Do you forgive yourself for a past mistake?

What I usually feel is stupid, not anger. I have found that it is best to not answer e-mails after just one reading, especiallly if they involve emotion of any kind. This gives me a better chance of looking at the original e-mail from different points of view. Helps to keep me out of trouble, SOMETIMES

Yes I do tend to make blunders as you did and just recently too. I really did mess up too--- I jumped in made a complete fool of myself as I learned later. But I do admit my mistakes and tho I lost a freind I have now cautioned myself to watching the wordage of each mail. I do forgive myself tho , do you?

sometimes and I have to retract them but live and learn is all ya can do

It is human nature to err...but forgiving from our side is quite a divine one.

I think we all jump to conclusion. my son says i am real good at doing that, lol. I can admit to my mistakes, thank heavens. It's hard to read people by their responses on here sometimes. I have done the very same thing. Don't feel mad at yourself, u realized u were wrong & made it right w/your friend. Glad u didn't lose your friend over it.

We all make mistake,as said, " To err is Human", i think those are Shakespeare's words , really beautiful, every one makes mistakes you just have to get over it..

We all make mistakes. Some of us even learn from them. :-) I'm much more likely to admit a mistake and that I'm sorry if somebody isn't shoving it down my throat. PS somehow I feel like I've already responded to this lol, but I'm too lazy to go check all 5 pages and see!

Hey zandi! I think that making mistakes is just part of life! And admitting them is part of being human! If I make a mistake, I will be the first to admit it! If I have said something and misconstrued something then I will apologize! This is just all part of living and learning! No one is perfect, although I do know some people who believe that they are and also believe that they are always right!lol But, if you can't admit to making a mistake, then you are taking yourself and life far too seriously! As you have said, give yourself a break! We all can't be perfect or right all the time!

I am seeing a psychologist at the moment and forgiving self is one of the issues we discuss regularly because I tend to be a bit of a perfectionist, therefore set high standards for myself and when I err I find it really difficult to get past it. My husband once said that I can be my own worst enemy and that hit me as the reason I am so hard on myself so now I am working on becoming my own best friend instead! It is human to make mistakes and there is no way humanly possible that we can go through life without ever making errors, we just have to care for ourselves enough to forgive the self...

Well, we are human and had made so many mistakes in past. My mom always says that do not brood over your past mistakes and failures as this will only fill your mind with grief, regret and depression..move ahead and do things well.. You are not defined, as a person, by your past mistakes. They were events that were a tiny part of your life and do not sum up who you are. A mistake is just an event in your life. There really are no mistakes, just decisions you made based upon the perceptions you had at the time. Past mistakes are a direct result of a path that you were following that you thought was best for you. You now know which direction you don't want to go. Focus on what you have been taught through the past but then move forward. I think if you have someone in your life who is trying to keep you from forgetting and moving on, realize that it is their own world they are creating. They may enjoy holding those feelings and thoughts of past mistakes over you. You don't have to participate. You can choose to let it be a part of your life now, just like they do, or brush it off your shoulders and keep moving forward toward what you really want in life. If someone feels badly about you because of a past event or 'mistake' and you have done all that you can do to rectify the past, but to no avail, you must decide to move on. You know that our past is an important part of who we are. It teaches us what we want and don't want and helps us with our future decisions in life. But that's all it is. Get over it and live the life you want. You'll be glad you did.

Sometimes i can`t forgive myself. I tend to blame myself when something goes wrong, especially like in my age (33), I am still single. My friends say that I am energetic, cheerful but deep inside i don`t feel confident being single at this age and I am being haunted by my past mistakes and blamed myself from letting it happen.What i have to do now is to accept myself and feel comfortable with it..

I did something wrong some years ago, at the beginning, i didn't care but it was after two years, i was thinking about it and i was really hurt but today, since several months, i forgive me and forget this fault, i have learned from it and i say to myself that it doesn't matter if i regret or not, the error is has already done.

Hi zandi dear i think it happens with each of us some day or other, to err is human, i admit my fault and beg appolgy if i realize it or some body points it out, it restores our relation back to normal Happy posting, cheers Professor

It's not always easy to admit that you are wrong, what makes it worse is that some people can be so hard on you but for as long as you have made peace with yourself and you have accepted that you have made a mistake, you shouldn't add to your turmoil by beating the issue to the ground. Standing-up once again, doesn't have to mean you are not remorseful..but we all have to move on and start over.

Yes, I easily admit to my mistakes as a rule and make sure to apologise. But I have a hard time forgiving myself, and can be depressed for days if I've behaved with genuine unfairness towards another. Also, I have a very serious problem about forgiving myself for a lifetime of follies and mistakes; I know I should, but I see them as a burden I have to carry about with me always, and they weigh me down hard.

We are all humans after all and we are bound to commit mistakes. What is important is for us to learn to say sorry and admit our mistakes and then learn from it so that we will not commit the same mistakes again. Forgiving oneself is important because if we don't know how to forgive ourselves we will be very unhappy all our life.

Hello zandi, It's good that you realize immediately the mistake you've made. And what's better is that you were able to admit it and ask for an apology to your friend. You are right, we are human and we commit mistakes from time to time. Like you, I believe in that, aside from the fact that nobody is perfect. So when I commit mistake I would clearly admit it and ask for apology. And the important part of this is that I should learn from that mistake and hoping that it will never happen again.

Sometimes, it's a bit hard to forgive myself especially if I've committed a grave mistake. It stays in my mind for a couple of days. But we have to accept that we're not perfect and we are bound to make mistakes. I think my best consolation would be that I learned something from that mistake and hopefully will not repeat it in the future.

no ones perfect lol.. yeah that's right admit your wrong and make an apology to the one you mistaken,

I strongly agree with you. Forgive other is very important, especially if our friends have a very large one. Because, maybe one day we will also make the same mistake , too. Thus, there is nothing wrong if forgive othe as well.