If They Were Not Family I Would Not Have Anything To Do With Them
By gewcew23
@gewcew23 (8007)
United States
March 22, 2010 6:26pm CST
I have a cousin that does not get along with his parents (my uncle and his wife so that makes her my aunt), they are like oil and water. Every time he go to their house it turns into a fight. I have asked him before why he continues to go over to their house, and he says, with a well is it not obvious tone in his voice, "Well I have too, they are my parents".
I am sure if we are all honest with ourselves there is at lest that one person in your family that you cannot stand. This person has nothing in common with you and the two of you clash. Yet this person shares the same last name, this persons mother was your mother's sister, or whatever so you still have something to do with them.
My question is this if you have someone in your family that you cannot stand but you put up with them because they are family, what if they were not? If they were not family would you still have anything to do with them?
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@sulynsi (2671)
• Canada
23 Mar 10
I can honestly say that there is no one in my family I can't stand.
That being said, I have no uncles, no cousins and only one, unmarried aunt.
My dad and I had to work on our relationship, but we have gotten along well for years.
I don't know my aunt that well, we hardly ever see each other. I wish I could know her better.
Does my husband's family count? I admit, a little of one of them goes a long way, but I don't despise them. I just like them from a comfortable distance.
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@hofferp (4734)
• United States
23 Mar 10
Gewcew, I really thought hard and the only person I really didn't care for, but I still got along with her ok, was one of my Dad's nieces (my cousin). I never let on that I didn't care for my cousin, because it would have hurt my Dad's feelings, and that's just not me. So yes, when we went to go visit them on the farm, I was pleasant. If she hadn't been family, I'd have ignored her.
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@epsjoice (57)
• United States
23 Mar 10
Hi gewcew23,
All of my husband's family lives in the area we live in. All of my family are in other states. None of these family members have ever helped us out, or even offered. My mother-in-law rarely (maybe 3 times a year) see's our daughter, her grandchild, and even when she does it is because we have taken her over to my mother-in-laws house. She makes no effort whatsoever to see her. None of his sisters or brothers make any effort to see our daughter either. If my husband were to pass away suddenly I doubt that I could count on them to help me at all. Don't get me wrong, I can't count on most of my family either. Both my husband and I have learned over the years to do whatever we had to do to take care of ourselves, still it is hurtful knowing that we cannot rely on any of these people. There are too many instances where they have taken advantage to mention here, but if it weren't for my husband, I would probably cut all ties with most of them.
