Is there a difference between saying "I love you" and "I'm in love with you"?
By amorlife1
@amorlife1 (370)
South Africa
March 20, 2010 10:42am CST
I've been dating this guy for a while now. But every time I tell him I love him, he responds by saying "I'm also in love with you." At first I found it romantic, but after a while it began to bother me that he didn't say "those three little words". He never says "I love you", only "I'm in love with you". Is there a difference between the two? Is there something I should be concerned about? Lotter guys and gals please help me on this one?
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5 responses
@achilles2010 (3051)
• India
21 Mar 10
You love him and he thinks he is in love with you. There lies the difference in loving someone and in thinking that one loves someone.
@amorlife1 (370)
• South Africa
21 Mar 10
From what you're saying, if he says "I'm in love with you", then it means he only thinks he loves me. If he truly loves me, he has to say "I love you"... am I correct?
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
It doesn't matter. Your lucky to have him then why do you still find the time to be suspicious? If you only think otherwise better separate from him. If you don't trust him then you can find another freely.
@amorlife1 (370)
• South Africa
21 Mar 10
I'm not suspicious of him. I do trust him fully. And I don't want to leave him. I just wanted to find out if there is a difference, and what it was.
This seems to have touched a soft spot for you... want to talk about it? :D
@fiazio (734)
• India
20 Mar 10
hey,
Love is a complicated thing, every person has their own definition for love.
I personally do think if there's a difference in the way of saying the 3 words, there is a difference in their meaning.
You should find the answer out yourself
best of luck!
@amorlife1 (370)
• South Africa
21 Mar 10
So you're saying there is a difference? what's the difference to you? I'm trying to find out. Especially from a man's point of view.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
20 Mar 10
Well, be proud of it. I love you is a dialogue like any one can tell it. When he says I love you, it means for the time. When he says Im in love with you, it means he is, he will for ever. So be happy, he wanted to express in different words, but ultimately he is in love with you!!
@amorlife1 (370)
• South Africa
21 Mar 10
I hadn't thought about it that way... Maybe he is just being different from everyone else. But I'll ask him anyway, just to be clear.
@writecheck (40)
• United States
20 Mar 10
I don't really think there is a difference. If he's in love, he loves you. Have you told him that it bothers you that he says these words? Don't assume that he doesn't love you because he hasn't said the three words. Ask him what he means!
@amorlife1 (370)
• South Africa
21 Mar 10
That's the thing, I don't know if I should be bothered. It sounds like it's the same thing. And he hasn't done anything to make me feel otherwise. It's just weird that he chooses to say "I'm in love with you" all the time. Maybe if he said either of the two, even if he said "I'm in love with you" more often.
But maybe I'll ask him anyway. I just wanted to get some insight first from the Lotters.
