Do you have a lot of friends?

That is SO true! That is why I don't have very many friends either! I got burned badly recently and I NEVER want to go through that again!

I have had such a bad time with friendships. I had a best friend since kidnergarten. We did everything together. She now has a son by my aunts husband! When we would go to babysit for my little cousin way back when they were secretly seeing each other. She would always leave me and go off with others. She never really had my back. I had hers. When she told me she was pregnant by my uncle I took her side when my aunt found out. I went in the delivery room with her and everything. She chose someone else to be godmother. That hurt. Mostly because I went against my favorite aunt to protect her and her son. I never let anyone hurt her and she never, ever reciprocated any of it! She actually chose a man over me. I have been thru alot and never once was she there for me. It hurts. I have had one other friendship and after she basically took over my life and began doing all the things that I do. She was supposed to go with me to a bead show. She never came. She got what she wanted she stole my life, my hobbies, etc. She didnt get my man, or my soul so screw her! I have been figuratively beaten by supposed friends. No More! You are lucky to have people that you can call friends. dl

Oh. I am sorry. You've been through a lot of tough times when it comes to friends, dloveli! That's unusual--I mean your friend seeing your uncle. Those are really hurtful situations. I haven't been through anything like that but I know hat hurts a lot.

First of all Cookie, I dont care if you're shy or not that isnt odd. Hell No! What's odd is that people have to be so selfish and cruel. Friendship should be automatic! You shouldnt have to worry about being taken advantage of or hurt by others whom we called friend. It's just wrong! You and I are very similar. I, on the other hand have a bold personality that some misconstrue. I am a talker. Other than that we have the same views on friendships or at least it seems that way. If you are as you say ODD then I have got to be straight out WEIRD! lol If you need a friend, would you consider me? I dont think your odd at all.

Thank you very much! If you are talkative, then why don't you have friends? Many like people who are fun to be with. In my case, people are intimidated by me because of my silence. I knew this because this is what my manager told me in my previous job. And I think it is true. My coworkers were kinda afraid to approach me. I admit I don't open up a lot; I have come to see that as my fault. I am still struggling with that opening-up process. Anyway, thank you again! I'd be GLAD to be your friend, despite the age gap. I'd say I have a good 'social' life online. I have met really good people online, and I am happy with that. I hope I could take those friendships in real life.

If you cant depend on them should they really be called friends? In so many friendships backstabbing occurs and it is a shame that people no longer view friendship as a gift. Sure you can share personal thoughts and experiences with people but if you don't know them well enough you are opening yourself up to these types of situations. I listen to my mother and grandmother talk about their friends and how good they were together. I can honestly say I have experienced this type of loyalty and unconditional camaraderie. I would rather have no one then someone I have to watch or double check their stories. To be quite honest, I think the closest thing to friendships I have is here on myLot. Happy MyLotting dl

You are a good friend to her as well. It is a good thing. If you had asked, she probably would have stood with you, but you are a good enough friend not to ask that. I would say you both are winners in the friend game.

Great point Setsuna! We tend to put the word friend on everything. The word is used way too lightly. Its sad but true that when times get tough everyone runs. Unless there's something in it for them. Nice Huh? Happy MyLotting dl