My friend keeps on falling for the wrong man
@researchconsult (37)
Philippines
March 25, 2010 10:41pm CST
My best friend is an attractive, sensible and smart lady. But when it comes to her love life, she goes nuts for the wrong guy everytime. She first fell in love with a married man and she bore a child with him. She has had no communications with him after she gave birth. It was a very painful but learning experience for her and I thought she learned her lesson. But right now, she's seeing another married guy. and what's worst is that I know this guy quite well because he is our common friend. I know that this guy will only tear her apart again and just take advantage of her. I tried telling her that but she's too in love to take my advice in. I really fear for her but she just seem too naive to see that the guy only wants to get in her pants. What can I tell her to convince her to stop seeing this jerk?
9 responses
@silverjapan (233)
• Romania
26 Mar 10
Who cares, let her chose whoever she wants, you're not her mom.
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
Jealousy and envy sometimes is the main cause of fighting of neighbors. Being envy is not good and being materialistic is can cause frustration. At least she realize that she was wrong for hurting your mother and you succeed in life because you persevere and dream to your family.
@zashimi (148)
• Philippines
27 Mar 10
As her friend, you can only advice and not force her to do as you wish. She is a grown woman who knows what she is doing, even though she doesn't seem to. She made a mistake the first time, but she did not learn her lesson that she found herself in the same situation. Let her make her mistakes, only she can tell when enough is enough.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
26 Mar 10
Just be her friend, she's going to need you at some point! Perhaps if she exercised just a little common sense. If he will cheat on his wife with her, he'll cheat on her with someone else!
@deejays1974 (210)
• Philippines
27 Mar 10
You can only do so much convincing. Your friend has to realize this on her own. Advice her every now and then. Be a good friend to her by being there is she falls. If only we can trip her and knock her off her senses so that she could see the error of her ways, wouldn't that be great?
@umit_umit (1984)
• India
26 Mar 10
well the wrong one only lure a pretty girl by showing his styles,intelligence,and some smartness and the girls are crazy for it.now it should be their understanding!as its true that the style and the wrong person is more to be liked then the simple one this is the world today!from inside we like to go astray!what do you say?
@missmartass (20)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
Yeah..this kind of situations always happens. You have to let her recall about the past guy that she's been with, try talk to her about the possibility that the past will happen to her again if she don't stops. If she still don't listen to you...well i guess you've given your best shot to be her die hard friend. If she's really smart she would definitely listen to you, she is too old to make her own decision and if she wants to make another mistake again that's up to her, the important is you were there in times of her worst.
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
You cant do anything about it, because it is your friend's mind and heart. No matter how you explain on it, she will let it pass to her ears. Being in love is also like being deaf and blind, you cant see the wrong effects on it though you already committed a mistake. Your friend soon will realize it when it's too late, And for you, as a friend, must always there behind here back when things are not in proper places again.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
My sister is also in the same situation. I just dont know why she keeps on falling for the wrong boys. My sister is already in her mid-30's and she never had a boyfriend. She ready to have one of course cause she's really successful. She dated some guys before but they turned out to be freaks because they were more concerned about their pride rather than working out for the things that they need to work out for if the guy is really serious about having a relationship. This happened many times to my sister and I feel bad for the guys. I dont feel bad for her at all cause I know Mr. Right is just there somewhere, he hasnt found my sister yet.
@jinjer168 (1596)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
Tell your bestfriend to concentrate on her work and her child
than falling in love again with another married man.
Explain to her that falling for a married man is a big mistake
that she will surely face and that the pain she had experienced before will be dobled this time.
Tell her to wait and concentrate with herself and her baby first,
then look forward for a new love afterwards, with a good guy of course
