One unique phycological problem
@shahbazkharadi (81)
Pakistan
March 20, 2010 5:36pm CST
I have a friend he is suffering from a very uncommon phycological problem he is so disturbed and so shy that he even dont tell this problem to his family although they may have noticed but probably didnt think of it as a problem i asked him that on this site i could get many answers on wheter is there a phycological disorder such as this and if there is than what are the diagnose iam asking here because he does not contact a phycatrist .
His problem is that he always sits at home he dont go outside and play because he is so extremely shy and when he goes out he thinks the people are watching him they are noticining his behaviour so his walking style gets disturbed and he starts shying and fearing he likes to play games alone at home on ps2 and watches tv he used to eb good at study but nwo he is no more good at it he lacks so much confidence that he cant talk to anybody stranger and if he talks to them he dont know what to say and where to start at and obviously he is extremely shy talking with girls he never talks with them
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
21 Mar 10
To me it also sounds like your friend has social anxiety. You say that he hasn't contacted a psychiatrist, is that because he is against the idea or because it is too difficult for him to talk to a stranger? If he can't contact a psychiatrist alone maybe you can help him make an appointment. I think that it would be a good idea to talk to a psychiatrist so that he get help and get a proper diagnosis, but if he doesn't want to you can't force him to talk to someone about he problems.
Many people with social anxiety try to hide their problems, because they are afraid what other people think of them, but I think it is important to get help because it is hard to live with social anxiety and it affects many different aspects of his life.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
21 Mar 10
Hi cowboyofhell! I have also talked to psychiatrists who didn't help me and where I felt that I was wasting my time, and I understand what you mean. But other psychiatrists have helped me a lot and I don't regret asking for help. Actually the only thing I regret is that I didn't ask for help when I was younger, and I feel that my life could have been different if I had done that.
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
I visited psychiatrist 2 years ago. They didn't help me. All is just question and answers. No treatment. I felt like I came from a job interview instead of a psychiatric center.
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@shahbazkharadi (81)
• Pakistan
21 Mar 10
hi porcospino actually that friend of mine is like us all but different he is veryclever intelligent also and the fact that he dont concern a phycatrist is because he fears that his family will ask him why did u contacted the phycatrist ?he will obviously not answer this because he is too shy to even tell this thing to his family he wants nobody to think that he is a bit phycho he has only told this thing to me and i cnat help him i cant take him to the phycatrist i cant tell this problem to his family because his family dont know that he is suffering from this problem and he is happy with it he wants nobody to realize that his some actions are abnormal
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@shahbazkharadi (81)
• Pakistan
21 Mar 10
hi iridium can you plz elaborate have you met any person with such signs than plz answer me in detail and the answer above that tis because of puberty isnt correct he is 18 a grown up
@shahbazkharadi (81)
• Pakistan
21 Mar 10
yah iridium actually the name of the problem i didnt knew nor did my friend knew the name of this problem thanx for nameing it social anxiety disorder i searched it and found some usefull material thanx
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Mar 10
Social anxiety - my daughter is the same way. We are thinking about getting her into counseling. The doc was talking about medication, but I don't want to go that route.
@DarthJustice (2014)
• United States
21 Mar 10
It sounds like your friend is very possibly suffering from Social Anxiety Disorder and/or potentially even agoraphobia. I have Social Anxiety Disorder myself and actually, it goes well beyond "just" plain ole everyday shyness. IF he does have it (I'm not psychologist so I can't say one way or the other), then unlike someone earlier said, he might very well need to see a doctor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. It IS a mental disorder, after all.
What you said about feeling like people are watching him and and all that, that's a very common symptom of social anxiety. I experience it all the time myself, like when I try riding my bike for example (which is one of the reasons it's so hard for me to do).
@jugsjugs (12967)
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21 Mar 10
This is a problem that a few people suffer from.The problem is when you used to be able to go and chat to people aswell as go to pubs,shops etc then you stay indoors for long periods of time it makes you so that you do not want to go out as you seem to have a fear of walking into a pub or going into a shop as you think everyone is going to stare or just are too scared to go to a place that you do not know anyone.You also get to the stage where as you shut your self off totally and that is when you do have a problem to get back to how your life used to be.
@shahbazkharadi (81)
• Pakistan
21 Mar 10
yah quite right when he walks he wish he was alone on the path if he see a bunch of people of his age laughing he thinks they are laughing at him actually they are not he thinks they are staring i searched it in wikipedia but i want to know how this problem can be reduced because life canot go like this iam worried about him
@shahbazkharadi (81)
• Pakistan
21 Mar 10
hi jasmeena hes 18 and now iam researching on what cures and measures to be taken as i know now that its a problem many people have
@Margajoe (4747)
• Germany
21 Mar 10
Sounds like puberty to me. How old is he?
Could be he has been going through hard times.
Lots of people go through this kind of thing in life.
Normally, it goes away slowly.
Once he starts to enjoy life, he will forget his fears and live normal again.
Somewhere he lost his self confidence, but he will get it back.
Just needs to find a nice hobby, something to keep him active in life.
Maybe learn how to play the guitar. That helped me a lot.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Mar 10
shahbazkharadi He needs to see a good psychologist and get some help as he is suffering from
what they call Social Anxiety, It is just what you have described, a person who gets scared to go out and meet people, and so shy he panics at the thought of having to mingle upsets him. He just needs a bit of help and a psychologist can give him that help.Talking to him, maybe prescribing something to relax him, but more like just talking and giving him ideas as how to build his self confidence up.I am no psychologist at all but have read about this, and I am also shy but not that bad. I have a few friends I enjoy very much and I am okay in crowds now.
what they call Social Anxiety, It is just what you have described, a person who gets scared to go out and meet people, and so shy he panics at the thought of having to mingle upsets him. He just needs a bit of help and a psychologist can give him that help.Talking to him, maybe prescribing something to relax him, but more like just talking and giving him ideas as how to build his self confidence up.I am no psychologist at all but have read about this, and I am also shy but not that bad. I have a few friends I enjoy very much and I am okay in crowds now.
@sheen13 (567)
• India
21 Mar 10
I don't think that your friend is suffering from any kind of phycological problem. It's just about his lack of confidence and because of this lack of confidence, he feels shy. That's it. If he changes this attitude of his and feels confident to do everything, then I am sure that he can go outside and talk to everyone and do everything whatever he wants to do. But if he is still quite unsure that he has some phycological problem, then he should better tell his family about it, because if he tells them, nothing wrong is going to happen nor they will make fun of him. And maybe they can suggest him and can take him to a phycatrist. And nothing is wrong in going for consultion to a phycatrist. If he goes and consults a phycatrist with his family members, then sure he will be satisfied and happy, if he comes to know the actual problem. Have a nice day!:)
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
He does not need a psychiatrist. He needs the environment that suit his needs. Wikipedia does not help. It is expert with detailing the disease but don't show much about the treatment. Everything require money to achieve something now. But to give a few tips:
1. Tell him to forget ps2 and tv and use the computer instead.
2. Tell him that he must read alot from the internet that show the language there.
3. Tell him to use visualization to improve his health and to avoid stress. I imagine about dholavira as my mind and the waters flowing inside and I feel cooler. I am suffering from fatigue.
By the way fatigue prevents a person from talking and socializing. The only solution to fatigue is games, sitting, sleeping, and visualization.
The one that struck your friend must be chronic fatigue syndrome.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chronic_fatigue_syndrome
