Do you ever think about an ex, even though you are in a new relationship?
By kainalu55
@kainalu55 (364)
United States
March 24, 2010 7:28pm CST
Are you currently in a relationship, yet you still think about an ex from time to time? Is it wrong to think about an ex, even though you are now with someone else? Is it wrong to think about how that perosn is doing, what they have been up to, etc. How about contacting or reconnecting with this ex? is this wrong?
11 responses
@izziemint (94)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
That ex becomes a part in a life of a person. There is nothing wrong to reconnect with an ex as long as not to go beyond the border. Or to reconnect because the friendship is still there even if the love has gone away. It would be helpful also to move on into another chapter in our life as long as not to make the scenario complicated. Bottom line, is to respect with each other and also to think that someone will be hurt if will go beyond the limit. Moreover, it would be good to open up or to let the partner know in order to avoid conflicts or misunderstandings.
@engrdng06 (248)
• Japan
29 Mar 10
yes sometimes I do especially when I see things that I know he loves and cherish so much before. but I just keep my mouth shut since it would be so unethical telling those things from the past.
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
27 Mar 10
Well, me, I think about my ex even I'm now in a new relationship. I just think of him but not too much, I'm just thinking what if we're still together, what would happen or what will be like, just things like that. I'm weighing my feelings for him if it is still there. I think there's nothing wrong with thinking about the ex, just to be sure that I don't feel anything for him anymore. Well, I think the wrong thing is contacting or reconnecting him.
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
your ex is just a part of your life before. if you had think about your ex there is nothing wrong with that but too much thinking is not good. like if your ex had just move on because you are happy now. if you think you want your ex to be happy after you. it is not bad to think. but if you think your ex that you want to reconnect again it is not a good thing to do. just think of your current relationship.
@chipesterkhan (2925)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
There are always going to be those times when you think about your ex and how he/she is faring. There will be times when you compare your current flame to the old ex and find positives and negatives.
Just don't ever go out of your way to contact the old flame and try to communicate cause that's just asking for trouble.
Plus it's unfair to the person your with.
@egonzales921 (172)
• Philippines
28 Mar 10
I left my ex over the one i'm with now. He is a good man it's just that I don't feel I still love him anymore. I think of him sometimes because i want him to be happy the way I am now. I want him to have his own family and start a good life.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
Its ok to think about your ex. But it also depends on what you're thinking about him or her. If you are thinking to get even since he or she hurt you, then that you be ok. Seriously, if you are thinking about your ex and trying to remember the times you had together, think about how it will make your present relationship better. If its not going to help you and your present relationship then there's no reason why you should still think about it. I mean, why would you still care for your ex when you already have a new guy or new gal to think about?
My husband's ex still trying to make connections and we think its not a very good thing that she's doing cause she wants to prove that she's better than me, well, if the case is like that then it should be stopped. She's totally out of her mind and of course you couldnt just let anything like that happen, right? Its ok to make communication but you still have to consider whether it would be decent to do that.
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
25 Mar 10
I have only 1 ex bf, our relationship lasted only for 3 months. He's 5 years younger than me. I am in a relationship right now for almost 6 years and I can say that I rarely think of him. Since we have a short span of being together I cannot remember the relationship anymore. Its not wrong to think of your ex but what is wrong is to still wanting to reconnect or contacting them if you are in a relationship.
@artsyfartsygypsy (755)
• Canada
25 Mar 10
I dont think it's wrong to think, it's natural. I think that it's unfair to the new relationship however when you love the ex more and would prefer to be with them - at that point I think you should move on from all romantic relationships and just work on yourself and moving on from this ex.
Contacting and reconnecting, again, is not a bad thing. In fact it's natural to want to. When you give someone a part of you in that way and you spent so much time and shared so many memories with that person then it's good. But again, you you still have feelings I dont think that's appropriate and unfair to the relationship your currently in. You have to look at it the other way around from your current relationships point of view.
If this ex is getting in the way of your relationsjuop from either your eyes (if you lookmat it trufully) or his /her view then you shoiuld stop.
@kucluk (33)
• Indonesia
25 Mar 10
sometimes i ever think about ex, but i let it go. my ex is the past and now im relationship, with someone who care of me, and im happy. i think not wrong to contact or reconnect with ex, as long as a friend, not more. and do not let your mind to think more about your ex, especially to compare with our bf/gf/husband/wife now. just face it, this is me with a new life