Will you be happy to learn your friend and your secret love already a couple?
By edorms36
@edorms36 (275)
United Arab Emirates
March 21, 2010 2:01pm CST
I have a friend who's been really dear to me and so was she to me, we get along really well and I can confide in her even my most troubling problems and she listens well and speaks her mind whether it be in disagreement of my opinion, I value her kindness and friendship to me, meanwhile I have this guy who I cherished in my heart, I think I have grown to love him even from afar. I was scared to show him how I really felt, so I just kept it to myself and be contented on loving him from a distance. A day came for me to learn that my friend whom I value the most and the guy whose dear to my heart are already together and they are already a couple, though they are keeping it a secret for some reason, I wanted to be happy for my friend for having someone to love and care for her, but I just can't be that happy, how will I when a part of my heart is dying whenever I get to realize that they are in a relationship which I wanted myself to be. Tell me, will you be happy to learn your friend and your secret love are already together building the dream you are dreaming?
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5 responses
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
22 Mar 10
Hi Friend... I am sure no words can console your aching heart at this moment. I can understand what you are going through. Two contradicting feelings have been created in your heart. There is happiness that your best friend is engaged and there is a feeling of some terrible loss that your friend is engaged to the guy you liked. I am sorry for what has happened!
Please don't think about these things anymore.. I know it is very tough, but you can do it! From you post, you sound a confident person and I am sure you'll be able to overcome this emotional disaster. Get busy with things that you like... Read books... Watch movies... Play your favorite indoor/outdoor games... Exercise (it helps tremendously)! You can do a lot honey... Just don't get emotionally involved in whats going on! It leaves us no where...
Go to stay at some other place/town, for some time, if it is possible. I am sure the change of place and surroundings will refresh you. There are no perfect solutions to aching heart, but we really can reduce the pain... Be happy that your friend has got a soul mate... And I am sure, I assure you, promise you that you'll find a Prince Charming of yours very very soon....
Have a good time! 
@edorms36 (275)
• United Arab Emirates
23 Mar 10
Thanks very much for your comment I really appreciate all these, it somewhat get me to realize that It can be possible for me to move on... I hope to receive more comments from you on some discussions that I'm going to be starting, because as I can see you are someone whose got a gift for giving out good advices... I just don't know but your comment enlightened me...thanks again.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
23 Mar 10
I am glad that my post has brought some kind of a good feeling to you.. Trust me, it is not difficult to move on.. and moreover, the sooner you move on the better it is for you. The more you indulge in grief, the more it'll get difficult to forget those unhappy memories...
I am not sure whether I am really good at 'advices', my friend; I have learned these things from experiences in my past... There is no better lesson than experience, right? I will certainly be very happy to advice you on any matter. I am not a wise guy, but I have been through a lot of ups and downs, which helps me to advice...
Please remember that you are not alone, many have suffered and are still suffering, as you are. It will go away soon, just like storm it'll simply pass. The faster you come out of it, the faster your Prince will come to you. Trust me!!!
Have a nice time!!!
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Well I wouldn't be happy but I have to understand that I'm not in a position to be angry at them because you and that guy don't have any intimate relationship. I believe that your friend and that guy doesn't have the intention to hurt your feelings or to let you down. If you were a true friend and you want the guy to be happy, you have to be happy for the both of them. It's not that easy but you just really have to. He must have been the guy who's not meant to be with you.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
I think you have no reasons to hate your friend for it since you did not make any efforts in knowing the person you are fond with. I think you should be happy with her and despite there is something inside that hurts I guess its time to move on and not make yourself miserable knowing that she got him first over you.
