trust!!!

@saphrina (31551)
South Africa
March 21, 2010 12:37pm CST
I may step on a few toes, but that is life, get used to it. I wonder how many of you really know what the word trust means?? I can promise you, this is not a swear word. Sometimes i wish it were. Now, if you break someone's trust, do you expect them to forgive and forget? Some do, but i don't, EVER. So, tell me what you understand of that word that everybody so convienantly forget about??
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11 responses
@primeaque86 (8108)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
It's hard honestly... Sometimes I do not know where I did wrong and I broke somebody's trust! Or unless she would tell where... conveniently forget? Trust is treasured. But nobody is perfect...
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
21 Mar 10
I agree. Nobody is perfect. But trust is very important. And that is what makes life a living hell. Not knowing who to trust.
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
Any broken trust can be fixed... yes it's hard... but someone must look at the reasons... generalizing it then can make it harder...
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
21 Mar 10
I am sure that everyone here, know by now how i feel about trust and honesty. If it can be fixed, i don't now. And now, i don't care anymore. All i know, i am really very sad.
@cloud31 (5809)
21 Mar 10
I believe trust is not an instant feeling and it has to be earned..I seldom trust someone and even anybody when I say I trust you that meaning it all by U..If you are going to break my trust I will never forget but I can forgive..Trust is a bond between believe, assurance,confidence within that person to pacify and conciliate.. That word trust is what you did you others that they think you are worthy to be "TRUSTED".. I can say saph,I TRUST YOU..because you're simply of what you think you are...and for me to think who you are.. Happy myLotting!
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
21 Mar 10
Yes, i agree. It has to be earned. But how can you forgive someone who has broken your trust. I have never in my whole life broken my promise when it came to trust. Why should someone break mine?
@cloud31 (5809)
21 Mar 10
Different people has different initiative and perceptions of the word trust..You trust them because you think they are worth to be, forgiving is just always at hand saph, you know how to forgive someone then move to another one,someone broke their promised to you its just a proven that you trust the wrong person. A trust is not always a word imply to anybody you think they should..You have to learned to trust someone whose worthy to be trusted.
@cloud31 (5809)
21 Mar 10
proof**
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
23 Mar 10
Hello Saphrina! I think that nothing could be bad than breaking someone's trust. Trust is a belief which you put on others and you expect that the other person will keep it intact and will not cheat you. However, when s/he does you feel let down. I do not like to betraying anybody's trust. Those who put on their trust on me, I fully honour them, under every circumstances.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
24 Mar 10
Saphrina! You are always welcome for any advice, it would be my pleasure to share my experiences with you. Deepak PS - Pl. see your PM and respond.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
23 Mar 10
Thank you sweetie, i knew you would be along soon to give me some good advice. And i am glad to hear, that you are such a good person. TATA.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
23 Mar 10
And that is what i like about you. Honest and you always make me laugh. Thank you for that. TATA.
@billzehua (573)
• China
27 Mar 10
To me trust is built up by how well we know each other. to trust some one once is not hard, and to give others trust once is also not hard. but how to prevent any distractions during the course and establish a long-term trust is much hard than a swear word.it requires strong observing of ourselves constantly.when there comes the distraction, some trust may hold on to the ground, some may not.if the trust values great to me, i hope there'll be a chance to fix it up. but sometimes, even if there's brokage to the trust, we need to give it more chances, that's faith.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
27 Mar 10
Yes sweetie, i know. But to gain that trust again, faith cannot always take your hand and guide you threw such an ordeal. Thank you. TATA.
@vandana7 (100603)
• India
21 Mar 10
Hi saphrina, I am a grown up. :) So I know that forgive and forget stuff is for books and movies. Yes, over a period of time, the intensity of pain does disappear, provided you are away from the scene completely. Otherwise, it may increase in its venomous content. :) What is trust as far as I understand is when I care for somebody, I would do nothing that would or could hurt the person.
