Losing Friends
By kainalu55
@kainalu55 (364)
United States
March 23, 2010 1:23am CST
I feel like i've lost most of my friends. It seems after i got married and had my daughter we just kind of went our seperate ways. Is anyone else in this situation? How can i rekindle these friendships?
6 responses
@marguicha (223099)
• Chile
23 Mar 10
It happens, my dear, specially if your friends have not married yet or do not have children. You will find friends that share your interests and in the future some of your old friends will return to you. Check in your neighborhood other young mothers. Invite their children to play with your daughter and have a cup of tea with the mothers while you watch the children play. This is another way to get your daughter to lear how to socialise. And if other people ask your daughter, if will be better as she will learn about being in someone else´s territory.
When I got married, most of my friends were single. We found young couples and became friends with them. That way you do things with your husband AND with friends.
@marguicha (223099)
• Chile
23 Mar 10
If you miss your friends, why dont you take the first step? A get together with kids (everyone brings something to eat) and the hubbies come to join the party. Nothing is better to kindle the fire of love than to have good times together.
@kainalu55 (364)
• United States
23 Mar 10
yes! i just have to make it a point to call everyone and get everyone together. I'm sure it will be lots of fun. I just need to get it all planned out, and call my friends, and stop procrastinating on it! thanks for the advice!
@kainalu55 (364)
• United States
23 Mar 10
we live in a very small town, so unfortunately there aren't many other people to become friends with. I wish we had a park or something nearby that i could take my daughter to, so she could be around other kids, and i could meet other parents that way. My friends do have kids as well..i think the problrm is we become to busy in our day to day lives and forget to make time for our friends.
@laurenban (194)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
yeah i felt the same way.
i sometimes think what's wrong with me? why am i losing my friends, in high school, in college, even my childhood friends! i admire those i know who are friends even in grades school yet they are still friends until now.
I am happy though that i came across facebook.com and get to know updates from my high school and college friends.
Maybe that's just life, people come and go...but what is important is that they became a part of your life and make you happy at certain time.
I know the camaraderie we have before won't be the same as today but it is good to get acquainted with them every now and then.
@marguicha (223099)
• Chile
23 Mar 10
I am 64 and I still have my childhood friend. We started our friendship in grade school, when we were 10 years old. But I got married very early and for some years I invited her for tea ( and played house with her buying icecream and sweets to pamper her). Later on, she got a steady b/f so we could do things as two couples. She has been nearer and far from my life at different times, even living in another country for most of her adult life. But we still are bossom friends. And now she is living at the US and we "visit" each other using our computer. Don´t worry! your real friends will come back!
@kainalu55 (364)
• United States
23 Mar 10
i do agree with this. When we do get a chance to hang out with eachother, it is like we never lost contact. I guess this is what real friendships are like. You may not see eachother for years, but when you do eventually get together again, the friendship is still there.
@kainalu55 (364)
• United States
23 Mar 10
i really only kept in touch with one of my friends from high school, one from 8th grade. I'm now 27 and we've kept in touch for most of these years up until recently. i see and talk to them occasionaly, but i guess we just get busy with our everyday lives.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
23 Mar 10
try contact your friend ... Don't wait you contacted by them. Losing a friend is lose most bad and it's not a good experience, right?
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
i ve lost most of my highschool friends when i went to college. although some still communicate through facebook and other networking sites. i just figured it s a new beginning for me. i met new people, went to new places and it was great.
@kainalu55 (364)
• United States
23 Mar 10
facebook is a great way to keep in touch with old friends!
@izziemint (94)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
Maybe you could try to set up a preferable date with your friends when all of you are not busy so that you have more time for each other. It's good to reunite with our treasured friends to bring back or reminisce the bond of friendship in the olden days.
@kainalu55 (364)
• United States
23 Mar 10
i agree. i will try to set up a time when we all can get together. maybe invite everyone over for a abrbeque or something one night. Friends are important and i do not want to lose my friendships!
@softwere508 (5)
• China
23 Mar 10
Call them occasionally!And tell them how was going,try to concern them,you will find it is not hard to manage a friendship!
@kainalu55 (364)
• United States
23 Mar 10
i used to keep in touch a lot more, and call my friends more often. I always think about it, but i never do get around to calling. i guess i just have to make it a point to call!
