my mind is yelling out loud ... but i just cant ..

You may be a good wife hun but your husband is treating you badly. Relationships are supposed to be partnerships but he is happily taking advantage of your good nature. Perhaps it might shake him up a bit if you stand up to him and make him do his own work.

I understand you wanna yell about this and you can't, so you feel even more upset. If I were you I'd leave my husband. Anyway but I'm not you, so, really, the only thing you can do about it is to talk about it. He probably won't want to talk about it - so then you can nag about it. But be prepared for the consequences. You know him more than I do, so you know how he'll react if you start a fight about this issue so, as I've said, be prepared. Anyway I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I don't think any good wife like you deserves a lazy husband like that. It seems like he's taking you for granted and I wonder if he even knows how you feel about it, and how tired you are after doing all the work you do. Hope he learns how to treat you better and take good care of you.

Hi Sweetie I can only suggest that you make things very plain to him Before you know it you will end up very sick I mean why can't he help you as you are out at work My Ex Husband never did anything either even though I was working long hours Tell him he has to buck up Sweetie and he certainly does his own Homework Hugs to you

the gravy train has to stop somewhere meaning you need to stop allowing him to be lazy. if he ignores you, so be it. if you allow him to push you around like this with his school work, he will always do it.

This is typical of the man we call 'husband'. They take for granted that we are their most 'obedient servants' and can push us around to do as they like and not considering the fact that some of us are holding full time jobs outside only to come back home to take the role of a housemaid. What is worse we have to be 'Florence Nightingle' when the light turns dim as their night nurse regardless of being in our OF or ON mode. . We can't change their mindset, we are destined to inherit what Eve's has done to Adam.

hello,sanjana.you two will leaving together for many many years,and I think some problems between the wife and husband should be solved in time ,especially the ones you cannt bear.OR things would be worse as time goes . have a face to face talk with your husband and seriously but with no temper tell him what you think ,feel ,and want. I believe your husband who loves you so much will take care of your feelings and make changes. hope your problems can be solved ,good luck .

I've been into that stage..not the homework part though. My husband was lazy too before. He doesn't to work every Monday, it was like an extended weekend for him. And I mean every single Monday of the year, unless his boss would arrange a meeting on that day which doesn't happen very often. He was always in front of the computer doing stuff which i didn't know. What irritated me even more was the fact that he would go home late like 3-4x a week, drunk. At weekends he can't find time with us because he would have a hang over so he asleep the whole day. At first I tolerated it, but as a human and a wife you simply got tired of it. I gave him an ultimatum, if he won't change his ways I can't be with him anymore. Gonna take the children with me and he can live like a bachelor. Probably he knows very well that i can do it and I am very capable of doing it so gathered himself. Now I could say that he has changed a lot. He still go out with friends, go home late had some drinks but not drunk like before. But now he finds time to be with us especially on a weekend. Let your husband know what you want and what you need. Don't allow him to do things that way coz it's unfair. If he won't talk to you so be it. Make him understand that you are not his tutor or nanny you know.

Oh dear what should I say, I think this is the common nature of a husband. Thank God my husband is not doing any course. He is doing like this only, he can help but needed my support there too and asking to help, better I can do it myself. I don’t need anybody’s help then. You sit with him and talk to him when he is in good mood and ask him to do it before dinner. Threaten him if he didn’t finish his studies earlier then.. ‘no dinner’.

hello dear, I am also a wife,but no way to treat me like that ok? I am not a perfect wife but i know i am a good one. I am a wife and not a servant. He should need some nanny to attend his needs,and a private tutor to do his assignments. Aw,...he doesn't own me either..i am only his wife,not his property. If i am in your position,i would surely dunk him like a basket ball,and kick him out of my life...

Hi Sanjana, not everybody is good at handling education at a later stages. People do become complacent, what is it going to give me anyway kind of thing. Therefore, your husband's attitude is not surprising at all. As long as food, clothing, shelter, and medicines are there, people dont feel motivated to move to the next step. It is the insecurity in respect of these things that possibly makes youngsters study well. You could keep discussing the lessons of the previous day while walking here and there, that way he would be at least forced to revise the previous day's lessons. Of course, this is just a suggestion. I havent got any experience on this.

Now that is a feisty situation. Okay, he needs to learn why he has two hands. You won't make dinner or get any take outs at all. If he is hungry, ''lift your butt and prepeare yourself something.'' That you can try for a week. If that doesn't work, we will work on the next one, next week. Even if you love him, you don't need to spoil him so much. TATA.

yes, you are a wife and you are not supposed to lineup for martyrdom, sanjana. talk it out with him, that's not what a husband, who's getting help to finish his education, should do to a wife that does almost everything... even give in to the pleasures of a married life... that's unfair and you have to open your eyes, also your mind...

hey sanjana, your husband should not be doing that. You guys are husband and wife and should share all the hardship together not putting them all on you. You guys better have a face to face talk before things start to get worse. If i was your husband, i would slap myself or hit myself. Putting all the work on a wife? is he even a man.