Why a person gives more preferences to his wife rather then their parents..?

There is nothing wrong in giving preference to his better half.We must respect our parents feelings,not because they spent money on us, but as they are our parents.If parents consider his son/daughter as a profitable investment ,they are to be blamed.

Well it is really but natural that the husband or even the wife give more preference to their partner rather than their parents. It is because their union in marriage made them just one flesh. Nevertheless, it does not mean losing the love for the parents. In my case, of course my priority has always been my immediate family but I don't neglect my duties to my parents. I still give them my support as much as I could.

Many people do not realize that they are supposed to still honor and respect their parents even after marriage while still staying faithful to their marriage vows. Often the spouse may be controlling and not respect this. In as good marriage the couple makes their own home but they do at times include the parents of both in their lives. It need not be daily or even weekly but if a parent needs something, help or is ill. If at all possible the son or daughter should try and be there to help or do what they can. When someone marries they blend families they don't leave the parents behind just to ignore them. They are to honor parents all their life but not give in to unreasonable demands or interferences that are deliberate or cause harm to the marriage. A couple should before marriage discuss family, honor, respect and boundaries when it comes to parents, and even children they have and the place each of the couples family, parents, siblings will have and the importance of their role in their family. Discuss it with the parents as well. If this is done things should go smoother for all. Example; Joe and Jane plan to marry. Joe's mom is a bit controlling and wants to just pop in any time she wants to without notice. Joe and Jane need to be firm and say Mom we love you. But there are times we need our privacy and we require you to call ahead and arrange a visit rather dropping in as you wish. We may have other plans or be busy. Not everything we do is your business. Or Jane's dad might think he can come use Joe's tools and never ask. He needs to be told he has to ask and to make sure to return it when done within a reasonable time. If they want to see grandchildren they should be given times for visitions or outings and special things. Not necessarily weekly and or daily. But as arranged. At the same time a new married couple needs to give their parents time and space as well. They no longer have the right to just show up any time they wish and raid the cupboards and fridge or act like they still live at home.

I think there should be a balance between both, and the parents and the wife in my opinion deserve equal treatment, the parents gives us the life, something extremely important, but our couples are the ones that are with us most of the time, who gave us support, and take care of us when we are sick, so both should be equally important in the life of any person.

Friend, i understand your feelings!. But there is one more reason which is real truth. A wife is second mother for a man. Parents are great, i never disagree. But the rest of his life, he needs a better half. A wife is a better half of a man. She takes the role of a mother. Giving priority to wife is because she comes leaving her parents for man, that is best of woman. When we die, parents will cry in true pain, but equally will the wife who just came half the way in your life and gives a meaning to your life. But at same time, parents feelings should not be hurted too. So man should equally balance both their feelings, as i feel both plays important emotional roles in his life!!

His wife is part of his new life now out from his parents life. Wife has more preferences than parents because she is part of his life to continue his journey in life that's why parents is the second but should not be forgotten like what other people do. If you are a parents you should not count what you have done to your children from they were a baby up to adult..you did it because you love your kids..when they become an adult it's time they have to go on with their life..there are two kinds of situation about this, usually a conflict between wife and parent or husband with parents for one reason..just I don't like him/her..but no matter what the situation..PROPER COMMUNICATION IS ALWAYS THE SOLUTION OF ANY FAMILY CONFLICT. I do balance my relationship well between my husband family and my family, we do have good communication, I always weigh things before anything else.

When I married my ex husband I had to take second place to his mother. I will never make that mistake again.

Wife being the better half and companion for life deserve every right to enjoy utmost preference in individual relationships.

Well my opinion in this matter is both should be justified.Neither parents nor wife should be neglected..And if you can not handle both relation then its better not to get married..as atleast your wife may not suffer. Parents are always with you as they give birth to you and if you are negelected by you parents even if you give importance to them..then what? If you have siblings may me ur parents ignore you sometimes in such cases they may have their own favorites..But still you cannt ignore them. When coming to wife it is better to take care of her as she sacrifised her family and staying with you.It doesnt mean that you completely get surrender to her...in some cases give prefer to her..and in other cases if you think she is wrong take parents decision. I also want to add that wife is going to stay with you than parents..So seeing her problems should be given more important.

Dear friend, The statistics of leaving parents when married is increasing and also the data of separation and divorce too is tremendously increasing in India. Moreover it is also adversely shown that many children are not getting the affection of their father. I hope that joint family system which was prevailed in India upheld the values of relationships and other family values. But later this nuclear family with law gave a worse side to families in India.

It's sad but it is happening. I think it is because the husband considers his wife as his future while his mother or parents as just part of his past. But that should not be the case, right? The relationship between parents and children should not end even after the kids have gone out to have their own families.

well the thing is this that a balance should be there when its qustion of wife she should be first!and when parents they should be first!see sometimes parents tend to be not good to the wife and they emotionally make use of you!its less then the trouble really starts!so one should see for the better!

It is just natural as you grow up to slowly pull away from your parents and go more to your friends and relationships. I think that is why God invented teenagers - by the time the child is at the age that they want to break away, the parent are ready for them to go and can sigh a sigh of relief. And then later as the child matures they can relate on a more mature level.

Wf you do get married, then you kinda have to listen to the wife, because you'r stuck with here. You can listen to both though... Happy myLotting

maybe him is more connected to his wife than his parents