I leave my wife...it is right???

United States
March 15, 2010 4:02pm CST
Yes I can say its wrong but let me explain,don't throw all the mistakes on me. She been my GF for 4 years,we know each that long, I marry her in 5 years relationship. We did not stay together when we were just GF and BF,we see each other almost everyday date and everything. I did not noticed anything about her all I know she is kind. We decided to get marry and that's the time I find out we have a lot of things we cannot comprehend and I find that she is not my matched.Here's the sadness part I can adjust some of those indifference but the worst thing here is,she was not prepared to be a wife, a single food she cannot cook,she asked to do the washing,she don't care about our things,she wakes me up just to make a warm water for her bath,she asked me to iron her clothing when she is in a hurry that supposed to know how to handle at home and she don't even care about herself .She is very dependent kind of woman and that's so annoying tell me it is right to stay when I feel not happy with her???She is kind but its not all that matters, I need a partner who can take care of my home,not to worry about food and home and at least a wife how to stay attractive to his husband.And how many times I talked to her about this she asked me to "better find a better one" is this a wife??? Tell me it is right decision to leave her and find a better one!
2 responses
@scja16 (322)
• Philippines
15 Mar 10
Do you really love her? I am sorry to ask you directly but if there is a single doubt in your heart then maybe that will be the right decision. But if you love her that much, regardless the difference between you and her...Things will be alright. Maybe as of the moment she is not ready but someday she will. All that she needs is you to be honest with her, just tell her what you feel about what is happening to your relationship. It will depend on her on how will she take the reality that there is something that she needs to do. I feel the same thing. I imagine why is that there are lot of things that she can not do for me but i love her that much so what i did was patiently waiting for her to change and luckily she did. Just show her more love and more time then of course it should be mutual. Wishing you the best with your partner and stay strong. God bless
• United States
16 Mar 10
I have been waiting for long years to let her change but no signs of changing,before I can I did love him but as days gone by i feel regret about my marriage and it seems she is also regretting about things in our marriage,every time i asked her to make changes she often saying find a better one this not the word i want from her i need a word that can help myself to think that she is ready to change.But no trace of changing.So i decided to leave her and as well as I think she need a better one that make her happy.
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
Have you told your wife about the problem. I think that is such a very shallow reason for you to leave her. Tell her to make adjustments to as you are to her. She will understand if you tell her how you feel and how you understand things. Your the guy and you should also feel that you should be loved and cared for... I hope you could still work it out,.