Do you listen more or talk more?

Hi, Enix119. Glad to join in your topic. I'm Candy. Actually, I belong to the group of silent type. During conversations, I am inclined to listen to other's talking and laughing and plug a few words myself on their topic from time to time. Well, such situation is not a absolute. Sometimes, If I come across some topic of my taste, I will willing to lead this conversation. By contrast, most of the time, I listen more. Happy mylotting!

For me, listening is just as important as speaking. That is when i communicate or it is not communication for me. Listening is easy. However, one needs to have the patience to actually listen.

I listen more than I talk, I consider myself to be a very supportive hear and often I'm not sure what to say in return but I try my best to give honest advice. I'm not much of a talker, sometimes I am but very rarely will I be the sole of the group. I like taking a back seat :) Both are very important though. It's hard to have a conversation where you don't listen or talk, both is needed.

I usually listen more than talk. if they speak if necessary respond to what people say. I rarely start a conversation, so my friends say, I was a quiet person.

Hi enix, Usually I am more to a listener. I rarely talk much like most of my brothers and cousins. They were more talkative then me. It is not because I want to think about what I am trying to say. It is just because I do not know what to say. I would only talk more when its come to soccer things. It is because I love to talk about this topics and usually never out of idea what to talk.

Yes, you are absolutely right. People think that talking and imposing their ideas on the listeners is their birthright. I hate such people. Talk as much as you want, but trying to dominate and imposing your idea is a strict no no with me. I am a Financial Adviser., so obviously, I have to have good listening skills and try not to show my impatience with the boring talk some clients do. Listening too has its disadvantages, in that, you are considered weak. So, there is a limit to just listening. Sometimes, you do need to draw a line and stop the other guy and you start talking!!!!

Well it depends on situations also. I like to listen more and more and try to stay silent while i am with strangers or newly met friends but in my familiar friends and family i talk so much and i can talk anything in any mode coz i know they really know me and they will never judge me by my this kind of free talks while on the other hand newly met peoples mostly judge others by their talking style. Me also try to judge others through this way and try to observe them silently.

I'm willing to listen to a point, but the only way to have a conversation is for all parties to participate. If I'm willing to listen to the other person, I expect that person to show me the same courtesy.

listening and talking are communication lines and channels of discussion.some talk more and listen less. some listen more and talk less. if everyone is talking at the same time, who is listening. i often go to a cofeeshop to take a cup of tea while waiting for my transportation of waiting for a friend. as i am alone i used to watch the tables nearby. more often then not, one of the members is domineering the conconversation. she talks on and on and the others just listen. some nod their heads, some smile while others concentrate on their drinks. at the end, when everything is over, they all got up and leave. i do not call this 2 way communications as one aunt just dominate the conversation. to me communication is 2 ways and there are feedbacks. that is healthy conversation. some people they just listen and listen, hardly talk unless you ask of them. they belong to the introvert and quite group. another group is rather noisy, talk loudly, laugh and even thump the table. it takes all kinds of people in the coffeeshop. that is life in the communication arena.

I usually listen more than talk. I have always been kind of shy and I don't talk much. I have some friends that talk so much, I couldn't if I wanted to.LOL. I like to listen and then if I have an opinion or something to add to the conversation I will. I guess my quiet ways are why I seem to have so many friends that talk so much. People that like to talk a lot, need someone to listen to them. Some people just seem to like to hear their own voice though. They talk and talk and don't say anything!

It depends on whom I talking to or in discussion with. If I am in discussion with my senior definitely will have no choice other then listening:). I like to listen in most of the cases because if we listen properly , most of the things are answered by the time person has completed his statement. If I interrupt someone before he has finished his statement, I may miss some important things. Silence is golden.

I think a listener, its better to listen first than if ask I will give my opinion. I find that my friend often come to me and tell their problem with tears and I try to hear it with my heart. I try not to judge them for what they have do because I think its their life and they has to made all the decisions for them self, not me!

hi, enix. I usually choice different strategy to different communications. When I take part in a disscussion for bussiness I try to listen more instead of talking. But when I talk with my friends I usually keep talking.

I had better like listen and replay answer that I listen!

I I usually talk more.. I get very animated and into what I am talking about. Usually family members. We are all pretty opinionated! I know the basic skills of communication and it usually works. Sometimes I get so excited and I don't listen. You are supposed to review what has been said. I think this is the best tip.

Hi enix! And welcome to mylot! I try to be a good listener whenever my friends need me to be. But, sometimes they yell at me and say that I don't listen because I am too busy talking! I do talk alot, but I am only trying to give them feedback and alot of times that isn't really what they want! They just want a sounding board, with no real responses and if that's what they want then they sure know that I am not the right person to be talking to in the first place!lol My friends are very opinionated and basically have big mouths! So, it isn't easy to just listen!

I tend to do both depending on a situation. But it is always to keep and equal share in a conversation you don't want to be tagged as a person who talks a lot and never listens that would really be bad. I really observe a good conversation and by good meaning keeping an equal share or be attentive to the situation you are in. You cannot talk a lot when someone is sharing a problem and you cannot be the listener if you are the one having a problem and wanting to share it.

I would have to say it depends upon the situation and what the person needs at the time.... I am a good listener when needed but give advice when asked so I guess you can say I am kind of both.

i am a typical backroom guy, who'd prefer to be the listener rather than the one doing the front act. the world is full of talkers and less of listeners, causing imbalance, even disagreements. as you say, listening and talking are basic skills, i call them components -- one cannot be without the other -- i would rather join the minority crowd of listeners. you know, sometimes, those who talk less have more substance than those who talk a lot and are noisier than meaningful.

It depends on my mood. I do mostly talk more than listen however... I'm the kind of guys who talks "all" the time I always start new interesting discussions in "real" life, but in myLot I only respond to discussions...