@drkraven (521)
• Romania
21 Mar 10
I think it s quite safe not to trust anyone. If it s required only to act like you trust some. There is no use for this "thing". It never brings something good.
@vandana7 (100603)
• India
22 Mar 10
What has mylot got to do with it? You can avoid the person out here! That is far more easy than in real life. But if it is likely to keep you in that phase, then may be, it is better for a while. Looks like you have something that hurts there. Take care my friend. Remember we are all there for you.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
22 Mar 10
Yes Vandana, and the only way to distance myself from this will be to get away from myot a while. This is something that can really hurt very deep and hard. Thank you.
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Hi Saphrina! Trust is something precious and fragile that you should handle with care. When trust is broken juts like the broken pieces of glass you may be able to put the pieces back together but the traces will remain. The glass will no longer be as smooth as it used to be. I believe that everyone deserves a second chance. I can always forgive the person who betrayed me but I cannot assure that he/ she can have my trust back 100%.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
22 Mar 10
And that is what i am most afraid of. To ever trust again. Will there be a second time? Thank you.
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
I believe there is. If we really love the person we can take a risk and give that person a second chance. I never thought I would be ever to do so. I used to think that I can never ever give anyone a second chance once that person has lost my trust. However, fate tested. My husband at one point betrayed me by having an affair with someone else. I knew the person because she was our officemate. She was one of our staffs and I'm a Supervisor. I was so hurt. I was pregnant during that time. The pain was too much for me to bear that each time I see him I'm reminded of how the person I have trusted and loved so much has caused me so much pain. He asked for a second chance. I took the risk. It was hard at first. There were times that when I'm reminded of what he did I would suddenly feel hatred towards him. I would cry at night while he is beside me and I knew he understands that I was is too much pain. He would hug me as I cry. I would sometimes pick a fight and provoke him. However, after almost a month everything went fine. One reason also is because he really tried hard to gain my trust again. I can't say that he gained my trust back 100%. However, it no longer causes me pain whenever I am reminded of what has happened. We're both happy right now with a 5 month old son and another baby coming in 5 months time. :)
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
26 Mar 10
Sweetie, i am so happy for you. I know things will eventually turn out just fine. But, unfortunately, it takes me a long time to really trust someone again. TATA.
@laglen (19759)
• United States
21 Mar 10
trust in my opinion means being honest and representing yourself correctly. I think a breach of trust is a very hard thing to fix. I wouldnt say I never forgive, but it does take a while to get that trust back. Other peoples trust in me means a lot and I do not like to go against that.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
21 Mar 10
And that is exactly how i feel about it. You have to trust others, but they don't see the need to trust you. Very strange.
@shello (964)
• United Arab Emirates
22 Mar 10
Trust is not gain but it is to be earned. When I say I trust a person, then he/she could be someone who is close to me. But once my trust on someone will be broken then it is very impossible to regain it. I believe that when trust is not anymore present in a relationship then I can say that it's not an intimate one it could be just civil or merely a casual relationship.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
22 Mar 10
And so rightly said. Thank you.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
21 Mar 10
Trust tells how close we are to the person. We can trust someone unless we like them and we love them. We cant trust a stranger. Its depends on the person, everyone does mistakes, it depends on those mistakes are done knowingly or in ignorance. I will think upon forgive or not first, then forget about it totally.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
21 Mar 10
No, you cannot trust people you do not know. And forgive and forget, there you are a much better person than i am.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
21 Mar 10
its difficult to know who to trust and who not to, unless you have trusted and find your trust betrayed.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
21 Mar 10
And to find that trust betrayed is very hard to handle. People have no idea how much they can hurt someone when breaking that trust.
@jrocas05 (114)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Same here. If I lose that trust It is hard for me to give it back. I haven't given to anyone who betrayed my trust. And I don't think, I will be able to that really soon. I think because of I got sick and tired of people that I loved lying to me. ANd this happened. But I am trying to learn to trust again. I have to.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
22 Mar 10
And that is the hardest. To try to learn to trust again. Good Luck. Thanx.