listening to songs makes me remember my first love...
By fianne
@fianne (1057)
United States
March 19, 2010 12:16pm CST
i was listening to a music station last night and the song From This Moment by Shania Twain played, my goodness, i remembered my first love with that song because that was the song playing when i first answered him and had relationship with! i really cried, i really cant still get over him. i just realized it last night. i love him so much... don't get me wrong, i love my boyfriend now but i dont know why i still have that feelings for him.
how can i get over him?
have you felt this too?
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16 responses
@pilson (94)
• United States
19 Mar 10
Hi fianne, it is a common thing that some specific moment can make somebody remember what happened in the similar moment before, especially in the case of love. I also ever had the same situation like you. In the following years after I broke up with my girlfriend, I usually remembered her when I had been to some places that we ever played there together and listened some songs such as Lianxi of Andy's. In such situations, like you, I thought that I still loved her deeply, and tried to contact her. but when I really met her, I realized that our meeting was far away from my expectation, so I was usually depressed.
According to your words, I feel that you are a very kind girl, and I am not sure if you still love him so much. however, I suggest that it is better for you to determine yourself under a regular/normal situation without any emotion. I think this will reflect your real feelings.
@pilson (94)
• United States
19 Mar 10
I am moved so much by you and your boyfriend, I am hardly tearing.
your boyfriend is so kind and sincere to you, it is really not a thing that you can get everywhere. I think your boyfriend also loves you so much, "he was just there sitting and watching me" reflects a so vivid love between you both. Please don't worry about anything, you should have a relatively formal talk to your boyfriend, telling him your feelings and your situations. i think he will help you a lot.
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@artsyfartsygypsy (755)
• Canada
19 Mar 10
Every song I listen to sends me back into a flashback of somethign special. For example th song Im listening to now 'On My Own' by Hedley reminds me of all the time I spent on the bus going to middle school as I listened to it everymorning. The song just triggers memories.
A first love is something that is held close to everyones hearts and is usually a tear jerker or heartwrentcher. I dont think that if you truly love someone you ever get over them, no matter how long. Youmay not be with them anymore, you may not like them anymore, and you may have moved on (and are happy) but true loves stay in your heart forever.
Sometimes crying ove people (or things or just crying in general) is good for you and actually healthy as you let out feelings, motions, thoughts and stress.
Its completely natural, dont feel bad or guuilty about loving him while you still love your boyfriend just remeber how happy you are no and that the love that matters most is the one you have right now as teh other one is in the past. Dont try to drag it back. Good luck and happy mylotting. :)
@fianne (1057)
• United States
19 Mar 10
thank you very much, artsy... i really like wanna cry right now. thanks really. i know i want him back though but i cant do anything about it especially that i love my boyfriend. i just wish him luck, know it will hurt to see him happy with a new girl, but i have a boyfriend too.
@artsyfartsygypsy (755)
• Canada
19 Mar 10
You're welcome fianne. :) I hope that your able to move on and be okay in your life and with your decisions. Even though you cant do anything about i, you can still express your feelings in healthy ways to help you move on and get rid of that bad feeling in the pit of your stomache and quiet that vioce in your head.
I also hope that he moves ona nd is happy, even though it may hur you to see him move on just remind yourslf of all the good times you had and all teh great times you have had and will ahve with your current boyfriend. :)
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
20 Mar 10
I am with my first Real love . It is new but I can understand how a song can take you back to a time and place. Before my guy I ThoughtI was in love. I Thought I had gotten over him until, I heard a song that I would sin about him and m heart sank. In that instant I missed him. I wasn't with my guy at the time so it realy hit me. They say you never get over your first love. Just think of that song as a fond memory and try to move on. Your current guy is good to you? You love him? Then it will be ok. And it is ok to still have felings for your first love. I know I will.
@keelymcilwain (797)
• Canada
20 Mar 10
I feel the same way. Some songs just remind me of my first love its hard to forget him. I too love my current boyfriend to pieces. But I find myself dreaming and fantasizing about my ex all the time. I think its normal. Love is love no matter the distance. :)
@Protogirl (79)
• United States
19 Mar 10
Hello Fianne,
Good memories. The 1st one/love will always be special no matter what; the fact that the song reminded you of him is a good thing. It means he was special to you and there's nothing wrong crying, I'm sure you're crying because the flash back makes you happy. A happy sensation kind of feel. (Just don't go talking to your current boyfriend about that and you're good.) I'm sure your boyfriend has those mini moments too where he remember his 1st love. I know sometimes a certain song comes up and it triggers me to remember something.
@fianne (1057)
• United States
22 Mar 10
hello protogirl,
yes i am not tellng my boyfriend about it, he might get angry. he knows that i still have a feeling to my ex but he doesn't know how much. and i am happy with my boyfriend now, sometimes it just really comes to my mind what if i am having relationship with my ex now... hmmm... yes, i am sure too that my boyfriend remembers his ex too because i know there theme song and he's really quiet when he hears it.
@rorisricha (732)
• India
20 Mar 10
In once life one can never, never forget their first love if it is true how much you are well settled in life sometime or other it makes you remember your first love which is really painful and feeling that can't be said in words......It's a different experience...especially a girl can't a boy can move on mostly they take everything light and satisfy with what they are like and enjoy their lives mostly they forget but a girl if it's true love she never and can't in her life......But one should accept what ever the life gives us....that't the fate..thats it..all of them can't achieve their first love.....if achieved they are the happiest people...Good luck.
@jd107nette (1454)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
hi... yes that happens a lot...
that is why sometimes, listening to music, esp love songs, brings back breaking memories...
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
I don't cry whenever I hear the songs that I have associated with my past relationships, particularly my first boyfriend, but I do have flashbacks about what happened before, about our relationship and how much I loved him. I think it will never really go away, I mean, until now I still think about what could have been, or what went wrong even though I'm with someone already. And my boyfriend and I actually talk about it, like the what ifs...
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
For me I don't feel it the worse because the time with him is in his world but now I get married not to mention about him already.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
20 Mar 10
As far as i am concerned, I think it is so difficult for us to forget the first love ,which can be a love remembered with deep gratitude. I think most of us will not forget the love. They may just put it in the corner of our hearts, but still not forget.I will remember it by some other things that related to the first love ,just as the songs.
@arunthvf (55)
• India
20 Mar 10
i too get that same feeling when ask songs especially melody songs which has some good lyrics. i've been in love with her for the past 6 years but we split now. but i still remember her. some times i just avoid listening to music for this reason anyhow its a good feeling sometime it may be painful.
@sivasankaran4444 (30)
• India
20 Mar 10
hi friends ., i love music .. now this time also i am hearing that ., maximum i am hearing only melody songs .. at the same time it gives a lot of advantages for example it gives us a mind relaxation .. so i like music very much
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
Will there was a time that my ex boyfriend was preparing for his wedding and when the time that he really moved on his life, i felt so much pain inside me and i dont know why i felt like that, but i am also taken that time, still have a pain, Now when there's a time that the song connects to me and to my ex, i can still remember him but not that i still love him but there are some rejection why i am in a hurry in get married and not to be faithful to him in our time.
@kl_blueknight (381)
• Malaysia
20 Mar 10
Sentimental and romantic songs always bring back memories of love. My problem is there are so many songs that bring back so many of these. Shame of me because I have more than one love. Honestly, I cannot remember how many times I have been hurt but then again its part of growing up I suppose. There are times I broke down and cried when a song is played but eventually shrugged it off. Life goes on...