What attracts you to your friends?
By newtalent
@newtalent (1112)
United States
March 21, 2010 10:41pm CST
Are you the problem solver? The listener? The know it all person? The one who gets what she wants when she wants it.
Why do certain people seek you out for certain things for you to handle? I have a good friend that is smart as a whip but cannot be cordial to people or in public when talking. She knows what she wants but is very abrupt about it.
Example: I mean, say she has a problem with the bank or something, I have to call because she has a strong personality and I have a way of making the employee think she (the employee) has control of the situation and I end up getting what I called for in the first place because she is being shown that this employee is the greatest person.
Do you know any people like that? Are you one of them that people are attracted to?
6 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
23 Mar 10
The main thing that attracts me to my friends is the fact that we are at the same stage in our lives. I've recently made a new friend whom I get along with very well because we are about the same age and we are also interested in many of the same things. The first thing that started our friendship was a companion to go to the movies with. Then, I introduced her to my family and I had the opportunity to know her family. Now, we are all getting along with each other. It is a great friendship.
In general, I think that the reason that my friends are drawn to me is that I am a good listener and I am also able to share information when it is asked of me.
@newtalent (1112)
• United States
23 Mar 10
Its funny how the little things we do end up making bigger changes in our lives. I like the fact there is no pressure and you r able to have a good time without putting a guard for protection. Friends come and go but companionship seems to outlast for some reason. Thanks for sharing.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
23 Mar 10
You are quite welcome. Thank you very much for the best response.
@smartyrox2 (22)
• India
22 Mar 10
friends are just friends.i like to make make friends those people only who are honest and down to earth.i like to enjoy such people's company because i am like the same.i like to mix into the group of people who are having the mentality same as mine.
@newtalent (1112)
• United States
23 Mar 10
Being yourself is a must. I think you cannot have a real relationship if you have to fake it when your around certain people. Trying to impress people just to make them like you is wrong. Thank you for sharing.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
22 Mar 10
Yes people or friends get attracted to each other when they find they are compatiable. When two people with diametrically opposite nature meet the chances of them staying together is remote.The willingness to help each other, to offer time to time advices whn sought and to help each other overcome emotional problems makes people become friends.
@newtalent (1112)
• United States
23 Mar 10
Compatibility is a must I believe. We also need to be on the same wavelength. I have friends that I just cannot relate too becuase their thinking is just too immature for me. They are though fun to be around. For a good laugh. Laughter is good for the soul. You have to let go once in a while. Being there for your friends and companions and vice versa is a good too. Thanks for sharing.,
@Rhazelle (356)
• Canada
22 Mar 10
Well I'm not sure, but I think people are attracted to me because of my fun and easygoing personality and that I make people feel comfortable and have fun around me. I've almost always gotten what I wanted and well, yeah. I don't know, I think I'm a bit spoiled in that sense. But so far as I know almost everyone who's talked to me thinks I'm a cool person and likes me.
@newtalent (1112)
• United States
23 Mar 10
Yeah you sound like a cool person to be around. There's nothing wrong with being spoiled. Being easy to talk to is a good feature in a friendship of any kind. I believe communication is the key to any relationship. Thanks for responding.
@newtalent (1112)
• United States
23 Mar 10
Having friends is a good thing. A social life can be pleasant when you have the time. I just find it ironic that certain people seek out certain companionship when they have a problem, wanna just have fun, or just hang out. We had this discussion and I was a bit surprised to hear that I the one that is more on the serious side but fun to be around. I can be analytical a bit, too. Companionship is great when it comes in cycles.
@Paleflare (141)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Hi newtalent, Friends are treasures that GOD gave us, Its up to us what will we do to that treasure, We may abuse it or cherish it. :)
@newtalent (1112)
• United States
23 Mar 10
So true. Sometimes we do abuse our friends and do not even see it. We take advantage of them and expect them to take our side no matter what. I am sure we all have done that at one time or another. I think we are more patient with our friends then we are with our own family and we can get away more with them. Thanks for your input.
