How do you feel if your best friends fall in love with a person that you dislike

Hi Lang, It's okay friend. i will not bother. it's her life and if she's happy that's more important than what i feel. i will understand her and give her partner a chance...maybe in the long run i will be able to appreciate him. but it will surely take time hehehehehe!

its not my life actually as its my friend's life so whatever makes her happy then who am i to stop it even though i hate the guy unless the guy is a criminal or have a criminal record then maybe and not because i just dont like him as maybe my opinion will be different to other people, it will be depends to my friend if she will continue or not though i might just going to say i dont like him but if she like him then give him a try. we dont really interfere with our personal love life unless one of us ask for help then thats the only time we do some action.

Life is funny that way. People, no matter how close they are, tend to see different things in any given person. I try to live by The Golden Rule.(Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.) I would definitely wish my friend well but I would also point out the things (in as tactful a way as I could)I find negative about this person. I would want my friend to treat me this way if the situation were reversed.

If you are a true friend, remain so and keep your mouth shut about how YOU feel about her boyfriend. It's her business and not yours. Being a friend does not give anyone the right or privilege of running their friends lives. It means if she needs you, you are there and it also means giving her space when it's needed.

One of my friends, has the same incident. She likes the guy whom I really don't like but she is in love with him. I can't help it. I told her already that the guy is not good but she says that she loves him a lot and finally I have to accept that she has fallen in love and in love you can't help it. If she truly love him I can only pray for her that the guy has the same feeling for her. I can only wish her lucks.

well i think that you stop and think our you really best friends and if you our best friends would tell her how you feel because a friend will point out all his bad habits because love is blind but if she really likes him you need to try and like him for her but if you feel that you really can like him then stay away and go on with your own life and let her live hers

Well, I've been into this situation once. I just told my best friends how much I dislike that guy for her but she still refuses to let go of that boy, so I just accept it, if that's what makes her happy, then I won't decide for her.

the fact that she is your friend means only two things: you can try to do everything you can so that everything would work out well for her in the end or if nothing happens with this then you can resort to the other thing a true friend does: accept her for whatever would become of her.

It is your bestfriend's choice so i think you should respect her decision even if you dislike this boy and she fall in love with him, we can't help. ^^ We don't choose who to love.

true its very awkward when your best friend is with someone whom you don't really like (not hatred huh),, but if you really want your friend to be happy, then let it be. don't be self-centered regarding your emotions, it's your friend who will love that person, NOT YOU!!! BUT still, if that person hurts your friend's feelings, then its time to bring the axe down and rip the person into pieces. =)heheh --i understand what you feel, try to be FRIENDLIER to that person, maybe you'll discover, he's not bad after all.. .. ..perhaps there is a CERTAIN trait your friend discovered regarding that person, and as a friend, discover it for yourself and then judge. (life can turn upside down)

I already experienced this one. It's not easy to see my friend in the arms of the person I really don't like. But since I value my friend, I always want her to be happy. Her happiness is what matters most and not my personal opinion. As long as this man is not hurting her and he's truly in love with my friend, I can still like him for her (just for my friend's sake). I prefer to say the good things about this guy whenever someone asks my views. This is because it is much better if other people around them will be happy for them too.

If I am you, I will tell the friends that why you dislike him, then you ask your friend's opinion, If your friend can accept that, I think it is ok, Because that is her relationship there, It is not good thing to talk more because that her privacy, As a friend you already share your opinion with her. The decision was done by her.

I do:)well i can not tell her that i don`t really like her new boyfriend,cause when she is in love she won`t listen to you even if she asked you about it she just want you to agree with her not to say yes or no:)all i can do is say say that if the rest good for you then what can i do go a head but for sure i ll stay back from them,may be just say sorry i am so busy right now,or i just can go with you or even can you leave me a lone at the moment when you can spend time with him to know more about him or anything ya...i just stay a way:)to save my own feeling

I know exactly how you feel. My bestfriend years ago was in a relationship with a guy that i completely hated! but at the end of the day it was her decission and i respected that. So we came to an agreement. the agreement was that she wouldnt bring him around me. months later she ended the relationship. I guess she found out thathe wasnt a good person. Hate to say i told her so =)

It happened to me before and you know I did what you did too. I just send her my best wishes. When we are together all the words that coming through her mouth was him and what he did to make her happy. Because I dislike the guy i found the conversation annoying. Since then I never get out with her anymore, because I know what will happen he will still talk about this guy again. She was curious that I don't want to be with her, but i did not tell her the truth. I just discontinue keeping in touch with her. That was long time ago. I am just seeing the scenario of mine will be the same as yours. I also did not tell the truth to my bestfriend so that she will not bad that I don't like her guy. I just kept quiet and move away from her.

I think you should have been honest with her in the first place. You didn't have to tell her that she was wrong, but that you don't care for the guy yourself. I have told others that I don't care for their mate, or think that they are good enough for them, or such. But you also have to support your friend's decision or risk losing that friend. It is a difficult thing to do, but you have to realize that you aren't going to agree on everything or everyone. The same thing happens with the friends who your children choose.......my sons in law are NOT ones who I would choose for my daughters, but I am NOT the one married to them. Grin and bear it!

I think you should give them space. Sure the boy and you might not get along but your friend likes him and apparently he likes her back so you should support her choice. If he's a horrible person and treats her badly then you should say something but if he's a good boyfriend to her then they should be together. If you object to her relationship then it might cause problems to your friendship. My best friend had disliked this girl that a good friend of us were dating and he stopped seeing us so he can be with her. Now even when they are broken up, that boy isn't close friends with us anymore. Friendship should come first but it's not always that way.

Personally, I would tell her how you feel. I don't know why so many people are afraid to be honest with their friends about anything for fear of losing their frienship. If you lose their freinship for being honest, really, what kind of a freindship did you have anyway? I don't want false freindships, but real ones. Naturally, you can still wish her the best of luck. You can still hope for a good future for her and tell her so. Maybe he will be nicer to her than he has been towards you in the past. Or to whomever he hasn't been nice to that you witnessed. Sometimes people change. Sometimes love changes them. It is still her decision and so long as she is made aware that you will respect her decision and wish her well, regardless, she shouldn't have a problem with it. She should respect you more for being honest, but at the same time still supporting her decisions.

Hey langjipingzong! This is a very difficult problem. You say this person is your best friend so you don't want to make her feel badly. If she likes this person and you don't I think that you did the right thing by not saying anything to her, at least not yet! If he isn't a nice person then hopefully she will find this out on her own! This way you will still be able to stay friends with her if she has problems and she needs you. Maybe she will realize that he isn't what she thinks he is! But, for now I would let her just talk and you listen!

One of my best guy friends has always had girlfriends who I haven't liked. I never let him know though because I figured that the relationships made him happy and that was all that really mattered. I couldn't tell if I just wanted him to be with someone who I felt was most deserving of him or if I was a little bit jealous because it took his friendship and attention away from me. I would be supportive in your friend's decision unless the relationship changes her for the worst.