What s the correct age to choose ur life partner ? ? why ? ?
By Shyam_cupid
@Shyam_cupid (157)
India
March 18, 2010 1:25am CST
Olden days in my country they married at the age of 8 itself, even Gandhi too married at the age of 13..my grand parents also got married at young age.. they didn't enjoy their life... now they telling to marry at the age of 25( for boys)
now my question s,.
Wat s the correct age to marry ? ? why ? ? ?
Is there s any rule in ur country ? ?
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24 responses
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
18 Mar 10
I personally think it has to be youur own choice. When you feel it is the right time, then you get married. In my country the law still stands at 18 years. No one here can get married sooner than that. At least one thing they get right. TATA.
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
Hii dear... nowadays law s not for public, that's for the politicians sake.. anyway Wat that guy know at the age of 14.. why he need marriage at that time.. anyway thank u for responding.. be happy
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
oh... happy to hear.. all the very best for ur marriage.. thanks for ur response.. be happy..
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
18 Mar 10
hello shyam_cupid...The problem with human growth is that our physical growth is much faster than our intellectual growth and the tender ages fixed by our law, (18 for girl and 21 for boys) as per my opinion is very wrong age for marriage. At this age we are not at all matured and are not ready to take the burden of unknown responsibilities, (But if married you have no choice but to learn to tackle them like our parents did.).
Some how this is very strange....you can get matured only after you will have some bitter experience in life.......but unless you are married you cannot have these experiences....so what to do.....this is the reason why people call marriage "A Gamble" . Marriage is a risk..........you know shaadi ka laddu, jo khaye woh bhi roye, jo na khaye woh bhi roye. I think the age when a person feels he is matured enough to understand adjustments, duties and sacrifices involved in successful marriage, he can get married.
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
22 Mar 10
i don't know Hindi ya.. anyway thank for Ur comments, Is marriage s a mess ? ? ? Hmmm.. okay
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@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
Hiii dear.. i agree with u.. but wat u said in Hindi.. i didnt understood... anyway thank u for responding.. be happy
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@celticeagle (168553)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Mar 10
Spiritually it is said that a person reached their full potential at the age of 25. I think that would be what I would shoot for if I had to do it again. As far as wordly it would have to do with family traditions and respect for family and those you are involved with. Marriage should not be entered into without full intent. If both parties are willing to embark on this then it is to be done.
@celticeagle (168553)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Mar 10
I think it is too. And still young enough to enjoy it all.
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
19 Mar 10
thanks ya... the age 25 s a good one, i think... anyway thanks for ur response..
be happy...
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@gracefuldove (1668)
• Malaysia
18 Mar 10
getting married and able to understand the responsibility of marriage is another thing. unless of course its the parents that decide everything for the child from taking care of the young married couple, their meals, their lodging, their offsprings etc. , then who is getting married. to me marriage is serious business. one needs to know the reason why he or she is getting hitch or getting married in the first place. marriage is a relationship between a man and a woman and they consent to marry each other for good or for worse, in sickness and in health....and so on. then the right age to me for marrying is when the man is ready to get married. meaning he has a stable income, able to protect his bride and to provide for her even in this modern society and age. by the time, the man can afford or is stable, the age will hover aroung 26 to 28 years old or slighly more. this is my opinion.
@vandana7 (100638)
• India
18 Mar 10
I am inclined to agree with this one. The big thing is man has to be provider. Though women should work, and supplement the income at home, as we now have children's education, and retirement planning to do. But her income cannot be the mainstay for the family! She has more hurdles on her way up the corporate ladder, because she needs to take leave for her naturally endowed abilities. Many children related issues can also prevent her from rising to her full potential. Therefore, her career should only be considered secondary in a family unit. That does not mean she may be asked to quit her job!
@gracefuldove (1668)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 10
vandana, i agree with you. a woman's income ,to me, no matter how much, is considered supplementary to the man's / hubby income. in the big apple like usa, there is still inequality between man and woman in terms of salaries, promotions etc.. heh still discrimniation. in my mind, the man is the head of the household and thus he is the head and not the tail. he is above and not below.this is the expectation of societies through generations and time immemorial. meaning in other words, he has to be the provider, protector and to love his wife and family, not forgetting himself too. thus to be able to do this, he needs to be stable and earn or fetch a good income and so the age should be reasonable 26 to 28 or slightly more. its okay and very sensible. this is my thoughts.
