your lover can't get over to his past love

If it that happened to me I will be outraged! Even though he doesn't do anything to get back with his ex, it's still cheating because his heart belongs to someone else. I would never be with a guy like that. Kissing and hugging me when he thinks I'm asleep is nowhere near enough to make me stay.

Im unexperienced in love but if ever of course it'll hurt me so much,but if he's doing things to make me feel at ease maybe there's no need to worry?because he doesn't want me to be hurt,BTW does he know that you know about this?,well if he keeps on doing that doesn't it mean that he loves you too?i mean the kissing and hugging while thinking that you're asleep,don't worry just make him fall for you even more,there might be some time where you'll feel insecure about his ex,but eventually he'll love you as time passes by you may not realize it but the time will come that you'll see he loves you more than anything around him,it will happen soon:)don't be impatient with him,make him feel that you really really really love him too :)hope that helps,sorry if ever some of my words offend you,but i hope there's nothing to be offended in what i said,just to your best to give love!!you'll receive it back :)

wow!!! the thing is between you and him... if he loves u and u love them then you two should have a little talk about this and get over it soon before something else happen. I understand that, he can't forget the pass but he has to learn how to let it goes sometimes. Just like me, a few years ago I still learned that I couldn't forget my ex and I always remember him and wanted to talk to him... however, I have to let it goes cuz he didn't have the same feeling with me... so useless... If I can't be with someone I really LOVE, But I have to learn how to love something that I have now. lolz... hey you are a strong woman, I can tell

I do not know if I will admire you for sticking with him. I guess, yes, because you have the guts to do so. You used the right word - killing. That fact that he is with you but his mind wanders somewhere else - like you mentioned, his ex is enough to really break you into pieces. Well, I guess people take things differently. For me, I do not think that can still continue the relationship if he does not feel anything at all. I do not want to be loved on the rebound. He may not have done anything to be with that girl, but you deserve to be loved. Yeah, they say that it is better to give than to receive, but you ought to think of yourself as well.

You should forgive him and don't be so harsh on him. I know because I've been there. I'm pretty sure he loves you but every true relationship with someone always leaves a mark on you, whether you like it or not, I think you'll agree there if you had some. Maybe it's a good idea for you to make him meet her and get some closure, and then if he really wants you over her he'll come back. Sometimes letting someone free proves love and wanting someone bad gets you misery. Or maybe you will find you cannot forgive him for the secret and look for happiness (instead of comfort) somewhere else? It's your call...

I think the best way is you get over to his past love. If you insist in thinking his past, it will make trouble for both of you, you may bother him and also make you upset. You can't change his memory, he can't forget it, but you can treat him well to help him forget his past. I also experience such situation, but I found my suspect only made things worse.

i cannot be with the person whom i know will wish me for someone else. the thought that he's in love with his ex took away the assurance that he would love me as long as forever. it will be unfair on my part and i would certainly think that those hugs and kisses he'd give me was really intended for someone else, and not for me, for he cannot love me with all his heart when he's still in love with his ex.

Well I would doubt if he was really loyal to me... I won't consider him loyal if he's still in love with his ex. I mean, that's a big foul or should I say an insult on my part. I'm willing to set him free and be with the one he really loves. I know he'll be happier being with her.

I think there's no reason for you to continue having a relationship with this person if that is the case. Why would you want to have a relationship with someone who is not inlove with you 100 percent. Its actually easy if you need to do something about it. Leave him/her and that's it. You can always look for another love cause that kind of love that you have for him is not love at all so why settle?