How good are you as a friend?
By wengkulit
@wengkulit (17)
Philippines
March 21, 2010 9:11pm CST
Since we are a child we have already friends, like our parents, our grandparents, our teachers, our neighbors and our classmates.But how good are as friend?
As what they say, a friend is a person who is always at your side when your feeling down, will always support you and will give some piece of advice when you have a problem. But what if you just mis communicate for sometime, and your feeling that there is a gap within your friendship, and your friend found their a new set of friends. what will you do to be able to back the friendship that you had?
I had this friend and were like sisters, we kept secrets, we share what we have, she is close to my family and so am i to her family, just like sisters. During college days, she just broke up to her 3 years almost boyfriend and it affects our friendship because almost every night she got drunk, whatever i do she wont listen to me, i tried to stop her but she just ignored my advice, until she found a drinking buddies and they become her new friends. As what I've seen to their picture she is happy and comfortable when she is with them. Now, i'm asking myself if I've a good friend to her? maybe I am but, where did i go wrong?
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9 responses
@Bhadine (594)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
Your friend is facing hard now and it's not really easy to listen to the advices of people who are not facing the same problem as theirs. Just give her time to move on, but on the process of moving on, see to it that you are always there on her side. Make her feel that even if she is having new set of friends now, you are just text away whenever she needs you.
@wengkulit (17)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
She always text me whenever she needs me, one text of her im always on the go. Maybe your right, i should give her much time because it's not easy to forget the person that you love the most. Thanks for your advise.
@swetashah (345)
• United States
22 Mar 10
I believe that you had done nothing wrong. You done what you can to help her, but she simply won't accept your help as a good friend's advise to her. So, let her alone, until one day she realize how great you are. Friendship won't come easy, and she has to come to realize it.
@wengkulit (17)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
I hope that she will never forget our friendship. What i mean is, even if she had her new set of friends i hope that she will still consider me as one of her trusted friend. Because nowadays its really hard to find a trustworthy friend.
@maryantilok (487)
• Singapore
25 Mar 10
i do not know how good i am at a friend , i think i am just as other people ,not really good ,also not bad ,friend need help if i can i will help them , if too difficult i am sorry to say no to them ,
@umit_umit (1984)
• India
22 Mar 10
well dear after some time and age when you start becomming more and more mature friendship matters but then your family comes first!but Yes i will be for my best friends any time!
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
22 Mar 10
friends - they come and go. but if you have been regularly around one or a few, even for a year perhaps, its good enough to say you have been a good friend as they have to you. i've known a few for many years now. if we can be a little more accommodating, being there when needed, not too sensitive, not being overly judgemental, friendship can last.
@eloveriz2004 (499)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
In my 29 years existence, there were countless people I've come across in this life's long journey. Some are just passers by, only few have stayed & became good friends. I am choosy when it comes to having friends, I like people who possess the qualities same as mine. If I'm an exceptional and trustworthy friend to them, my pals should be as how I am describing myself. To be a good friend, one must be forgiving, understanding, supportive, patient, thoughtful and kind.
@Paleflare (141)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Hello wengkulit, I would've done the same if I were in your shoe. Maybe she had problem. Usually when problems arise drinking is one of the best solution to forget it and you saw them drinking and happy you said? maybe she look happy in the outside but not in the inside. Why not trying to talk to her, talk it out she's your friend right? just a piece of advice. Good luck fried.
