How to tell no to kid or child

I have had kids, guardianship of others and two grandchildren. I think being consistant in what you say to child, what you expect from them and what they should expect from you is extremely important. If you say no and they know you mean it then there isn't much of a problem. But, if a child thinks they have a chance or the situation isn't clear to them then you will have a fight on your hands.

well I don't have any kids yet but my lil sis was pract my kid! I always took her to the mall with me. I was 16 and she ws 5-6. She always asked if I could buy her things and I would depending on what it was. BUT before I went to the mall I told her I needed to buy some stuff but if she seen something she wanted depending on what it was and if I could afoord it then I would get it. Sometimes I would have a limit like $5 or $10 depending on how much money I had at the time. I ws only 16! And let her pick. She obv didn't know how to manage money but she would ask, can I afford this? How much money will I have left over or whatever. And by me doing this is made her realize she only had a certain amount of money so be wise on what she decided to buy you know? So it taught her to buy wisely and decide do I really want this and she would go from there. If it was something in expensive then she would say can I afford this and this and if it added up with the the budget then she would buy them both if it didn't then she had to chose. But it taught her the value of money so now that she's 15 my mom gives her money here and there or uy's her things and she "bargain" shops. She doesn't over spend her or my mom's money b/c she knows the value. I hope this answers your question

It is children's nature to ask for everything. Parents cannot get all that they want. Hence parents should explain to the child the actual situation in a loving voice and should tell the child that the toys can be purchased when parents have money.

hmm... kids can already understand explanations but sometimes they throw on tantrums so they could get what they want. my nephew is a bit different. one time i asked my brother that i would take his son with me to the mall... the kid looked at every toy and sweets he saw but he never asked me to buy any of them. i asked him, which one do you want me to buy? he answered with really happy expression "REALLY???" then i asked him on the way home why was he like that, he said that whenever his mom takes him to the mall, he gets spanked when he asks for something... hehe... No is sometimes pretty harsh

I say no and hope to g-d he doesn't throw something to heavy at me. I can take the tantrum, someday he'll realize everything I did was for him.

hello! well, i think with the kids we must act straight because they are still small and sometimes they don't get it when we are using some roundabout words, because their brains are not accustomed with some long phrases or long sentences. that's why i think it is really right to talk with them straight, not shouting , no quarrels, just talking calm but with straight words and short sentences!

My parents could not afford either, and that was okay. I frequently told my kids that we chose to pay our bills first, then maybe other things. I did give them an allowance and they could spend it as they wished. I helped them make good choices, though.They would save up for things like video games and special things for their rooms.

It didnt matter what I wanted I got nothing...and I knew better than to ask....As for my kids..if they dont need it or I dont have the money for it or they dont deserve it etc etc...I just say "NO"...they're teens so they understand and know better than to cross me on it..they'll whine on occasion but that never lasts long once I give them "the look" as they call it LOL

When I was a kid my parentsw bought what I needed. Got toys at birthday and Christmas time no other time of the year. CAndy? nope. If I wanted any candy or a soda I hunted return borrles to make me some money for these thing. My kids always took fruit not candy and they only got toys on special occations. Grand daughter SHe wants a happy meal with a little toy in it! and if we dont have the money tell her no money to buy she has to wait till payday!

my child who is four years old normally is not a buy me this buy me that kind of child. he normally behaves when we are outside. but on supermarket he always makes a point to get an oreo for that is his favorite and chips ahoy as well. so he is not on a sweet side as candies and chocolates but he is on a cookie and bisquits. he is a boy also who loves bananas and apples. since he is our only child we make sure we give what is best for him but still we dont like spending too much on toys for he gets tired of a certain toys at once and we dont like spending too much also on candies that will make his teeth ache.

When I was growing up my parents didn’t have very much money at all, yet I was unaware of that fact at the time because I didn’t feel I was missing out on a great deal. I was an only child up until the age of fifteen and my parents clearly did not want me to miss out on anything material. Sometimes they had to say no and, because no explanation was given to me, I thought they were being terribly mean. I wish they had explained to me that money was scarce and that is why I could not have some of the things I wanted. I am not suggesting burdening kids with financial problems but I think they should be told the truth. With my daughter if I need to tell her no I explain to her why almost every time whether it is because she can’t have something due to lack of funds or she is not allowed to do something which I feel would not be safe. She doesn’t always like to be told no but at least I give her a reason!

I always tell my kids they have to choose one between two, because we can't always have all what we wants in the same time. it teaches them how to control their will while they have limited in money. good too to make them learning how to be more patient.

I think you just tell them the truth. There are vending machines where I work and when kids ask for stuff some of the parents simply tell them they don't have the money for it. I rotated between sweets and toys. My parent's gave me a SMALL allowance, so I had to decide what I wanted to spend it on. They really didn't get me anything outside of what I got with allowance.

Just say no, if they get spoiled they will want more and more. Don't give in, it's better then consuming stress later when you can afford these things

I never spoil my kids by buying them junk foods or buying toys. I explain to them that they only get toys during their birthday or on christmas day. They understand my point and will not nag me everytime I bring them for shopping. Children need reasoning and try to talk to them like talking to an adult. They will understand.

When i was a kid we didn't get things every time we went to the store like kids do nowadays. We got nice things on our birthday & at christmas but not all the time. I have often said that kids now don't have the anticipation at christmas like we did because they get too much the year around, I don't get to go shopping much w/my grandson much because i don't shop much but as much as i love him he gets way too much from me & his parents. Iadmit i spoil him rotten, lol.

When I was little my parents did not have a lot of money, so I did not get anything most times when we went to the store. I mean, if we were grocery shopping, then my mom might let me pick out my own cereal or give me a choice on something, which made me feel important, but I didn't get anything extra because we couldn't afford it. Once in a while if my dad had a little extra money from a bonus or something, then he would buy my mom and I a special treat on his way home from work. It was usually a Twinkie or something small like that, but it was very special when we got these kinds of treats because mostly we couldn't afford them. When my oldest daughter was young, sometimes she would get things, and sometimes she wouldn't. Mostly we could afford it, but I don't think she needed something every time we went shopping. With my little one, she has just started getting to the stage where she is noticing things in the stores, but she doesn't really ask for much yet. We can't afford to buy her something each time, either, and even if we could afford to we still would not. I think that buying something for them sometimes is alright, but I do not think that they should expect something every time we go to the store, even if we can afford it. I also like to surprise them with little things once in a while (like my dad did for me), but that is harder to do if they are used to getting something all the time, because then it doesn't seem as special.

I always got toys. I am not a sweets fan. But when i was naughty, and that was about twice a day, i had a very serious problem convincing my parents that i deserve a new toy. And i never won those little battles. So, i got used to the word no. TATA.

Well kids are kids, they dont understand our situation and they even dont know the value of money. If i can give a dollar note to my daughter, she will tear it into pieces and play. But making them understand in different way will help. We can say in loveable words, "dear i will get you surely after i save more money for you. Here take toys this time, next time you will get both"

When I have kids I will not allow them to buy anything they want, I will teach them the value of money since they small, they will got their weekly money for behaving as good kid and they can chose what they want to buy. I think kids has to teach to make their own decision as early as possible, and responsible for their decision, in this way I don't have to explain why I can't buy them toy and candy at the same time. It will be they decision.