this love has taken its toll on me...
By swise1
@swise1 (14)
United States
March 16, 2010 1:35am CST
I am currently dating a girl and have been for 10 months already, we both lost our virginity to each other. And so this love is pretty strong, but she only lets me go to one friends house and barely his. I can't go to my old best friends or his neighbors because the occasionally smoke and she doe not trust me when she says she does. i am not allowed at another friends house because some girl i had a crappy middle school relationship with is his younger sister, and even though i swear up and down to her i could care less about the girl i just want to hang out with my friend it does not seem to matter. I deeply love this girl with all thats in me, but she is really controlling and semi-crazy. She is always crying about something or talking about hurting herself sometimes, and she told me once she feels bad for me, I have a semi-suicidal dad, and a suicidal girlfriend. i just don't know what to do. I tried dumping her once but i cared to much and she begged for me back. So just any advice on how to handle this, i can't ever talk with her really. I did lose my virginity to her and she talks about hurting herself if i break up with her or she will never have anything to live for. I just don't know, it stresses me out a lot.
3 responses
@Noth1ng (46)
• Indonesia
19 Mar 10
From what i read in your story ...
I think is your girls problem ...
to be honest ... i think you need to solved your girl habit ( possesive )
why don't you tried talk with her softly about your relationship with her ?
You must have her trust , so do her
it's just a matter of time to become more stressed if you don't solve it ...
GoodLuck swise1 ...
no need to worry as long as you love her ...
@hera_alhambra (193)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
that is such a sticky situation. i think that your girlfriend is the possessive type or the one that just wants all your attention, and that's just how she is. i have a friend that's somewhat like your girlfriend and even i cant explain whats going on her mind. you should talk to her and tell her what you feel and what you want. i know that she'll be difficult but you won't get what you want if you're not persistent in making her understand your situation. if you want your relationship to last then you must build trust between the two of you and understand each others needs. tell her that. haha
@keymoney21 (72)
• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
16 Mar 10
I understand both sides and i have been in this situation before. I have learned that maybe you need to spend time apart for a while just to see if you really want to be together and as committed. For me Me and my bf were always together and we started fighting a lot. but here is what I have done to help us so think about this. maybe you should sit down with her and both of you should write down the pros and cons of what you do and don't like. Write a list of all the things that bother you about about each other. Write of list of all the things that you love about each other. go down the list and discuss each one. if you both talk about whats on your mind and everyone is honest then it should go well. If you arent doing anything wrong and she still doesn't trust you then that is not your fault. Its not her's either but she has to understand that you arent being a bad guy. Hope your relationship works out.
