Hate the act but not the person?

Well I can relate to this one, I don't like the way my hubby pushes me away from shopping and yet I cannot hate my husband for that. I know that he has reasons to cut off expenses although sometimes a wife would buy things needed, not just a want. Sometimes I would also not like how he gets so cheap on buying things when in fact we really need that certain item that we could use for long term. He always says, i can get that for only ( **** ) certain amount. When in fact I would reason out, were already here, what are we waiting for, if we don't buy, we can spend another cent for searching, which I don't see much more practical. I guess most wives here would agree to me that sometimes their hubby restricts them from buying, but come to think of it, we saved even more because we think in advance

If somebody did something bad to me over and over again, I might hate them. But I'm not going to hate somebody just for doing one thing I don't like, unless it's really an awful thing. I'm especially not going to hate them if they admit it was wrong and if they don't do it again.

Actually something like this has happened to me right now and is still happening.There is a lady who when she was a young kid and then a young girl who was my former neighbour.Now she is married and stays somewhere else. In Nov last year she had visited me and offerred to do trading in the share market for me as she has a share trading company. I agreed and gave her a large amount and she was to give me the profit every month. Nov end she gave me a good profit and handed me a check which i put into my bank. In Dec she made an even better profit and gave me a check but when i put it into my account ,it bounced. She said she would give me another chk but didn`t. then Jan came and went and again she made a good profit but did not pay me. Feb also came and went. she gave me some cash and another check which bounced again.she then said that she had some personal problems but would return everything, ie profits plus the principal amount. which i still have to receive. In my country a bounced check is a criminal offence and one can face a jail sentence. I have every right to do this to her but my heart just does not allow me to do this to her. I have played with her when she was a little girl and she is like a sister to me.I cannot hate her at all and i only hope god gives her the good sense to see tat she has committed a wrong and finally pay me my dues.

hi friend, yes as we all are well known that nobody is perfect hence we may do something wrong by which somebody may annoyed. it does not mean that the person is not for hate for his/her act. sometimes we act negatively due to hypertension or something else. thanks.

yes, don't hate herself but hate it her act ... the human's often make mistakes, and we should have as friend to warn and advise him

i think if we have intensive emotion with someone, we would not hate him/her, although he/she did wrong. they may be our friends, relative et al. we love them, we can forgive most wrong they did. that it is.

I do believe you can hate an act, yet not hate the person who did it. One good example is seen in parenting...we might hate something our child did, but yet we do not hate the child. Disappointment, yes, but hate, no. Just like anything else though, I think it would depend somewhat on what the act of crime was. I can see where it would be much harder to forgive if it was something like murder. One thing about hate, it usually tears up the person who is doing the hating, and makes them even more miserable than the person it's directed at. (This is just the way I see it anyways :-)

i guess it depends on the person in question and the action they took. the way a person behaves is a big sign of their character. if someone does things that simply are horrible.. their character isnt one id want in someone id want as a friend.

it depends. if its not really intentional. and if he's my friend i would know when its necessary for me to really hate him for what he did.