Hard to Forgive
By intelpink
@intelpink (163)
Philippines
March 22, 2010 3:28am CST
This is the common lines of people who are hurting especially by the ones they love. While others say that love is not love if you don't feel hurt and yet you still love that person. i have experience to be hurt by the people whom I trusted in fact she is one of my closest friend since I was young. But there was a time when she really magnified my mistakes even if I already said sorry to her and to all the persons I hurt. It was a very hard week for me. I really asked God to help me to forgive. I realized that time that only if we have the love of God that we can truly forgive. Now, I have forgiven her and she forgave me too, since then, whatever she may say against me I am not easily affected anymore because I know who I am, I know how to accept my mistakes and I know that only what God is saying is the final words and not the comments of other people.
13 responses
@bdn317 (25)
• India
22 Mar 10
Forgive and forget - are the key words if you want any relation to survive. sometimes our dear ones make mistakes or sometimes, they point out our mistakes, which we normally dont agree to, even though we act as if we agreed. I must say, its really hard to forgive someone if they have committed a serious mistake. but small petty things should never hamper any relationship.
@intelpink (163)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Yes, I think that's a great idea in terms of any kind of relationship. We really need to forgive and then forget. But I believe it also takes time to heal the wound. I also believe that all wound can be healed and that healing can really remove the scars in our hearts if we really forget the mistakes done to us.
@vielerfolg2010 (30)
• China
23 Mar 10
I think if the ones we love made some mistakes to us, we definitely feel hurt deeply, but because they are the ones we love, we could comprehend why they made mistake, so we can forgive.
But I don't think forgive equals forget. We only can make the mistake pass our life, never mention it again in normal life, but when such things or similar things happen again, we may feel offended, and bad memory come again. So what I want to say is never make the same mistake again, or the one you love will recall the memory and hurt a lot.
@yuhongchao1981 (286)
• China
23 Mar 10
Sometimes its difficult to control our feelings when we are hurt by others even we have known that should forgive.Well some mistakes should be forgave and some should not.Learning to forgive some petty mistakes is really important to have a good relation with our dear.
@apoljuice1 (730)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
I believe also that if you have strong faith in God, and if you pray to Him, and turn to him whenever you're hurt or troubled or in pain, He and your faith in him will take all that hurt away. Knowing that you have someone to turn to, knowing that you have a powerful ally beside you makes everything else petty, or small, or indistinct. Suddenly you don't need to condemn people for what they've done, whatever they've done to you that hurt you doesn't seem that bad. Because you know that there's someone up there who's thoughts matter more, and is always there and anytime of the day you can count on Him.
@zsazshie143 (77)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
yes its true, its really hard to forgive especially the that hurts you is your love one... but for me just a human instinct i would rather say i forgive you, but i wont forget it. we can still be friends, but not like before, there is already gap between us.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
22 Mar 10
It is not very difficult for me to forgive, when it comes to people hurting me, if they are close to me. I feel hurt more if a third person hurts me compared to my close friends. It is not easy for me to forgive. It takes me a lot of time and even I take some decisions to punish me if I have a mistake in hurting myself. I hate people who purposly hurt others.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
22 Mar 10
Hiya intel,
It´s really difficult to forgive anyone right away first of all comes the hurt, the anger, the why me feeling all of this needs to come up and if you need to feel upset recognize it and then let it go whichever way you can as it does no one any good to swallow it all as it could fester with time. If anyone needs to cry or get upset they should as it´s only normal to feel like this. Forgiving is one thing and forgetting is another also and sometimes it could take a long time to forgive how long depends on how deep the hurt is and on the person himself of course.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
typically, you d forgive a person for the mistake. when you hold it in, you feel like it s getting heavy inside. so it s better to forgive than to not forgive. although there s another option. don t get angry, get even. lol. this had served me quite well.
@busybee10 (3186)
• India
22 Mar 10
To live in this world we need lot of courage and strong will.Because we have to face many adverse situations. this is for soft people only - but the adamant people are the real winners s they can bare anything in life.
I feel better to forgive - which follows a small suggestive slogan as "FORGET @ FORGIVE" as told by some stalwart. This is the correct thing we have to do in life in order to have a peaceful life. Bemuse by forgiving any mistakes done by others you are not at all loosing anything - in fact you are gaining the excused persons heart, which they don't understand immediately. Later they will understand.
@jorish (18)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
yah!their are people who keeps on hurting us even though we didn't done wrong with them...they thought that forgiving is easy..duh, its true but forgetting is hard to do...once the glass is broken it can never be whole again..but some people though that its okey to hurt someone, and its their pleasure...so beware of that can of people...who are good at you and stab you at your back...
