would you consider this a conflict of interest

1. You like and have confidence in that counsellor. 2. SHE would know whether or not there would be conflict of interest or potential problems. 3. Would Dearra know she is your counsellor? If so, it could affect HER and make her less free with confidences. 4. Would it be possible for Dearra to meet a couple of them (or at least have information/photo etc) and make her own decision? It is essential that Dearra likes and has confidence in her counsellor. My thoughts would be that a different counsellor would be better - one who could assess Dearra's problems without pre-conceived ideas of what could be having an effect on her. I am sure that any child counsellor would also want to talk with you anyway.

Hi Dawn, out here family and family friends take on the role of counselors. I know very few who are divorced, and the one I know better didnt see any counsellor. Obviously, the elders have their set ideas, and will not be able to resolve the problem in their old fashioned ways. They tend to look at the monetary angle only. Coming to counseling for your daughter, I feel it is better if she meets this counselor. This is because when you take her to another counselor, the counselor is bound to get some hints on the situation at home, and might ask you to shed some light. You might not be able to clearly explain but the other counselor would know it already, and can therefore, address the problem in the right way. :) I do differ from Hatley on this. But then, I am not the wisest. :)

I would think that Dearra needs her own counselor, as she has her own problem. Now if, in the long run, if the counsel Dearra sees says she needs to be in family counseling she might be the best choice for all of you.

I don't think it would be detrimental to you or your daughter at all, she is a professional. But it may be beneficial in a way. The counselor would already have a little background about your daughter's parents and their relationship, that could possibly be helpful. It may seem like a bit of a conflict of interest but nothing awful or negative. Like you said - you know her, like her and trust her and it's nice to be able to say that about someone who your daughter's going to start seeing.

i think if she is a counselor she must be related to some psychiatry and i think if you are happy with her then you could atleast take a chance. but i think also that she is not just specialized in marriage problems and also if the school has chosen her for your child then you could take a chance atleast.

Most likely the counselor will not accept your daughter as a client since you are seeing her for a different reason. I think that it would be a conflict of interest if she is already seeing you. You can ask her for her recommendations for a good child psychologist. I'm sure she knows one or two.

I would think that Dearra needs her own counselor, as she has her own problem. Now if, in the long run, if the counsel Dearra sees says she needs to be in family counseling she might be the best choice for all of you.

hi dawnald I dont think so as when the school system when my son was little insisted we see a counselor, psychologist he saw us by ourselves then my son by himself, and he did not feel this was wrong. He did agree' with me that my son did not have adf whatever that the school officals thought that any kid that fidgeted had, and he did not need to be those pills, what he needed was to be moved into a gifted childrens program. once there he really bloomed , he made straight a's andnobody complained about him being hyperactive or anything else. The counselor was just talking to us about my son's school problem, our marriage was fine, thank heaven for that.