how to *take it easy* when is not easy.....to take?

[b]Hello Anitarei....it's sad when I hear from someone he/she lost his\her Love.As I have the Bad Experience Too because of Bloody Friends whom I Trusted very much but they Cost me for that Trust.From there onwards I never Trust anybody but still Hurts in some corner of my Heart so I can realize and Feel What Situation you're going from!We can call it as a Time of "Bad Period" in our Life. In such Situation you should: 1)First and Foremost Keep your Head Cool.Yes It does Affect the Situation and Specially on you. 2)In such Bad Period Whatever we may do we feel unsatisfied and angryful with us.So Don't Expect much from yourself in such situations as you might be not 100%. 3)Leave everything to The Ultimate GOD who creates you and on whom you have Full Belief,If you are a non Truste of God then Trust on the Ultimate soul which resides in you. 4)Try to Avoid angry and Anxious attitude at that Time and watch comedy shows to Divert your Mind.it will change your mind and feels you Joyfull. 5)Belive or not But the whole situation which Happens with you is because of your thoughts like Law of Attraction what you think you will get the same.So Change your Thinking and expect much what you indeed wants to happen with you.Consistently repeating What you want to your mind,So it gets Clear in your mind and such Situation will Produce. Trust me It will Works If You're Serious to Change your Life with the Company of Happiness and Joy.[/b]

There is always good with bad and bad with good. You are in a low moment in your life...It will not stay that way. After the initial shock, you may have already noticed, life gets easier as we settle into repetition. Never dwell on it. Always remember, though, how mistakes (on both sides) came about. Like learning anything else. sort the good thoughts from the bad. If you don't, you may remain vulnerable to negative influences...including, but not limited to, remembering and dwelling; do not linger too long...move on. If for nothing else, move on your kids. do not let depression rule your life!

It's really hard to take it easy when the pain is still there. You have to cry it out, cry it out all day long...then tomorrow, start your day head up and move on. Someday, somehow you'll forget all about him. And when you look back you'll regret that you have cried over him. Just look forward and wish that you can find someone worthy and deserving of your love. Smile

Hi anitarei. If you choose to follow my advice, please remember to take my advice seriously because I mean it especially the first one. 1. Pray. Pray hard. Tell the Lord everything that's happened in your life, tell him about what you lost, tell him how you feel. Let him know how you felt when you guys left each other, let Him know what you want most in life. Thank him for letting you be strong enough to live through this, ask him for more strength if needed. Ask him to guide you so that you won't feel bad anymore. As him to give you the courage and strength that you'll need to recover from what happened. 2. Cry. Cry very hard. Cry for all the things you've lost, cry for the relationship that you might never see again, cry for losing the man that you loved with all your heart. Let it all out. Give yourself a headache over crying. It can take 3 days, 5 days, an entire week. But each time you cry each day will be shorter and shorter. Once you've done that, then you will be able to focus on more important things. Like your children. 3. Focus on the most important thing in your life, focus on your responsibilities. It will be a bit boring because you're starting anew. So there are things you'll have to attend to, possibly responsibilities you weren't able to do properly while you were hurting. Focus on your children and attend to all their needs more than ever just like you attended to your man when you were still together. Now, there will be only one area to pour your attention into. 4. Make sure you love yourself. Imagine if you were your friend and you saw your friend hurt, crying and ugly because of all the stress. You dont' want to see that. You want to see yourself happy, and busy, and happy. And finally pray some more. ;-) There. That should keep you occupied for a while long enough to get over the break up. Goodluck! and of course there's still myLot. So you can add that to your list! :D

For me, first I will release all my evils, all that are bugging my head, then I will start to look on the bright side, my life will not stop just because something bad happens. You will take it easy by thinking of the problem less, and make yourself busy by socializing with your friends and other loved ones.

well..that actually hurts..i also experienced losing someone i love..it's really not easy..but you have to move on and continue living..you can't stop your life just because of him..maybe he's not the one for you..there will come a time that the one meant for you will come to you.. as of the moment..try to be busy and let anything except him occupy your mind..so that you can forget about him..but you shouldn't over work yourself..take care of your self.. how to take it easy? well..tell yourself that you can do it..be positive..and i know you can overcome it..:)

I understand how you feel but take your time to put yourself back together. Your life should not revolve on the person right now. I can see that you are thinking about him, that is already the past. You mentioned about your children, think about them and their future. Re-connect with friends and relatives. Ask for the wisdom of elders and gain spiritual inspiration too. Love your self, get a makeover and if you need to eliminate some "things" that makes you think of him, try to do so. You will feel better. Time heals all wounds.

I know that's its not easy. I can't tell you take it easy.. I just want to let you know that you have friends here and we will always be willing to listen to any problems you may have. What your going through is hard. But if you can't learn to just let it go, it will haunt your for the rest...

No, we cant be so easy in life always, as life is both good and bad. But we can use this term take it easy at extreme stress, where you are over burden with worries and dont find a solution at all. Then say take it easy, even this situation will not last longer. U would have faced lots of problems at young age, but sadness passed. Then again u were happpy with your love for few days, happiness is passed. So nothing can stay longer..just take it easy and divert your mind on peaceful things.

hi! i know your situation. it's really hard to forget. but all you have to do now is to move on. just think about your children, they needed you to be strong. they needed you most this time. i saw your profile, saw your picture with your kids. they're cute, and they're hurting too. so just think about them, that they need your strength most this time. you can do it girl! cheer up!

i think is not easy to forget a man who you love.

Taking it easy, for me means to think of a way to be free from the pain your in. Don't stumble to the pressure. My advice is find an inspiration, your kids maybe.. God won't give you problems that you can't handle. You just have to trust in him and yourself. Sooner or later you will find a way. I'm sure :) So take it easy, is not just relax and do nothing. Taking it easy is taking a hold of yourself and not stumbling in the problem :) - We can be friends if you need someone to talk too..

Just don't think of the words, just do what you think is best for you to get over things at the moment. Nobody says it's easy to think of forgetting someone right now when your heart is not ready yet, just do one step at a time...

i'm feelin' what your feelin'. but you know anitarei321. it's not the end of the world. you don't need to be sad at all times. "there's a lot of guys out there." your love is not the only guy in the world. we are many. (including me coz i'm a guy. but i'm taken.) but. keep your head up. i see that "take it easy" won't help you. but just smile for a second or show others that you are happy to be with them. even your friends know what you feel. but what they are doing is to cheer you up. because if they comfort you and ask you what happen that will make you much much sad. for me, just smile. think of all the positive things that happened now. its not that your love is your life. their just a part of your big big life. so live life. keep your head up. SMILE!! LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST!!! :)

I know how you feel and it's not easy to deal after break ups. I surely know as time goes by you won't hurt much and you will get over it. Your heart will heal. For the mean time do something that you love to do. It is not good that you build your world around him. Hang around with your friends after work and try to make new male friends. Believe in yourself that you will meet your true love.