Is it ok to spank your child? When will be the right to do it?

I have a 10 year old girl child but to tell you the truth I have never once spanked her. One stare from me and she would start crying. I really do not understand the need for spanking the child. You should make the child understand that what they have done is wrong. Once they get used to spanking they will become more stubborn so the best way is give them some punishment like not talking to them or not letting them see tv the whole day. Anyway's girl children are basically quiet especially the first born so I do not think you need to worry so much.

You should avoid spanking your children, unless they do consciously something very bad (lie deliberately, steal, be arrogant and spoiled). Otherwise just say the Boogie man will come and take them away from you if they do what they do ;D It had quite affect on me when I were little =D Don't forget though every act has a special meaning on the kid and imprints itself forever in his memory (especially cruelty)...

Hi Chiepao, I won't go as far as to say that spanking is wrong. We all have our own parenting styles and each kid is different so you have to go with what works for you. I raised four and did not use spanking as a means of discipline. That is not to say that I never spanked. It just wasn't how I communicated with my girls. They will tell you that they never got spanked but that isn't true. I did on a couple of occassions swat their little butts. There is no handbook that can tell you just how to discipline your child. Each kid is different and individual. I will say that a temper fit never got any of my kids anything. If one of my kids wanted something and I said "NO" then I might change my mind after thinking it over but certainly not if they threw a fit. I have to say that on the times when I spanked my kids it was more a reaction on my part and not a concious form of discipline. it was very rare and I didn't feel good about it. I don't think it's a good form of discipline. I think you need to let kids know why certain behavior is not ok and not just because they will get a spanking for it.

I'm a strong believer in time out, 1 min for each year old they are. I have a very well behaved 6 year old. I also have a 1 year old, time out is alittle harder at that age so with him its more about repation, and instead of just yelling no, take them and get them involved in something else, do this enough times and normally they will get the point that they shouldnt be doing whaever it is.....I say normally because I can not get my 1 year old to relize he is no allowed on mommys computer! LOL

I think its okay to spank the kids as long as it didnt bruised him or something. I have a friend who spanks her kids really hard that they end up bruised. I think that was child abuse already. I wanted to tell her but there's no more chance of telling her. Kids are naturally naughty. Its part of their lives being kids. As adults then you should act like adult when we handle them. I think it would be too childish if you hurt the kids cause you cant tolerate the naughty behavior. For me, reasons for spanking kids is when they do things you told them not to do and when they say something bad. Its enough for them to feel a little pain but too much is not enough. I think the kids also need to understand why they were spanked.

see you said that you are a mother of 3 month child in her childhood she is not only may be she is too naughty that you get her complaints or sometime you frustrate from her and say anything or ma be slap her but saying that learning a discipline to just a 3 months child is wrong let it be of 7-8 months then you taught about the displine but rember when you teach her about discipline don't get angry on her and learn her the discipline in playing through this a child may recognize that what we have to do or not rest is on you this is my opinion.

No spanking is not the solution to bring out the disciplinary act in the kids. I dont believe will that work away. Kids will learn many things on their own. We spank the kid not out of anger, just because we cannot bring them under control, so we find it thats the way.