i am scared to falling love again what should i do?....

Hello anitarei, good day to you. Your experienced is not quite easy to get over and move on with your life. But I believe that you can still get there step by step just take one step at a time dont rush yourself. Anyways you have your kids who you loved so much give much and more of your time with them. Then once you are ready to fall in love or date another guy it would be easy for you to mingle again. It would be also good not to compare your ex with your recent guy. However letting him know your experienced would be a good factor for him to realized that u've been a lot of things. So good luck with your new ventures in life, you still gonna see sunshine and smile up there...

Well anitarei321, I am not sure what he did, however I am sure it was really hurtful, however everyone needs to move forward. I believe there would be someone out there would be perfect for me. However since you have your kids, you need to find someone that would be able to handle your little one.

if you think it's true love why not? but you know friend, it's not easy to start all over again. Are you a divorse one? Thou you not feel anything about your husband., we may not know that time will come that he'll be back again to your arm. We might not know if your husband do still love you..i think it is still better to be with the person whom you brought on the altar of our Lord. but if there is no chance ahead of this thing..so why not look for another one who could give you good future..don't be afraid..you should be more responsible now, than before. Having more respect to oneself shows high self esteem

When we talked about love it's hard to explain because it is the feelings. And we cannot hold our feelings and emotions when we are in this situation. As long as you feel the love inside the more pain we experience and there are mix emotions as you have said. Scared to fall in love again. If you really need love then why not go for it. But if you think that you need the father of your children then you cannot consider the fact that you are scared. Try to explain your emotions and feelings so that he will understand you. Don't be scared.

well this situation is becoming common nowadays!see if your ex husband comes back again then!or if he wants to join you then?then you can move forward!

Hey, really understand you from your stroy,once bitten twice shy. Please remove the hurt from your memory. I know it 's difficult for every one. But you must to do. And there are a lots good men near you, you should to find him and touch him. bless you!

Hi Anita... First of all, please don't be scared of such a beautiful thing as LOVE. I have been through this ex pain and trust me, I know what that pain means. And yet, I am engaged to another beautiful woman, and we plan to marry soon.. Now, let us analyze your situation. You have kids and they definitely need a father. Moreover, you also need a soul mate. One can't pass life lonely, trust me! There is nothing to be afraid of being in love again. You also deserve a healthy relationship and don't let someone deserving go away, through your unnecessary scare. I am sure it is not hard to find a good and considerate guy and from your post I feel that there is someone already. Maybe, you like him! So why not materialize the relationship? Yes, before marrying with this guy, you will have to explain the situation to him. If he agrees to it, then fine... Otherwise, you can find a good guy. Trust me, life can't be passed all alone, everyone needs and deserves a soul mate... Good Luck!

Hi anitare, I'm sorry you got hurt in your marriage. I'm divorced too and I know it hurts like crazy at first and actually for quite a while. I raised my kids on my own. They had their father and no guy that I dated could take his place and I didn't even try to refill that role. You are smart for wondering if a guy can possibly love your children as well as you. Some can and many can't. I did try living with a couple of guys after the divorce and it is really hard to make it all work with kids and all. For me, I found it better to raise them on my own and date but not live with anyone. It all depends on your situation. My friend found a man and they eventually moved in together and he did help her raise her kids & they are still together and happy 20+ yrs later. Don't be afraid of love. To avoid getting hurt you will avoid ever finding love. There are no guarantees but you do get stronger and breakups don't hurt as bad.

hello anita, It's really hard to trust again,and fear to fall in love is one of the hardest fear to overcome with. The hurtaches still remain with time. It's not easy to moved on from past relationship,esp when we knew we gave our all to have a successful relationship with someone we love. No one wants to have a failed marriage,every bride dreamed of an ever after happy ending life like fairy tales. Every wife gives their best to have a happy marriage life and saved everything for a family life. And yet,sometimes,our best wasn't good enough. These are the reasons why it's hard to start and try for a new relationship,being scared to fail again. When the right love comes along...listen to your heart. Don't searc,let it come your way,and give yourself another chance. It's not easy to gamble again,at least give it a try. And this time,you know what you need to avoid,and you know where to stand. Just give yourself another chance dear,sometimes,it's not everyday that,a right person comes our way. It's worth giving a try...love is always in the air.

Mistakes either break us or make us.. what is important is that we learned from our mistakes. DOnt be afraid to fall in love again as it would only make your life dull and uneasy. i do understand your fears, but you have to move on and try to rebuild your life again and set some goals, and this is best achieved when you have someone by your side who would support you and believe in you...

Love is a great feeling which has to be expressed. If you find it true, never fail to convey, thats a tribute to the love in real.Yes am in true love and its a feeling of happiness life long.

Don't start a new relationship if your not ready :) And if your ready try to find the right one. :)