can we change our selves if we really are determined to change

I absolutely think yes. If we really are determined to change we can do it, also with the help of the people around us. I am also a person who believes in what you believe.

yes i do agree to what you are saying. it is in the will of the person to change, where change will only occur. if one person told you that he/she will change yet you don't see any effort of changing. that would mean that he/she does not want to change or he/she forgot that he/she needs to change. in addition, it's not only the will of the person to change the only factor we need to consider. but also the effort of reminding him/her that she need to change. not everytime. but time to time. :)

Cool , i always believe with determined and hardwork , you can change everything ! the fate is your hands , don't let fate control over you !

it seems as we get older a lot of us become very set in our ways and in a way stubborn and opposed to change so if one of us really wants to change it is all about the person that wants to change to be able to make a change in either their behavior or their job and whatever else it is that they want to change about either their life or themselves. I think you really have to want to better yourself if you are going to make changes that will last or that will improve your life as a whole and you have to really want to do it or you will just resort back to the way you were living before and all of that effort would be for nothing. If you really want to change something about yourself you just have to focus on what it is you want to change and will yourself to do it and if you want to do it bad enough we can make that change stick. I wanted to make a small change myself recently I wanted to change how I slept I was tired of not being able to sleep at night and tired of feeling so crappy, because I was not getting enough sleep at night now I know in the realm of things this is not a very big life changing type of thing, but it was important to me so I decided that I would start getting up earlier in the morning and doing more throughout my day thus making me more tired at night and enabling me to get a better nights sleep when it is time to go to sleep and so far for over a week I have been able to do so and I really seem to like this better. I think we all become creatures of habit after a long time and it is hard for us to make changes, but if we want something bad enough and are willing to work at it any goal in life or a change in your life is a reachable one just make sure it is something that it is withing your power to be able to do and you can make it happen.

Well, i have a belief that we can always change easily. Yes i did and i changed myself, self developed and improved my career path and achieved my goals. But one thing we cant change, i mean we can change 80% but not 20% is our character or i can say attitude. Without our knowledge we will get our old habits or character as certain things are from birth, but however we can change 80% with full determination.

I think it is very difficult to change oneself without a great inspiration from someone or due to some miracle or some events. For me i was totally changed by Jesus Christ. And i have known Jesus changing many people like St. Peter and all the disciples, St Paul(from persecutor to protector), and many more. We can also change ourselves by trying to be good or impress some one, but i think that wont last long unless their is a great miracle. Not only in Christianity, i have known people changing from killer to helper like Ashoka the great. It is not easy to change but we can definitely change ourself.

It may not be easy to change our inborn characters but we can mellow down a bit to suit every situation we are in.

Hi hotsummer, I completely agree with you, change must first come within ourselves. So many people try to change others without realizing that they must first change their attitude toward the world and others. Is it easy to change? No, especially after many years but realizing that we must change is a big step in itself, and it is possible to change if one is willing to work at it. Blessings.

"The best room in this world is the room of improvement".I would like to integrate this to CHANGE.I believe that we can change our lives through changing our characteristics and attitudes.No one can do this to us than ourselves.As we seek for perfection, we will undergo to situations wherein our strengths and weaknesses are manifested.But, that's life, our approach to circumstances will determine how strong our character is and definitely will be reflected to our success in life.It takes courage though to change those things which are difficult to change, but it's a must so that we can have a better, happier, and peaceful life.We need to learn to be broad-minded/open-minded and learn from others too because no man is an island.We don't need to wait for other life to come before you can say that you are happy and has changed.In other words, amidst our struggle to perfection or improving each day our attitude, we can still have the ability to change and be happy.HAppy mylotting!

Attitude is hard to change for it is deeply seated... But It is possible... Very hard but still possible. It takes a lot of personal determination, will, hardwork, patience and discipline. It will also help if we confess it to God and ask him to help us change our bad attitudes and habits. Sometimes we need to surrender ourselves to God, submit so that He can work wonders in our lives... He can change our heart... Sometimes it looks impossible to us but to him not... Just try to look at those ex-convict, some really changed... They start living a new life after they get to know God and admit their mistakes... I mean who would think that they would have a new second chance??? If we cannot do it, God can Hotsummer.

As far as I am concerned, I think we do that come true . I think if we want to change ourselves by heart, then we will do it as we have designed what we are going to be.Then we will change at lats.

hey! they say change is inevitable but sometimes its just hard to change things when you want to! it need a lot of focus and constatnt work! in my case, i would like to control my temper and not shout in the various situations i come acros in life. anger does reduce but then again when i least expect it, i am shouting on top of my lungs! :) i also feel that through patience u can get many things done and win people's hearts too

Hello, This is interesting. Yes I do believe you 'CAN' change your attitude habits etc. I think for some people this isn't something they're able to do on there own, and therefor there is people who can help you with this. All the best!.

Why not? it just takes some determination and alot of guts to change but its very much possible.Now if your having problems regarding changing yourself then you should try and seek help professional help or maybe the help of a good friend ;)

we have the same belief. for me, change is something that should be shown to people so that it ll more likely be an example for them to ignite hope that they too can change. i have always been fond of making fun of people and i like to change that. i know it s not nice but i still do it.

Hi friend, what you are saying is right to some extent. Our core characteristics, are very difficult to change. Particularly the characteristic that we have inharitted frm gene of our Parents. We may try, and may be successful at times, to ensure that the characteristics or the trait does not get display, but to change it totally is i think impossible. In my case it is short temperedness. I know, i need to change that characteristicof my personality, i have tried all means including yoga and dhyana, but i am able to manage reduce the occurances but the basic nature of getting angree, when things do not go as per plan does not go away. With age and experience i have learned to channelise anger for productive purpose, but changing my short temperdness, i could never do.