To work or not to work..? that is the question

I am not only a working mom, I am also a father of my son. Because I am a single parent so I dont have any choice but to go to work and leave my son in my parents care. I need to look for money to support my sons need and my need as well.

It is hard being a working mom. My best advice is to not rush into it. Maybe continue working until your maternity leave and then you will be better able to make a good decision. See how things go with only one of you working and if you feel like you can leave home with two kids instead of just one. Good luck.

I would love to have a job so I could go to work and earn enough to pay the bills. I have been looking for part time work for what seems like ages now and not been able to land a job at all. In your situation I would think it might be a good plan to continue working until you are about 6 months along, it will give you time to put some money aside for the little one when you are no longer working

become a mother and work very hard indeed. we must be smart to split time. if you can divide the time and can provide quality time, you can work. but not until you are tired of working, you become lazy to care for your child. all depends on your ability. if you feel able, you better work.

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i understand that being a mom is very challenging but i think you must also consider other factors like the financial impact of not having a job but i guess you just have to weigh things if you think it is more important to be at home then you have to stick to it.

Don't you have parents or understanding parents-in-law who would support you?It is always a difficutl proposition for a woman and she can pursue her career , if there is sufficient backup at home.

I know being a mom is really a tough job and you have to maintain two jobs. Your job at home and you job outside the home. But if I am in your situation, I am going to quit my job and take care of my kids. I know its going to be hard to do that but its still an investment if you sacrifice your time for your kids. I think its also an honorable job to do to take care of your kids. If you are worried about quitting your job then you can always look for a homebased job. I recommended this to my sister-in-law since she is also in the same situation like you. She has a baby who's only 6 months old and she thinks that she needs to work to out more money in to their pocket so I encouraged her to stay at home and take care of her child. Family is still more important than getting a job.

hi! yeah you are really right. it's really hard to balance things, most especially when you want to help earning for your family. if you will quit your job, will your husband will able to provide your needs.. but at least you will be the one taking care of your children. (there is no such a best thing for our children but to take care by them by their own mother.) or you will continue your job but you will hire somebody to take care of them. but doing so, i'm sure while you're at work you will be thinking if they eat already, or they are doing good and they are well cared. at first i also experience like yours but at last i decided to take care my baby and get job when by baby can manage herself.

My husband and i believe that it is best for the mum to stay at home. Thank God we have managed all right just with his salary. And i stopped working when i was about 5months pregnant. When my child goes to school i thought i would get back to work but then we discussed that after all i might not remain working for a very long time as we sih to have another baby. So i will most probably go back to work in say 7years time when all the kids will be at school and kind of settled in. We believe that if you as a couple make up your mind and manage finances well you manage to live well even with one salary. The most important thing is care and budgeting. At the end of the day the family benefits from a more comfortable and relaxed atmosphere when the mum is at home rather then spending most of the day at work and the trying to manage the work at home, the cooking, cleaning, playing with kids and so many other necessary tasks. Stress is not good for a family. And noone can take care of the baby better then the mum herself.

Since you're pregnant right now and in the first trimester, it would be a good idea to take things slow. You have to make sure you get lots of rest and nutrition. You will have to go through a rough patch but you have your kids to think about. Maybe you can get a part time job when you're nearing full term. Or you can consider getting a nanny while you're away so that you can focus on earning and saving the money you'll need for when you go on leave to give birth. You have a big responsibility right now and that includes your kids, so I'm sure your husband will understand if you have to cut back on working to take care of yourself and your children. And remember, never go without a prayer! It's the best stress reliever there is so that way you can focus on the other things! Good luck with your baby! Hope everything works out well for you and your family! :)

Hi! you're right being a working mom is not an easy task. i think it is much better if you will quit on your job, stay at home and take care of your child.With that you could spend more time with her. Yes, you could hire helpers but its best when you are the one who take care of your family. You are the only one that can give the best quality of care that they need right?.. Anyway, your husband is there to provide the financial needs of your family so its alright to be a full time mom. :)

I only got a daughter, Before I worked a big company and quite good profit there, but when I am pregancy, I quit the job to be a full time mom, I think all the decision was done by yourself, If you can confident that you can controll well all things, then you can go ahead to be working mom , but you should know that is not easy thing. I quit job for my daughter because I hope I can company my daughter to spend her childhood by myself. because I heard a friend's experience like that, My friend worked quite far away from her hometown and only can come back home once per year, One year, Her son is 4 years old who was taken care by his grandmother, My frind come back her hometown happily and bought a lot of things to her son, and also spend a week to play with her son, When she leave for work, she talked with her son " boy, you should be good, and mom will come back to see you again' can you immagine what her son said. He said " you just go, Grandmohter will look me after". My friend said when she heard that she felt hurt. She think her son did not love her and there is not a good relationship between her and her son.