My friend said she had feelings for me after so many years!!!!

If you have feelings or in love with her why not say you love her, too. If not, be gentleman and tell her nicely that you like her as friend no more no less so that she will not expect anything from you.

If she is saying she loves you as a friend then I would embrace her and tell her the same(if I felt that way ofcourse). If you mean she loves you romantically I would be werded out totally. If I had known someone for years and then suddenly this came up I wonder first about myself and then her. How could she have hidden something like this from me so well as it to be such a surprise now?

I think you just need to be honest. If you have the mutual feelings toward her or not tell her the truth..this might clear things out for both of you.

ive had this happen a few times. and while i would appreciate the "friends" honesty.. it put a strain on the friendship alot of the times. and itd downright make me rather angry if i was involved with someone at the time they "confessed" their feelings. it isnt right to make a move on someone if they have someone already.. and id think if theperson was indeed a "friend" they wouldnt do that to you. if yer not already involved (nor is she) and you have more than friendly feelings for her.. i say go for it and give it a shot. sometimes the best lovers / partners.. start out as "just a friend"

I guess you need to know your feelings whether you love her as well. I totally idolized her to have the guts on saying those big words to you. So, try to think of your situation and if you love her then I dont see anything wrong for it. But if you see her as a friend then better be honest and tell her your feelings about her. It may help her move on to her life.. God bless

your decision in this would mean either you give up your friendship and become more than friends, or remain as good friends. being on the safe side, it would be better for the 2 of you to remain friends. but i know the urge of love is unbearable and hard to resist, as in case of your friend, so in this case you may need to assess what she truly means in your life. if your feelings for her is deep and passionate, you may reconsider becoming more than friends. think about it, and ask for advice to some people who know the 2 of you. this would be best.

Hi Hun! I think that honesty is the best policy! That may sound very old fashioned or dorky, but it's true. If you feel the same way then tell her, but if you don't then try to let her down gently! That in my opinion would be the best way to handle it!

you have not mention if you have a girlfriend. if you have a girlfriend and you love your girl tell to your friend that the two of you should be friend because you dont want to ruin your friendship. if you dont have a girlfriend then it is time for you to make a realization if you had a feelings for her. if you realized that you dont love her then explained it to her but if you realized that you love her then go for it.

I thing that if you like her too there is no problem to be together but if you don`t fell the same there`s not so good, you have to tell her that you wnt just to be friends if there is no problem for her and if there is you two together have to work it out in some way.