living without love

For me love is important. What will be the purpose if you live together with your husband without love for him? you're just like a robot living in this world. We are here on earth surrounded by love. God created us to be loved and to love and therefore, God is LOVE. The needs will be provided if two of you live with have love to each other.

if i was on her situation i can also live with my husband though the feeling is gone if my husband is doing any nothing wrong to my family. if i was her i will never leave him, she could still love his husband again if she like.

I think this is a really sad situation. Maybe she just never wanted to let go, although i think there needs to be some kind of love involved in the relationship, for her sake and his. personally, i wouldn't be able to live with a man for 20 years who i didn't love.

I am sure there are many cases of people keeping their marriage together for the sake of the children. Many considers divorce taboo too. Its not a matter of wrong or right but for the concern of our beloved children. Sometimes one have to sacrifice oneself for the future and happiness of others. This is the good in us and may not be a bad thing.

Yes, careguarden i saw some of the families live like that for the sake of children, society, family, for parents and inlaws sake. Even wife and husband will not have love on eachother still they live together.

I think she does love her partner though maybe she is still in a stage of denial. I think that there is something or someone in her past causing this emotion but for me having kids and living together may already be a proof that at least you love the person. Well, I may be wrong and it is really possible that this things happen. And I felt sorry for the guy because if I were in his position... I'd rather look for someone else as long as my partner loves me. It is really hard to predict how a person will react and what decision he/she will take. We just hope that she will know the meaning of love and love her family. God bless

I think that would be a lifetime pain in her to stay there. But try to assess why in the first place did she enter into marriage with that guy. Why does she stay there that long is it because of her kids. I think 20 years is really long but I guess for her kids she should just stay if she really loves his kids and doesn't want her kids to suffer if she would indeed breakup with him.

Argh this just ate my response. I think this is ridiculous because you are trading each day of your finite life for experiences, and you want love to be one of those constant experiences. If you don't love somebody and are not IN love with them, why did you marry them any way? To me, marriage means you love somebody. FIRST. Before there is ever any decision to marry. This is why the idea of marrying somebody you don't know and are not in love with is foreign and wrong to me. Nobody can force love. You can't create attraction or feeling where none exists. People can work on a relationship, where love has been it can be again, but again it takes desire from both people and sometimes a lot of work.

i don't think it could last that long if she don't feel anything for him. i think the reason to stay in a relationship is the happiness you'll feel towards that person you are living with. if someone is not happy already because someone is not in love with the person, then i think there is no reason to stay.

Wow ive never wrote anything for a newspaper but that article could very much describe my exact situation. I have been married over 20 years going on 25 years together now and i would have to say we are at the point that i can say at least for me im not in love with him anymore. I do love him in the sense that i care about what happens to him and that i love that he is a decent father to our children .. its just i cant have feelings for him anymore. Our situation is because of years of struggles all the things that weve done to each other tend to wear on a relationship and usually that means one or both partners fall out of love. It takes two to make a marriage work and takes two to make one fail so im taking half the blame for my marriage not working. I have tried to forget the past but its just not possible for me to do. I have picked to stay only because of my children they deserve to have the benifit of living in a two parent household. I hate some things about it.. my children tend to pick up on my husbands very negative attitude and they have short tempers. If i had to do this all over again i would probly pick to leave when the problems first started about 10 years ago but the fact is that i pick to stay and now i feel sorta stuck for the long run. I do think that when my children are grown and no longer at home dependent on their parents for support i will get a divorce to be in search of my own peace because there are days i dont feel i cant live with things the way they are today. I think we got married way to young and had no clue what we was getting into. I have desires to be in a different form of relationship that is more of a non-traditional lifestyle and Im stuck in a very nilla one right now. at the time i married i wasnt old enough to know what i was feeling was a tendence to be in a nontraditional relationship. My day will come but my childrens happiness today has to come first before my own happiness.

That s awful. living with a wife that doesn t even love you. was the reason ever stated why the wife refuses to love her husband?

I know many people do it. I couldn't.