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
19 Mar 10
you are very clear abt marriage.. u make me to think again abt marriage in different way.. thank u, thanks a lot for ur response... be happy
@curiousplay54 (341)
• Malaysia
18 Mar 10
I don't know what is the right age to choose a life partner but i think as long as a person is mature enough to make a wise decision and can find another person just the same than i don't see the problem. During my grandparents time, they too married early that;s why they have many children. My niece from my first cousin married at the age of 17 and now she is 21; she is a mother of two children now. For us getting married during the teenage year is consider young. There are no rules, in my country for the muslim community the age that they allow a person to get married is 16 and for the non-Muslim it depends on the parents consent. Happy mylotting...
@curiousplay54 (341)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 10
personally i don't think 17 is a good age to get married because it is too young...if it is the right age than I should have married at that age. She choose to marry early may be she think she is mature enough, that i can't answer...like i said earlier it depends on the maturity of a person. Happy MyLotting.
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
sorry, i couldn't understood, how u saying it depends upon maturity.. if a boy or girl matured at the age of 18 means, its enough to marry a... he/she need something to hold their life know
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
19 Mar 10
17 s the good age ah ? ? ? anyway thanks for ur response..
be happy...
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
18 Mar 10
In some parts of this country they used to marry at about 13 I know my sis in law did and she was really never happy finally divorced him after years and yeaqrs and their daughter also married at age 13 and she divorced him.
So early age isnt the answer I wouldnt think.
Ya can marry here with out parents concent at 18 .
Not sure what a good age is I do beleive you need to find your soul mate to marry.
adn that could be any age above 20 am just guessing here FOund my soul mate when I was 23 and divorced from 1st hubby.
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
Hmmm.. nowadays 10 persons marrying means in that 7 persons getting divorce, am so scared bcaz of this kind of mentality growing up in our world.. then wats the use of marriage.. anyway thank u for responding.. be happy
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
18 Mar 10
It wouldn't be appropriate to say that one must marry at a certain age. Legally speaking, a girl can get married when she is 18 and a boy can marry when he is 21. Let us not discuss the law here...
I would say after you have come to maturity you can get married. Just make sure that you've chosen the right life-partner and also that you have means to support your family.. If all these conditions hold true, then I don't think there is any problem in getting married... Why consider age and all, as long as you have crossed the legal age for marriage???
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
why am going to considering.. for example if i married a the age of 20 means, my surrounding ll tell " hey wats this at the age of 20 itself u need girl ah", many parents are thinking for surrounding than their children.. but my parents not lik that...
anyway thank u for responding.. be happy
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
18 Mar 10
There's no rule here in the US but personally, I think 25 is a good age to get married. Anyone below 20 years of age is just way too young. I don't doubt that the love is real but marriage is so much more than that "honeymoon" feeling.
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
Honeymoon ? ?... hmmmmm.. 25 s good age, i agree with u.. anyway thank u for responding.. be happy
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Mar 10
18 is the age of consent in this country, younger than that you need parental permission. But I think you need to be a bit older, At least the odds of staying together are better if you're at least past college age.
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
ya.. i agree with u dear.. anyway thank u for responding.. be happy
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
19 Mar 10
in our country, it is only allowed to get married at age 18 or 21. but still, they need parents consent before you will be given marriage license and go to church or who ever will solemnize the wedding, a judge or a mayor or a priest or minister. but even if there is a rule on getting married, there are some people who gets to marriage life without wedding and they live together even at earlier age.
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
this much rules and regulations in ur country ah... hmmmm.. but it was nice.. thanks for ur response.. be happy..
