Should I kiss my girlfriend?
@Astroshepherd (22)
China
March 22, 2010 4:30am CST
I have fallen in love with my girlfriend for half a year and she agreed to marry me three months ago. Up until now I haven't kissed her yet. Days later I'm going to see her at her school and would spend a few days with her around. She has agreed for me to hug her, but I am puzzled wether it is fit for me to kiss her. Who can give me some suggestions?
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@cloud31 (5809)
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22 Mar 10
This a mutual agreement between you and your gf,if she agree with the hug and asked her about a kiss,? If she will give you a permission to do then kiss her otherwise don't do it she might get disappointed on you..Wait till you will get married and kiss her....
Happy myLotting!
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
22 Mar 10
I am positive that this fellow is going to ask her before he kisses her and until he gets the confirmation, he wouldn't do that... hey but I think, it shouldn't be that way. I mean, these things are not said and confirmed and asked for... It just happens, right? I remember my first kiss... It was just a friend of mine from my college. We were done with studies by then and were working somewhere.. One day, we had a dinner date at her place and in the end while we were talking, we just felt it (both of us) and there was no word spoken- only our lips got locked with each others'... ... It was great though!
Very nice post!!! Have a good time!
@cloud31 (5809)
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22 Mar 10
I think it has to asked if I'm the one especially if both have no idea on what is kiss is all about.Just as simple word..And because it was you had the guts doing that, I believe this guy is not that expert as you otherwise he wont post here..you;re such a funny guy ..what locked!!!!
@Astroshepherd (22)
• China
22 Mar 10
Hey, what's so funny? I'm not that bad right? Should know that I made a thorough research on this "topic". If any university want a professor to instruct their students how to kiss, I'm thinking about answering.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
22 Mar 10
Hello friend... There is nothing wrong if you kiss the woman you love. It is pretty manly and it'll strengthn the bonds of love between you... Don't feel shy and do not hesitate.. There is no harm in Kissing, if you and your girl both are comfortable with it. In fact, the first kiss is such a memorable thing that you'll enjoy it a lot...
Have a good time!!!
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@Astroshepherd (22)
• China
22 Mar 10
eh...I have never tried it before but I assume kissing someone one love surely is a wonderful thing in the world.
@iamprolife2005 (414)
• United States
22 Mar 10
My suggestion to you is to wait to kiss her. It would be so much more exciting to wait until after you are pronounced husband and wife to kiss. It sounds so romantic of you to be respectful and to not have kissed her. What a gentlemen you are. I know it will be a long time before you two get married but it will be all the more worth it in the end. I think in the end she will respect you more and you will show her the utmost respect in waiting. Don't let the world dictate what you should do. If you haven't kissed her since you decided to marry her, it shows the greatest respect and honor to her. Save your first kiss after you are married. I hope you make your decision wisely. God bless!
Sincerely in Christ,
Leesa C.
Eph.2:8,9
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@Astroshepherd (22)
• China
22 Mar 10
You know what, I was thinking the same thing! Waiting certainly is a much more interesting thing. We are both Christians and she thinks there should be a limit as to what should be done and what should not, though brother and sister are falling in love. We should be approved by the Lord whatever we are planning to do, watching our conducts.
Our Lord Jesus bless you!
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
The safest part of the face or the body of a girl to kiss that a guy could give a girl is to her hand. It's kinda awkward but it signifies gentleness for me, I don't know with her... :) It's just a suggestion but we'll never know maybe it's a big deal to her.
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@marguicha (223010)
• Chile
22 Mar 10
This is a cultural thing, my friend. You should ask this question in China. Where I live, youngsters don´t have to be in love or talk about marriage to hug, kiss and do other things.
In the western hemishere there are other costums. I would not say they are better or worse: just different.
I wish you the best with your love. I was married for 40 years and know the importance of marrying by love from both sides. Life is full of difficult things but love helps to cope.
@marguicha (223010)
• Chile
22 Mar 10
I think it is very important to know how your fiancee feels about this. If men were caring lovers at first, there would be less problems in the world and by all means less marriages ending in divorces. I was blessed but know many women that were traumatized by the men that should have protected them. I think that now, her wishes are the most important thing.
@zsaedz143 (2)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
your really a gentle man. all your have to do is ask her. at least you will know if she agrees or not. kissing your girlfriend is a sign or express how you really feel for her. kiss is an expression, a feeling,to express and show how you really love her.
