jeaolusy among sibling
By Ifamous
@ifa225 (14461)
Indonesia
March 16, 2010 6:51am CST
i heard this conversation about a week ago, my son ( 9 years old) and my daughter (7 years old) were talking about me, here is what i heard:
my son:" mommy loves you more than me, she does not love me"
my daughter:" no no no.. you're wrong, she loves you more than me!!!"
at first, i laugh to heard it.but then i think, they maybe jealous. I don't remember of treating them different, but i don't know. my kids who has seeing me if i did the difference among them.i am curious to know, is it normal? is it ok ? please share if you have this kind a experience.
7 responses
@jugsjugs (12967)
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16 Mar 10
I think that this is very normal for children in a family to think this way and even when people have grown up and left their parents some people also think the same aswell.I have 6 children and they all think like that.My youngest son has adhd and so alot of my time is taken up with him to try to keep him on a calm so that he do not keep disrupting the other children of mine doing their own thing.Dont take it to heart what you have heard as i think deep down all children feel aswell as say these things.
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@wekesamaina (6)
• Kenya
17 Mar 10
siblings should be treated equally.what I mean is one needs to be sensitive to all their children needs. Rivalry can result into rebellion,especially when the child feels unloved.
@EnslinPorter (1718)
• Philippines
16 Mar 10
I think sibling rivalry is normal and their arguing about who mommy loves more is natural. But as for me and my brother, I don't remember us fighting about it 
I guess it's because we really feel that we are equally loved, not that I'm saying you don't love them equally. I also think it's because unlike other brother and sister, we are close to each other. Are your children close or are they usually fighting as in friendly sibling rivalry? I didn't feel that rivalry because my brother was 7 years older than me. We were not par with each other 
I guess it's because we really feel that we are equally loved, not that I'm saying you don't love them equally. I also think it's because unlike other brother and sister, we are close to each other. Are your children close or are they usually fighting as in friendly sibling rivalry? I didn't feel that rivalry because my brother was 7 years older than me. We were not par with each other @ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
17 Mar 10
they are only two years apart, and almost everyday fighting to do something. they are competing to almost everything. I guess that what make this conversation rise. it is nice to know you are having tight bond with your brother, i wish my kids will go like you both..
@EnslinPorter (1718)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
I hope they get along with something and find a common interest someday I remember my classmate and that it seemed like she hated her older brother. Just like us, there are two of them and the age gap is big. I guess it really depends on the common interest. 
I remember my classmate and that it seemed like she hated her older brother. Just like us, there are two of them and the age gap is big. I guess it really depends on the common interest. @familyzhou (11)
• China
17 Mar 10
I think it's very normal. I have a sister and a brother. When i was a little girl, I always argue with my siblings. Then my parents came to mediate. At that time i always felt that my pareents loved my siblings more than me. But when i grown up i know the love from parents is disinterested. Children are always like to gain more attention from their parents,so they feel unsatisfied all the time. But it's OK.Some day they'll understand. Wish you and your kid happy.
@bestylish (922)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
My brother once told me that I am the favorite of my father so I was kinda shocked about it. I guess they think like that because I am the only daughter in our family.
@artsyfartsygypsy (755)
• Canada
17 Mar 10
There is always some jealousy and rivalry between siblings wether voiced or not. Its only human to compare yourself to another and the siblings usually get that rile because they are so closly related, constantly together and always compared by others.
@artsyfartsygypsy (755)
• Canada
18 Mar 10
You might want to talk to them. Do they fight at all about this type of thing? If they start to resent each other than we have bigger issues than sibling jealousy. And if you beat the rivalry at a young age (the unhealthy part atleast) then you can make sure it dosnt grow and/or affect their grown lives. I suggest praising them both equally on their attributes and teach them not to be jealous of what otehrs have when they have such amazing gifts of tehir own. Dont forget to spread it around thogh, you dont want them o try to invest everything in one quality (such as looks or smarts) as they will internally explode. Good luck,.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Mar 10
ifa225 oh how normal that is really, my two children were only 11 months
apart but I had overheard conversations like that too, so I would make a big effort to take one day a week for each child to g ive my undivided attention to, and we had a Robbie day and a lIsa Day, and both were thrilled to be the star of the day. We played games, we watched a movie with popcorn and all, withmy little daughter we went shopping just the two of us. this really works to take the rivalry out of sibling rivalry. 