@coffeegurl (1467)
• United States
18 Mar 10
Usually in the US you have to wait until you are age 18. However, in Georgia and West Virginia, if you get parental consent, you can marry ate age 14.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
18 Mar 10
In my honest opinion the right age for a woman is her mid 20s and for a man late 30s. I'm speaking generally here and of course i realize maybe genders from other cultures are a bit different in their attitude but where I am females tend to be looking for something serious long before the men of their same age group are. The men in their 20s to early 30 is still kind of playing the field. Less divorce would happen then. This is just my experience though. I realize there are exceptions to the rule here but I have to judge by what happens majority of the time and in the end its still up to you when you decide you want to get married.
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
ya... i agree with u dear.. wat u thinking s good.. but why men want to wait upto 30 ? ?.. wat wrong he done... ( just for fun).. anyway thank u for responding.. be happy
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
ya.. legally 18 is a correct age.. but Wat u saying s right.. i agree with u.. thanks for ur response..
be happy..
@coffeeshot (3783)
• Australia
18 Mar 10
There should not be any 'correct' age to marry! Young people do not know what they want and often rush into marriage because society tells them they should do so before a certain age. It's a load of rubbish. I personally felt the pressure a few years ago. I was engaged to my ex fiance for two years and I thought we'd be together forever. Luckily the wedding did not go ahead because it would have been a big mistake. We grew apart and changed. We GREW UP. That was a couple of years ago when I was twenty-five. I am nearly twenty-seven now and I do not even think about getting married. If I find someone I fall in love with, I will get married when the time is right. It might be when I am thirty or it might be when I am 48! Who knows? I don't and I don't care!
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
wats this especially 48 ? ? ?.. at the age of 27 also u not interested in marriage ah.. see my brother, he married at the age if 25 itself.. am feeling jealous while seeing him ( just for fun man )... anyway thank u for responding.. be happy.. i wish u to get marry soon as possible
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
hiii dear..
But there s some age limit know.. most probably they fixed that age limit by thinking various things.. anyway be happy.. thanks for sharing
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
18 Mar 10
There are certain things that u should consider before marriage, Age bar is been specified that u are well settled and u can run ur life with the income with the life partner happily..
This is the way why the age bar has been put forth.
In my place the legal age is 18 for both the gender to get married ..
people suggest that 24is ideal, that is you have enough stamina and u have a nice job ..
Well, now i'm 21 years old and i'm gonna get married at the age of 23, not because of other circumstances, because i'm marrying my own cousin , so she is 19 now and im about to complete my studies, so after i get a job, they are in a verge of marrying..
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
oh.. cousin, well... at the age of 21 itself u got wife ah ( just for fun don't mistake me lol ).... too nice.. best wishes for ur marriage.. be happy.. thanks for sharing.. i agree with u..
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@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
Things have changed a lot now, and nowadays 8 is a very inappropriate age to marry. There are no rules here in my place, the rules are usually just set by parents or family, standards that everyone has always lived by. I guess for my parents they'll let their kids marry when they're convinced that the kids are mature enough to handle the challenges of the married life.
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
nowadays 8 ah.. i dont know one thing.. what they going to do by marrying at the age of 8 itself.. anyway thank u for responding.. be happy
@Louc74 (620)
•
18 Mar 10
Hi Shyam. For me, this would have to be a personal choice. I personally don't think ANYONE should be able to marry until they reach 30. If that rule were in place, the rate of divorces would fall dramatically!
I've enjoyed my life, gone out, kicked up my heels, seen what there is to offer, but I've never been promiscuous, you don't have to be to just enjoy your life. I've messed up, made mistakes, been hurt, recovered, etc. It's only at this stage in my life that I feel I know myself enough to decide just what it is I need in a compatible partner.
So, each to their own, I guess, but I'm really glad I didn't marry young, and end up with a divorce behind me.
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
hii... dont worry, my question make u to think ur personal problems, i think... sorry if it hurts u.. all for good only.. god s there to help u.. be happy.. thanks for sharing
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
18 Mar 10
As far as I am concerned, I think the correct age in my area for me to choose is about 23-27 ,during which years ,you may try your best to have a parter.If you have missed the time. I think it will be so difficult for you to find one ,who will be fit for you. So if you want to have a happy life, I think you should try your best.
@Shyam_cupid (157)
• India
20 Mar 10
ya.. wat u saying is right...am agree with u,,.. anyway thank u for responding.. be happy