Husband started working out of town.
By JFinley
@JFinley (44)
United States
March 17, 2010 5:43pm CST
Very recently (about a week), my husband has moved to another city for work. It's a great opportunity for our family but I really don't know how to cope. I had a baby a month ago and my emotions are all over the place right now, not to mention my 15 month old is very demanding right now. I can expect to see my husband six to eight hours a week (not counting sleep time which is 3 nights a week). I have told him that I can't do it without him (new baby does not sleep much) and that I don't want to be alone. Please if anyone has any advice on how to stay sane in such a crazy time let me know. I'm not working now (maternity leave) so I'm home most of the time.
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
18 Mar 10
If it means a better job/income for your family...don't complain..just figure how to make it work. Take it one day at a time...make lists to help stay organized and on track and ask family or friends for help. If they are really family and friends, they will help. I would much rather do as you have here, than what I had to do...stay put and deal with how to live on minimum wage. Talk about hard and heart breaking...my kids grew up on "we can't afford it". All cause I didn't want to move and be seperated from my husband for him to go find a job..period... not just a better paying job. Even if you can get a babysitter for 2 hours every other day or so..take that time for yourself. I didn't do that and regretted it. I think I could have dealt with things better if I did something for myself instead of always putting hte kids first and being a mess myself while putting them first...what good is first if I am a wreck and they don't like me so much that way!
Hang in there... you'll figure it out. You can do it. Just remember.. Love won't pay the bills!
@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
18 Mar 10
Complaining never helps unless you are trying to return something! My response was positive. I've been there, done that. I loved my husband and I loved my kids and if sacraficing something of myself helped make life better or easier for them, I did it. I went without a lot of things most women won't give up, to make sure my kids had what they needed and at least sometimes, what they wanted. I worked three jobs quite often, one full time and 2 part time, but if I didn't, then my kids would have been homeless and hungry. And I did that cause there was a time they were hungry. I'll never forget them telling me that they were hungry and I didn't have anything to feed them but some peanut butter and bread.
I was depressed alot but I finally figured out... being depressed was wasting time....time I could be using to do something productive or helpful for my kids. I am not saying it is easy...but I am saying...personal experience has taught me...it will only get you down if you let it. An income is absolutely vital to a family. If you and your husband love each other enough, you will get through the seperation. Been through that to. Maybe think about how hard it is for him to be away from you and his children and work on doing things to help him get through it and in turn, it will help you get through it.