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@chulce (1537)
• United States
22 Mar 10
If culture doesn't stand in your way and you know you that you will be spending the rest of your life with her. I say just hug her in your arms, then kiss her.
But, if you want to be more polite and fell that it is necessary in your relationship, then talk to her. Let her know that you feel it is time to move forward in your relationship.
We are now in the 21st century, in the interest of relationships, many things have moved forward, and in some aspects we should all be a part of that movement.
Good luck and congratulations on your upcoming schooling and marriage.
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@Astroshepherd (22)
• China
22 Mar 10
Thank you, for your sweet advices. I believe the inclination to communicte freely is an important factor in preserving and refreshing relationships. Thanks!
@airakumar (1553)
• India
22 Mar 10
Great and hot topic yeah!! Yes, this discussion is dedicated entirely to the art of kissing..:-)
The first kiss is one of the defining moments in any relationship, so it is imperative that it be done with skill and care. It certainly puts a different dynamic in a relationship. For me, it’s allowed me to show little moments of affection without worry, like a kiss on the lips, on the cheek, overcoming many anxieties at the same time. Do it dudes, it’s a great feeling, and if she understand any anxieties, chances are she’ll think it’s cute or needs work :-D
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@Astroshepherd (22)
• China
22 Mar 10
To be honest, I am raw in this art, but I will be proficient someday and she will love me more. Thank you for your suggestion.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
7 Oct 10
Perhaps the best thing that you should have done in this kind of situation is to ask her permission. I know that I missed my husband far before the two of us were married and in fact even before the two of us were engaged. However, that was because it was something that both of us consented to. If it is something that isn't agreeable to her, then I wouldn't kiss her, but if she doesn't care and would in fact like for you to kiss her, then I would do it without hesitation.
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@danitykane (3183)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
hell yeah! LOL. Just kidding. Ask her if it is okay with her. I think, if both of you are talking about marriage things like that should be part of your relationship but still, it is something that both of you agreed. This topic is so cute.. LOL. it made laugh. Hihi!
Happy Lotting!
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@Astroshepherd (22)
• China
22 Mar 10
Thank you for your sweet suggestion. She is quit traditional but I think it is all right just for a little quick kiss.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
What? you are about to get married and not kiss even? If it's against your culture to kiss a girl before marriage then i guess you have to wait. I can't really give you any other advice because in my case me and my wife already have a child before we decided to get married. Pre marital s3x is against our culture too but i guess some cultures get obsolete in due time.
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@Astroshepherd (22)
• China
22 Mar 10
It is not against our culture, but we are not getting married that soon. We are both in school and I might have to abroad to study for three years. So it will be a long time before she actually is my wife.
@Astroshepherd (22)
• China
22 Mar 10
That will be sweet if I can be with her everyday and kiss her everyday, but we are in different cities and could not meet regularly.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
23 Mar 10
Can I ask you how old is she? does she has legal age to marry?
I would say that there is no harm in kissing your girlfriend
between two consenting adults. I find it strange to ask this kind
of question. Because for many of us here it comes just naturally.
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@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
what you haven't kissed her until now? what kind of boyfriend is that? joke. Well how old are both of you? so you are now getting married. YOu know it is okay if you ask her to if she wants to be kissed for all you both know you are in relationship I guess it is right for both of you to feel the joy of being kissed. Try to ask her and see what will happen. Be sure you know how to kiss because it is a major turn off if you have no knowledge.
@jd107nette (1454)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
just have the courage to ask her... ^_^ I'm sure she would love to.. ^_^
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
dear astro,
its so nice to have an inspiration while young and as long as studying is first your priority. and i imagine that you are a gentleman and respectful to your girlfriend.
it is good also that you think before acting.
i guess during some moments when you feel it is right to kiss, you can ask her. she has agreed to be hugged, maybe she will agree to a kiss but be sure to ask permission.
and if she agrees, your priority is to show to her and her parents that you can be somebody who can be independent, by finishing school, getting a job, save before marrying.
and welcome to mylot. enjoy it here.
ann
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@mithunkatula (87)
• India
23 Mar 10
i cant really advice you on whether you you should kiss her or not but you can ask her maybe she also wants (you never know) but dont go toooo far;-}}
@fallingfan (445)
• United States
23 Mar 10
I think if you decide to kiss her you should ask her permission first, since you say that she has "agreed" for you to hug her give her the chance to "agree" to kiss you, too. Since you have waited this long, wouldn't it be really special to save that first kiss for your wedding? Best of luck to you! Congratulations on the engagement!
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