What would you do in this case if you were me?
By Hidaisy
@Hidaisy (181)
United States
March 19, 2010 11:24am CST
It seems like I am really in truble now.
I have been studied in a trainning school for two weeks every evening during the weekday.There is a guy in my class who leaves a deep impression on me.I enjoy chatting with him and he would wait for me to take a walk to the bus stop together(we should take the different bus with different number)when go back home at night every time.He is a nice guy who is really kind to me and I suspect that I have a crush on him already.But I don't feel like to telling him for maybe he is just regarding me as a friend.The miss about him makes me unable to truly concentrate on my school work sometimes.I want to serve him as just a common friend,that is not "feel a thing" on him any more so as to foucus on my study. Actually it is so hard for me to do this.But perhaps he has the same thought with me...or not...oh...I have no idea about it.Anyway,I will not going to tell him what I thought actively.
What the hell should I do?How about you if you were in this case?Looking forward to your advice......thank you!
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11 responses
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
19 Mar 10
By the looks of it, i am sure he feels exactly the same way about you. You can either just go on beign nice to each other OR you can be straightforward and ask him about it. I personally would go for number two. It is better to know than to wonder about it, don't you think? Good Luck. TATA.
@emzymemzy (89)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
Hi. I was in the same situation before. I told the guy how I really felt. But he doesn't have the same feelings for me. So from then on he avoided me. Sometimes we misinterpreted a guy's action. Maybe in your case he's just being a gentleman. He accompanies you to take the bus after your evening class because he wants you to be safe. Anyway, just enjoy your company with each other and wait for him to tell you if he's got the same feelings for you. If a guy really wants you he will tell you honestly how he feels. Just concentrate on your studies and do not let your thoughts control you. You have the power to take control. I've read this line in a book, Change your way of thinking and your feelings will follow. Good luck and God bless. Have fun!
@Hidaisy (181)
• United States
20 Mar 10
Yeah,you are right,if he dosen't have the same feeling with me the things would be spoiled and embarrassing,it is one of the reasons why I didn't go straitforward to him.So I would try to control myself foucus on my study from this moment even if it seems hard.Thank you for your advice my dear!
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
21 Mar 10
I would...
1: Do everything in my power to control my emotions. If you let your emotions determine your actions, and can wind up ruining your life.
2: Continue talking to him. But find out what type of guy he is, and do your best to not gloss it over. Discover character. How does he treat others? How does he handle anger? What does he want to do with his life?
You need to know these things, because if you marry, every one of them will effect you, and in a very direct way.
3: Let him make the first move. If he's not interested, don't push it. A girl can make a guy feel like he's in love (really). But if it's only a feeling, and not a real commitment to you on his part, that feeling will fade, and you'll both wish it hadn't happened.
4: And I hope you take this right, but I would *not* try and attract him with my body. Don't ware the super tight, the low cut, the high skirt. If there is one thing I wish all girls knew, it's that if you use your thighs and curves to attract guys, stop being surprised that the guys you attract are only interested in your thighs and curves.
Just be you. Let who your are be the attraction. It's really sad for me to meet girls who attracted guys with their body, and then are shocked that their guys, who were only attracted physically to begin with, run off with another attractive girl. Try not to fall into that trap.
5: Relax. Get to know him, talk and chat. Don't rush into this. There are more guys in the world, he's not the 'ONLY ONE' that might love you and be a husband to you. It's so often that girls screwing up their minds, and compromising their morals, because 'HE MIGHT GET AWAY!', as if he's the only guy left on the planet.
Becoming desperate is a great way to ruin the rest of your life. Don't do that.
@Hidaisy (181)
• United States
21 Mar 10
It seems like you are an expert in kinda love stuff.
The advice that you put froward are really essentail and practical in my shoes,they are accord with my character and the way in which I deal with things in my daily life.So I will take my time to know more things about him,which make the action more rational to lead to a perfect ending.
So thankful to catch your idea my friend,you enlightend me a lot.Have a nice day!
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
Firstly, I wouldn't assume that he loves me (say that I'm in your situation). About why, its because he may not want me at all. What if he's the kind of guy who would love someone he doesn't like? Will the girl like it later when she thoroughly know him well and discover that he never loved her in the first place and just want to take care of her? Its going to be hard to love someone who did not like you in the first place.
If he does truly love you then all lights are green. But if I were you I'm going to see first whether his love was true or not. I have to measure how he really loves a woman and do not be content with simple gestures that appear to be manly but turned out friendly. Its never wrong to be systematic when it will benefit in the end.
@Hidaisy (181)
• United States
20 Mar 10
I thoroughly agree with you.
So the thing I'm going to do is just enjoy the time that spend with him then to find out what his thought is really about(the time will tell I suppose),meanwhile,do my utter to focus on my school works so as to fulfill the stuff which is the most essencial I should do at present.
Thank you for your advice.
@carmenzhj (120)
• New Zealand
20 Mar 10
well I think you need to get straighten out when you are ready, maybe say it infront of him is hard for you. Try to write to him maybe? Or email him let him know how you feel? Even he said he only treated you as a friend then you will get the things sorted and out of your head than not thinking about it and knowing what to do.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
20 Mar 10
It is quite easy and quick to fall in love.So two weeks is not a long time for you to choose him as your crush.But it can be infatuation rather than true love.But we have to admit that love can start from infatuation too.Without knowing his clear involvement we can't judge anything.If he is interested in you he might have tried to contact you even after the class hours.He should have asked your cellphone number or give his to you.Did he show any extra affinity like that towards you?Well,getting into your shoes,I would ask you to wait for some more time and give him hints about your state of mind.
@mcmario2007 (101)
• India
20 Mar 10
sing the song love , love me do , you know i love you,...beetles
@apoljuice1 (730)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
If you're worried about what he'll think if you tell him you like him, then get to know him a little better before doing that. Ask him to lunch with you, or go to the library, or if there's an event at school you could invite him to go with you. These are harmless ways that you can spend time with each other and get to know him better, and who knows he might like you better and even tell him yourself. Make things happen! :D