How did you realize that it was time to settle down ...

sweet story..like - you and me against the world. :-)

That is also the practice of some Chinese and in some parts of Turkey. The family elders look for the prospective groom to match for the daughter, when she reach a certain age. It is good to hear though, that you are given the right to choose which of the men they presented, you like to become a partner. I think that is the most important point there - the freedom to choose.

There were things that you missed out but think of what you have gained in return! 3 beautiful kids! And it doesn't mean that you can not do the things you like to do anymore because you have kids... if you like to further your studies, you can still do that. If you like to travel,go to places, try new thing...you still can. Not alone like when you are single-but with your kids! i think it will be more fun. There are many women settling down young. I have a friend from turkey, she got married at 19, became a mother of 2 kids at 21. One time we talked and compared our lives (bec i got married at 39, became a mother at 40), and she did told me if she was given the chance, she would like to go to school & become a nurse. This is also what i told her, her life dont end just because she is tied down at home with 2 kids. In some ways, if she'll will it, she can still go back to school and be what she want to be. Life does not end with a period. It continues as long as we are alive. We are capable of accomplishing things more than we thought we can. Just give it a push and in time, you'll be rushing to your goal.

We have the same culure when it comes of having a baby out of wedlock. Before it was frowned by forefathers but then as time rolled, people accepted this and even count this as a blessing in some families. I, for one, do not see anything wrong with it. As long as the woman is responsible enough to be a mother, it is not a topic or a debate to argue about. Having a child at age 30 is a good age. I should say, you have chosen this time wisely. By 35, one is already considered high-risk. I agree, too many kids is also too much, with economic crises all over, it is not recommended - not unless one is like A.Jolie who is financially stable to provide the best for all her kids.