Why people find it hard to understand other people's feelings?
@sweetdevil_142 (109)
India
March 23, 2010 12:06pm CST
I just saw this discussion here that basically said that i can not be friends with someone after break up and concluded it with "Any one who can be friends with their ex must never have been in love with them."
I would not hide the fact that i m totally pissed off by that discussion. Why can't people accept everyone is different and just because they don't do what you do does not mean they are wrong!!! Why does everything have to be either black or white?
9 responses
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
Maybe one of you (or both) have misunderstood each other's point. Sometimes the only way to understand people is to agree to disagree. Just accept the fact that people are different and have different beliefs. I personally think I cannot be good friends with someone I have been in love with and had hurt me - I'd be friends with him yeah, casually I mean, but not like best friends. It would be easier if it was the other way around, we fell in love but I was the one who hurt him - but then again, I probably wasn't that deeply in love to begin with that's why I was capable of hurting him. Not I'm beginning to go off topic. LoL. Maybe accepting the fact that not all people could or would understand others anyway, so there's no need to figure it out why they don't.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
LoL. You sound like you're still in love with your ex...or maybe not in love, but you know, love in a different sense. There different ways to love and different kinds of love. You can explain that to the author of the discussion you're talking about. hehe. OH, can I just include this... isn't it when I say I'm only being casual to my ex now, that's sort of a form of love in itself. I don't know what they call it, but it's like a shallow kind of love, appropriate for a stranger / acquaintance ...I think it's more like respect. Something like that. LoL.
@sweetdevil_142 (109)
• India
24 Mar 10
I dont know.. I can't say respect can be called love in anyway. You respect people u love but you can't necessarily love people you respect. And i can say i enjoy the company of an acquaintance or a stranger but its not love. But you can love your friends. Although i haven't experienced that for most friends other than my sister and my ex.
@sweetdevil_142 (109)
• India
23 Mar 10
lol!! yes your reply is kinda off topic but the only thing i wanted to say was.. ok so you can't be friends with your ex!!! why include others!!!! i was deeply in love with my ex but we are best friends. Maybe me and my ex are more forgiving!!! Maybe we understood that we didn't want to hurt each other and whatever we did was just our nature!!
Why don't people talk about themselves rather than tell others that they must not have been in love with their ex.
@thesaiyanprince (542)
• India
23 Mar 10
ya devil...
i hate being generalized... i have my own originality and i am different.. so is my fellow mate..
everyone's individuality and self respect needs to respected..
@sweetdevil_142 (109)
• India
23 Mar 10
Ya.. its so frustrating. and i really want to say maybe you can't be friends with you ex because you can't understand anyone's feelings but your own and not because you loved them so very much.
And thanks for replying to my rant. :D i really appreciate it.
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@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
24 Mar 10
well we really cant dictates everyone as they have their own feelings and thinking. for us that would be out thinking but we cant hold other minds with regards to it. and yes your right that topic is somehow generalize for in fact he can just say based on his his opinion.
@umit_umit (1984)
• India
24 Mar 10
its very true,its very irritating!some people are so weared and they devulge only their mind and dont listen to anybody!and understand the other feelings
@dhablue (122)
• Indonesia
24 Mar 10
nothing ones that could be understanding people feelings except GOD and to be frankly I'm new comer here and in my heart, I don't felt make different between black or white!
@renanpgs (16)
• Brazil
24 Mar 10
I think most do not understand the feelings of others, but each one is unique, has it concepts, i think it will for each person.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
23 Mar 10
There was a saying that we cannot please eveybody. And there is also the truth that most of us don't understand the feelings of others if we cannot put ourselves to them or put their situation to us. It is easier to understand them just by feeling them in their situations and trying to understand them. And the fact that we have our individual differences in many things.
@lowloy (316)
• United States
23 Mar 10
If everything wasin black and white we would be considered robots. We would do the exact same thing everyday nothing would vary. Personally I do not want to be this way. Evidently some people do not know how to forgive. If people do not except the differences in the world they shouls not go outside, answer their phone, or watch television it would probably upset them. Be who you are and don't judge others. people that judge others probably do not have all of the facts.
