Are you interested to know about your boyfriend/girlfriend's past relationships?

I have always held the view that my partner's past has nothing to do with me. If she wants to share it, then I will listen and not judge her in any way. The way I look at this is that the past is gone, and whatever happened, happened and is not happening right now. Whatever was done, cannot possibly be undone. Relationships can test this from time to time, and if there is jealousy then it needs to be addressed in the relationship and resolved. Jealousy is a very destructive emotion and it won't disappear if one ignores it. As a therapist, I have seen many people who suffer from this. By the time they got to my office, it had gotten quite bad, but it can always be resolved if both partners are willing to deal with it sensibly.. _Derek

Yes I would be curious about his previous serious relationships and why it didn't work. I think may be this will help me to know him better and may help to improve our relation. For the affairs - I'm not interested in. I don't think I'd be jealous. He has his past, I have mine. But his past is part of him and I would like to know about it.

Hi Mark! I'm a very quiet person when it comes to past of my partner,well i can dwell a respect to what he wants to share and keep about himself,I will not asked unless I feel uneasy towards something and I will stay quiet and if his good enough to feel what I want to know about him and its all depend on him.I still respect whatever things he wants to keep.I'm not going to force him to say anything about his past and everything,the thing is you want her/him to trust you and better to let her know what was past and let her know she/he is the present,nonetheless comparison is not my way I believe every individual has its own capacity and capability..Jealousy either is out of my knowledge unless if proof as at hand..Better to know each other well then you will know the answer I think guys/man usually wants to know about their Gf past as well,vice versa.So why not share if not really a big deal otherwise keep it for life Happy myLotting!

hey! i think someone who lives in their present would never be interested in thinking abt their past or their partner's past! one should feel secure in a relationship in order to avoid being jealous. if u feel ur partner is feeling jealous in any way, u've to express more abt ur love for them so that they would be assured that nothing will go wrong in the relationship due to somebody else!! :) what do u think??

Of sourse i am interted. that is one of the things I am most interested in. when I get a new girlfriend or even a friend I start to ask questions about their past. i don't have to know everything really, but the more I know the better would be our relationship from that moment on...

I do like to know things of her past. So we can avoid mistakes of the past. To know more of her. and what made her the woman she is now.

Hi mark, I don't think previous relationships should have a bearin g on current relationships. My wife and I are both divorcees, and have met our first partners. If anything it makes us appreciate each other more.

Dear friend, Past is past and present is to face. May be my girlfriend do have a bitter past and if she tell it to me truly I hope she is more trustworthy. Moreover I could understand her well. If she is pretty well going with her better side it is also well and good. Still if she is open to admit her past I would give her my better side.

HI, for me I wouldn't bother to ask about that at all... sometime it is hurt and it is jealous to hear all of those things... however, if he/she leaves it alone then I think we should leave it alone too... but if he/she wants to share then I would listen

I like asking about my boyfriend's past relationships, it's not because I want to compare, but I just like hearing stories of the past. Hehehehe. I don't get jealous, I guess I'm over that phase already. I trust my boyfriend, and I have enough confidence to tell myself that he's not going to leave me. LOL.

It depends up to what extent you wanted to know. I would certainly ask about his past gf but not go into the gory details of the relationship.

I ask a lot about my boyfriends past but i don't mind whatever he told me. I get jealous a little but sometimes i though that there's no reason for me to get jealous at all. He also asked me about my past boyfriends and when i don't answer he gets mad and when i started telling him about my past he got annoyed and even walked out sometimes. I don't understand him at all..

Well, sometimes I admit that I would want to know about my boyfriend's past relationships, but I'm not going to ask as it's a personal matter, and I should only know if he wants me to know. Probably I would feel hurt listening to it, however. Being jealous or not depends on the person, so the best thing is to act according to our own personalities and insecurities, and to remember that this is your partner because he or she loves you, and not his or her ex

I know some of George's past relationships. And, he knows mine. I think its important to share, because it helps to understand how we are today. Why we are the way we are. Learning from the past is good. repeating it is bad. Knowing the past helps to understand the present. Making up for mistakes... That's what's real important. Its good to know how things ended, to prepare ourself for what could happen should those people re-enter lives. Not that some would, but knowing the past is one thng, but reliving it is another.

I really don't know, it is okay to know his past, like how many was his girlfriends are. What happened to them, but i guess it is not important already since past is past, you can never change it now. what I want to know if they are already through with his recent relationship, because i don't want to end up being the third party. I have to inside a relationship, that me and him only can share. IF he has a constant communication with his ex's then that is a different subject, I should make it clear to him that past is past and i will not allow him to get in touch with them anymore. Or else I should know who the ex's girl is first.

What for? what is important is the present and the future

i think every body will be interested to know the past of his or her partner. i think it is sometime good to know by the person whose story is this. if she tell you the correct and truth whatever the relation she had, may be you could accept and feel better as she is honest with you. rather than to know from some one else about her. so these things really matters.

Not that it matter but i would certainly would like to hear about it and what are the reasons why the previous relationship did not work out. This way, you can make the necessary adjustments or at least this will give you a clue on the attitude of the other person. Some would be too shy to ask a person's previous relationship for fear of offending the other but i think this is necessary, it's just a matter of how they can make the other person open up. A lot of relationships failed because of the secrets that has been kept a secret. This could have been avoided if someone is already upfront at the time they started the relationship. If a person hides something at the beginning of the relationship chances are that person has plans of cheating you sooner or later or that relationship will just fail once the other person knows about the secret later.

Frankly, I care that past relationship a little. Although I know that was past, when I imagine they had those good times, my heart has something not to say. In one word, the most important thing is now, and the most precious is also now. Enjoying recent relationship would be better. And as for the past relationships, let it be.

I think the past should be left alone, before I got married we talked a little about our past and come to realize I was a little party girl compared to him and I really think that bothered him, but we worked it out. We learn from our past mistakes and than we move on. We don't need to bring them up to keep beating ourselves with them. You make a mistake...you learn from it and you move on. The ex's our in our past for a reason.