

At least she was honest with you. Imagine if you got married, then you got cancer and she deserted you, how much would that hurt? At least this way, you know that she wouldn't stay and you can make your decision based on that.

dear shibham, i know how important it is to parents that the wife to be of their son is to their liking. i will tell you this. we both are asians. and asians are so close knit. its like - marrying a wife is marrying her family too. because that would make a peaceful union on both families. i think you need to think more and dont hurry up. maybe you need to know more about your girlfriend. saying goes - marriage is not like eating a steaming rice. when your tongue gets burned you cant just spit it out. take life easy. cheers. ann

I have read the comments of your respondents and they are good. Please do not marry her if you are in doubt.

I see three great reason you shouldn't even think of marrying her. 1) Your parents are not in favor of this alliance. 2) She would marry you only if you want to marry her, otherwise she does not want to marry you. 3) She does not want to marry you for better and for worse. She will not stand by you in times of trouble. You take a clean break and find for your self a person who really loves you rather than you love her.

hi shibham, i think you only have a mis-communication! im also a girl and i also experienced that situation, that the parents of my bf are against with me... when the girl tells you its up to you, she means that she lay it up to you and let you decide for the betterment of your relationship...also dont asked her to marry you just because you're dieing in 10 years, its because marriage is not an answer in all love affair problems...just take your time and prove to everybody that despite of the situation, both of you are still standing together, fighting for your love. coz thats the best shot that you could throw and proved how much you love and need each others presence.