Help! (for guys only)...
By emzymemzy
@emzymemzy (89)
Philippines
March 22, 2010 8:35am CST
I have this guy friend whom I like so much. It irritates me whenever he advices me to get married. Why is he like that? What does it mean when he suggest to me to meet other guys? Grrr... Is he blind, doesn't he no clue at all how much I like him. Argh! He is very frustrating. What shall I do to make him see? Please help! Thanks
8 responses
@the_gadfly (25)
• China
22 Mar 10
OMG.I responsed your last post right now.
Only one question :why not marry with him ? Tell him .
@emzymemzy (89)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
ahahaha.. Well, first of all he doesn't propose and we're still friends. I know he likes me but he keeps on pushing me the other way. So I keep telling him I won't get married whenever he tells me to get married. Actually, I'm not ready to get married yet. So many reasons. He just loves to tease me all the time. Maybe he's just teasing me too about getting married. I don't understand the works of a man's mind especially his mind. So what do you think I should do?
@the_gadfly (25)
• China
22 Mar 10
What do you mean "he doesn't propose "and "he tell me to get married"?
I don't understand girl's mind too.I think you'd better give you some time to think clear why you do not want to marry .Maybe ,i say maybe ,you don't love him.
hum ,I don't know.sorry ...
@emzymemzy (89)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
This is the situation.. We're not in a relationship. We're friends but his treatment to me is very special. He knows I'm not ready to get married yet but last saturday he suggested to me that I should get married. So he's not proposing. He just suggested it to me. Why is he like that when he knows I'm not ready?
@Gany15k (1673)
• India
23 Mar 10
My first question is...If you love him so much then why can't you go and propose..?
I don't know whether he likes you are not..Ok let us keep he likes you too and you also like him..Do you want the boys to propose always...?Whether there are any rules that they should...?
And you say that he is going on telling you about get marry soon.like that.In this case we can assume two things.
1.May be he didn't like you and diverting your thoughts over him.
2.He can also say that at least if he urges like this then you will come and propose him.He may expect like this.
So the final thing is first decide yourself.Be confident in your decision.Then go and propose if you like him...cheers.! All the Best !
@emzymemzy (89)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
Well, this is getting complicated. Because in my country's (Philippines) culture only men had the power to propose. Besides I'm not ready to get married emotionally and financially. So proposing to him is out of the question. I love him definitely. But on his part I'm not sure because he will say something and the next he will do the opposite of what he is saying. Maybe he is just testing me of what my reaction is to marriage to make sure of what he is planning to do in the future. So I decided to wait for his next move and let him have the guts to tell me honestly what he truly feels. Thanks anyway for the reply on my post. Happy mylotting.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Hi emzy! Well maybe his treatment to you is just really a friend. His thinking is not getting beyond that yet. Well maybe what you should do is to keep on impressing him and spend more time with him. Make your time together special. Just keep on showing him sweetness and time will come, he will realize how sweet and special you are and he will slowly falling in love with you. Good luck! Have a nice day! Happy myLotting! 
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
Well, next time he talk about marriage, just tell him that he needed to court you first. If he really mean what he is saying and if he really loves you, then he will do it, he will court you. He should prove to you first that he is serious that he really want you to be his wife.
@emzymemzy (89)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
yeah! I agree with you. He have a lot of hard work to do in convincing me to marry him. And I will give him a hard time. That will be his challenge. I really appreciate your advice. Thanks.
@emzymemzy (89)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Thanks. Actually it's the other way around. I'm the one who's not ready to get married. His treatment of me is very special but we're not in a relationship. Why is he talking marriage to me when he knows and aware that I'm not ready to get married yet? The mind of a guy is very puzzling especially his. Thanks for responding. Have a nice day to you too.
@ashutosh_15 (199)
• India
23 Mar 10
I'll tell You one thing :P some guys are like this, they don't want to ruin their friendship, maybe he's just afraid that if he proposed to you and you rejected then this is ruined forever, You wouldn't talk to him and stuff :P so even if he's saying get married, maybe he's waiting for you to say something like "why don't You marry me?" go for it :P say that ahahaha, also add up later that You're serious :)
GOOD LUCK ^,^v I'm sure you'll get along very well with him
@emzymemzy (89)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
Maybe I will when I'm ready to commit. Because for me marriage is a serious thing and I have to think it over and over before deciding. Anyway, I'll just let him propose in a proper way when he's ready too. Thanks so much for responding. Have a nice day.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
To meet other guys is one way of saying that he is not interested in you in a very subtle way. Although you like him, i guess the best way is to really do something to be appreciated, but i guess for love to work, it must be a two-way street for which in this case i think you are only in the losing end. Take his advice and meet other guys..
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
22 Mar 10
Hi, this happens in many love!. Next time when he asks to marry, tell him..you are not ready to marry and if he is interested, you will marry him and no one else. This will help you in two way. It will let him know your mind and your true love. Else he will be shocked and will never say to marry you someone. Many love stories bloom by this shocks, mine is one too!! Happy loving!!
@emzymemzy (89)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Thanks. I love him so. But I'm not ready to get married yet.
@passionyao (43)
• China
22 Mar 10
I am sorry to tell you that the most possible thing is that he doesn't like you so much. Maybe he wants you to give up but he doesn't want to hurt you. Well, this is my guess.If you want to get away from the current painful condition, you can try to express yourself. Anyway, good luck~
