sometimes its just enough if one listens!! ??

Yeah that happens to me too. A lot of people would like someone who really listens (including me). We just want someone who will let us pour out our hearts out without our friends judging us. There are times when we know that we are wrong and we would not accept our mistakes. Instead we'd rant and then launch a tirade of a very long defense of our reactions or deeds. We need a person who will listen to us knowing full well that that person might not agree, but still he would listen to us. Other times when we're sad, just having someone there to pat our backs while we pour out our feelings really makes things easier. They don't have to speak or even nod. They just have to be there and listen. I like friends who know how to shut up when they need to and feel the need to speak up even when I don't want to listen to them.

That's very true at times. There was one time when my friend was very depressed. He talked to me about his problems and it was about our circle of friends which was currently in a bad situation at that time. The next day, he told me and our friends that I was a good listener. I guess just listening to them is all right because they feel that as a friend, you are there for them. When they've nowhere esle to go and vent, you're there. Also, giving them suggestions at that time could make them feel judged and being told what to do about it.

This is often true. There are times when someone just needs a sounding board so they can vent. Talking it out can often help a person to sort out what needs to be done to solve their problems. But I am trying to figure out what your question is in this discussion.??????????

i guess that goes also with mylot. when we have problems, we can post it to mylot, even if we know that it is non-sense to others, as long as we talked about it in the discussion, even if no one response, we know that there is someone reads them and listens to us. as long as it is not removed, then it is fine.

this is true. there are times when you should just shut up and listen. i do this almost everytime. there are people who would want to talk about their problem but they really want to solve it themselves. they don t need any advice. only an ear from a friend.

I agree with you on this post. Only a listener can actually tell the difference. A listener will listen for the ok to give advice if that is what is wanted. If there is no notion then that good listener will know that i just need to listen and keep my opinions and thoughts to myself. Everybody needs someone to just listen!