Should spouses know the e-mail passwords of their partners?

there should be privacy regarding e-mail passwords cuz there are just things you can t tell anybody about. like for instance, your husband can t tell you but he can tell his mother or his friend. or for example, he can tell you but he can t tell his mother or his friend. these things doesn t necessarily mean that he is cheating. there are just some embarassing things, or wierd things, or whatever that he couldn t let you know about. if you feel that he really loves you then stick with it. don t just base it on some e-mail password. just let it go and trust him.

it all depends, laydee. like me, i maintain several email addresses -- for business, for social networking and personal. the first two, i give my password to members of my family, while the personal email address, i only know. you see, there should always be a private corner in our lives. even in marriage, one gets to keep a private section of his life. it's not because you are married, you have to bare all. sometimes, discretion becomes necessary, not because of selfish reasons.

i think they should. just to avoid if they have an affair or not. but as long the email deal with business i don't think they should know

My husband and I know each others passwords for everything.... We have never checked each others stuff but we know that it is available because we have nothing to hide.... I do not erase my browser history and neither does he.... When you have a trusting relationship it is not even a problem whether someone knows it or not.

Its not adviceable because of flirts they get..

I am asking you, but why should NOT email be private. This is something beyond privacy, say, sense of ownership. If the spouse is so confident that you are crystal clear with your character and respect him in each and every minute of your life, why he needs your email ID? It is not a question when a need arises, you simply give him the mail ID and ask for some mail search. That doesn't mean he is entitled to the transgression. Just think from his point of view. Is he ready to share his ID with you, have you ever thought of it, NO. Then why should you share it?

I don't think that it's necessary for spouses to know each other's passwords, as I think there are things that they don't need to know about the other's lives. I am not saying that they should keep secrets from each other, far from it, but I have email friends, and I wouldn't always want a spouse to know all that I write to them. Sometimes it is a good vent to have someone else to write to and not have the spouse know every word that goes out, but it doesn't mean that you are keeping or hiding anything from them.

i think it really depends on the people involved. while i agree with you that if theres nothing to hide, whats the problem? but on the other hand.. you demanding it and even fighting over it.. why dont you trust him? there are alot of underlying factors that go deeper than just the simple privacy issues.. and its something you and yer partner should discuss openly and honestly before it becomes a serious issue that ruins yer relationship

Hi. laydee. If me and my husband can share the same email account that is fine. Only if we need to though. My husband gave me access to his email account a couple of weeks ago. He needed me to send an email to a guy from a company. Other than that, I don't feel that we should share email passwords. Not unless something bad has happened, that will allow me to give my husband my personal email information.

There's nothing like that we should hide passwords from our partners. There should not be any secrets between each other...so I feel no problem if password is known..bye each other...

I do think that spouses should know the passwords to each other's email accounts and such. However, the reason that I feel this way has nothing at all to do with transgressions and temptations. Instead, the reason that I think that spouses should know this kind of information is so that all affairs could be properly tied up if something were to happen to one of them. For example, a friend of mine passed away earlier this year and the only way that anyone was to let her friends know what had happened was to post on her facebook wall instead of a family member being able to actually post a permanent status update of what had happened to her.

i didn't ask for my partner's password but he does give it to me. he also values his privacy but not to the extent that will argue about it. and i don't look at his email so i don't really know... anyway there really are people who are sensitive when it comes to their privacy. maybe your husband just wants to keep something just for himself but not intended to hurt you. although if that happens i will push my partner to let me look... hehehe.. sorry but if we're already married by all means there shouldn't be a secret between us.

I think no. May be there's nothing to hide, but may be there are some things that the other one is not recommended to see. And it may not be what you've been written, may be some friend had write you very personal things that wanted to tell to you only. I keep my e-mail private.

I don't see why there should be this big secret or fight over SO's passwords, if there's trust between the partners. I happen to know my other halfs password only because she needed me to look for something, I had no desire to want or need it prior. She doesn't know mine, to my knowledge, although she has seen it, it won't bother me if she does know it. There are no issues of misstrust or anything else between us.

I doesn't think so. Ofcourse it depends on the situation. If partners share a computer then yes, they would have to know passwords. Most people today have two, a laptop and a desktop and so I wouldn't think they would need to. But it really depends on the circumstances and the relationship.

Due to my husband's job nature, he needs to keep his clients' information confidental. I won't read any of his emails or letters without his permission. That's why I think if you spouse won't let you read his emails, he must have his reasons. You can ask but you should respect his choice to let you read or not. Several friends of my husband do tell many their secrets to my husband, frankly, I want to know as I love gossip, but in reality, I know why my husband don't want me to know, as I will have a strong bias against his friends and he doesn't want to argue with me over this(if I would have critized his friends). I asked my husband once that could I know what his friend told him on the email, he said to me that he promised his friend would not tell anyone, that's his way to keep promise and it is his personal integrity. I really admire him for sticking to his principles and I choose to trust him. So you show that you trust your spouse to let him know everything, I know you may want him to do the same thing to you, but even if he does the same as you do, it means nothing at all. He can own different email accounts! He wants to keep his a/c privacy and it's time for you to show you really trust him, I think men would really appreciate the 100% trust from his spouse and would be very proud of her.

I don’t think it’s a good idea to know your partner’s password or let him/her to know yours. I think for a good relationship you should have some distance with your partner. Everyone needs a personal space to live. Also if you know something you should not know or your partner doesn’t want you know from the emails it would be a bad thing for you to deal with. I learnt a thing from my life is don’t look for trouble yourself. Don’t try to find something that somebody hides. Above I’m talking a good relationship. If you let your partner knowing too much about your privacy it might be a weapon again you in one day. So be careful always even in your marriage. Of course it’s just my feeling towards marriage. To be honest now I’m very negative to it. I don’t think I can find one to share my email’s password.

For me and my boyfriend, we find no reason to share our email account passwords, but if other couples do that then that's okay. I think it's better that couples have complete trust in each other that they find no reason to keep their emails from their partners.

Trust is the essence of any and all strong bonds in relationships.A sense of mystery makes life or relationships more intriguing.If everything is laid out bare,then things become banal and boring after a time.i subscribe to the view that we may knowingly have secrets from each other but we should trust each other enough to know that whatever secrets we keep from each other,we trust our partners or friends enough to know that it isnt something that will betray the mutual love and respect we have.! i know my wife chooses to keep certain things from me,but its all good,i trust her judgment enough to know she wont keep any secrets that may be harmful to our relationship' . so secrets or not,mutual love is still there nonetheless.

you are absolutely right laydee. if he has nothing to hide, there is no reason to keep it secret. my better half knows all my passwords in all my accounts. one day a classmate of mine found me on fb and sent a message. it was regarding my classroom sweetheart. and then boom, all hell broke loose. joke hehehe. she felt bad about it, but we talked it over then we're ok again. so, think of it. but the again, knowing that account will not prevent him from making another which you will never know of. hehehe. just a thought. happy myLotting!